Anxiety! I know its normal but...... help

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kdenter
kdenter Member Posts: 11
edited June 2014 in IBC (Inflammatory Breast Cancer)

Everyone in my family is telling me to chill. You don't know anything yet. They are concerned to, but they are saying being negative and stressing out is not making it better. How do I calm it down?

I'm still waiting for approval to see a breast specialist.

I'm now visualizing all the lumps in bumps in body as something. And the hip and lower back that hurts from slipping and falling on cement last year, and this and that!!! My list is growing! IS this normal? Am I just being overly crazy? I know that waiting is hard. And not knowing....... I keep looking at the spot and feeling(what they say they said was a hematoma(sp), which I know I should leave it alone to! Tell me I'm not crazy! And that this is normal to be paranoid? I break out in crying spells and then I'm like ok I can do this whatever the outcome I can do it! 

You are all so courageous! And whether or not this is my life, I just want you all to know that after reading all these posts, that you are the best bunch of gals! And very strong! And have made me appreciate all I have had in my life! :)

Hugs, Kerri 

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  • LiveStrongMom311
    LiveStrongMom311 Member Posts: 56
    edited November 2010

    *Hugs*

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  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 16,818
    edited November 2010

    Hi Kerri, the anxiety that you are feeling is absolutely normal and you are not paranoid.  This period before appointments is very hard both physically and mentally and your mind wants to take you to places that scare the heck out of you and every little twinge become the monster.  Please, take a big deep breath and let it out slowly.......now do it again.  All you are managing to do to yourself is get your nerves so tied up in knots its almost impossible to rellax.  The main thing you need to do is to keep saying to yourself that not everything is Breast Cancer and repeat it until you can face a normal day. Take the days one at a time, hour by hour if needed and don't project as that will only make things a whole lot worse.  You family is your best support at the moment, so please lean on them.  Try to stay as busy as possible by doing things you like to do and try to always have some company as this will help to keep you from dwelling on the unknown.  Please let us know what the doc says as we will be thinking of you. Feel free to come to this site anytime you need to as there is always someone here to offer an ear or a shoulder.

    Peace. strength, love n hugs.  chrissyb

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  • kdenter
    kdenter Member Posts: 11
    edited November 2010

    Ty guys!

    And Chrissy what a courageous woman you are. I guess alot of it is my mom lost her battle with breast cancer, not Inflammatory but the other in 2006. So it weighs heavy on me... So my mind just runs wild right now..... Hers was a like yours. ER+ PR+, HER2-. She first was diagnosed at 45 with first stage. It returned 4th stage about 5 yrs later after she went off of Tamoxifin. Anyway!

    But you are right! DEEP breathes.... until I see the DR. Still waiting for that ok to the breast specialist.

    And trying to remember not every red patch or lump is cancer! ANd not every ache and pain is! You are so wonderful with your words! Thank you!!!

    I will keep you posted!

    HUGSSSSSSS!!!!

    Kerri 

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  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 16,818
    edited November 2010

    I'm sorry to hear about your mum Kerri and no wonder your mind took wings!  I completely understand.  The advice is still the same, one day a time, stay busy, deep breaths and not everything is BC.  You have the mantra?......good girl.  Stay in touch.  Oh...thanks for the hugs.....love 'em...lol

    Peace, strength, love n hugs.  chrissy

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  • Lowrider54
    Lowrider54 Member Posts: 2,721
    edited November 2010

    Oh, there is just no chilling until you find out what is going on...even if you can chill on the outside, your insides will get all balled up. 

    I am trying NOT to have scanxiety and on the outside it is fine but on the inside - I think I am doomed to have my irritable bowels keep me running for the bathroom until the end of next month when the scans will tell me if I stay on what I am or rads or has the time for chemo come.  And I am on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds!

    This crap sucks!

    Hang in there Kerri...you will know soon and once a plan is in place, you will find yourself taking control and moving forward. 

    And true, not every ache and pain is cancer - I was having such headaches and was sure my bone mets was heading to my brain - well, I have a regular old sinus infection and a round or two of antibiotics and I will be good as new - well, as good as my new normal is anyway!

    Hugs...LowRider

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