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  • Sugar77
    Sugar77 Member Posts: 2,138
    edited October 2010

    laurajane - just a drop in to say I'm thinking of you.  The ladies here have given you some wonderful advice and they are right...no doctor can put a time limit on things. 

  • Teka
    Teka Member Posts: 10,052
    edited February 2012

    Hi! laurajane,

    Doctors at BC Research Center will be more open with your personal doctor while discussing BC treatment.   Surgery Tuesday?

  • gillyone
    gillyone Member Posts: 1,727
    edited October 2010

    (((Laurajane))) I have no words - these wonderful ladies have said it all. Just know we are in your corner.

  • jenn3
    jenn3 Member Posts: 3,316
    edited October 2010

    Laurajane - just wanted to pop in and let you know I'm thinking of you.

  • cc4npg
    cc4npg Member Posts: 764
    edited October 2010

    I'm home from my bilateral, very sore, but preliminary results indicate NO lymph node involvement.  They took 3 out, and they say the preliminary results are about 95% correct.

    Laurajane:  I woke up from surgery praying for you.. as odd as it sounds, you were on my mind immediately.  You've been in my prayers constantly.  Please don't give up.  Have you tried calling the Cancer Treatment Centers of America?  Your surgery is Tuesday, right?  I will continue praying for you.

  • Lynn18
    Lynn18 Member Posts: 416
    edited October 2010

    cc4npg:  I bet you are glad to be home after your surgery.   Sounds like it went well.  Hoping you heal quickly.

    Monika:  Looks like you and I will have surgery on the same day.

    Laurajane:  I hope your personal doc was able to get some information for you from the research center.  It sounds like he really looks out for you.

  • Swanny
    Swanny Member Posts: 147
    edited October 2010

    Question - I had a CT Scan before I had surgery and of course the mamogram when I found the lump.  When do we normally have the next CT Scan.  I would think since we are TN and our BC is aggressive we would have another CT scan between chemo and radiation?  When has anyone else had a second CT scan or do they not do one unless they feel a lump or some other sign of a problem.  Curious as to what is next and how they are going to keep an eye on this "aggressive" cancer.  Can anyone tell me what their experience has been? 

    LJ - You are in my thoughts.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2011
  • kad22
    kad22 Member Posts: 191
    edited October 2010

    Laurajane: so sorry and angry to hear what those doctors have told you!! My mom was told 3months and lives 20+ yrs!! Don't believe or give in to time length of what doctors say! I think sometimes it is mind over matter and you need to FIGHT!!! I agree gets more tests done before you decide anything! You are young and need to fight this with everything and miracles can happen! ((((HUGS))) Your daughter sounds like the best!

    So I have noticed that almost everyone has the diagnosis of IDC - I have DCIS? What is the difference? I know I should know but my chemo brain is getting the better of me! Plus I was reading an article in HEALTH and there is a doctor who is fighting for the 50+ rule of getting mammos and she said in this article that those of us with DCIS shouldn't be considered having cancer! WTF?! Then why did I have a bi-lateral mas. and 6 months of chemo?!! Too confused right now?

  • tatasista
    tatasista Member Posts: 7
    edited October 2010

    Dr.'s deal with science...they look at numbers and averages....While we are looking at LIFE and LIVING...no Dr. has the RIGHT to tell any of us how long we have to live....I too am a spiritual person and only God can take us and only God knows how much time I have left on this earth....I sorta see it this way though....it is not a matter of how much time I have to be here but it matters how I use the time I have here...Live on and Live Strong....Good luck LJ on this journey explore every option available and when life smakes you in the face smack it right back....Keep on fighting on you are in my thoughts and prayers...

  • retrievermom
    retrievermom Member Posts: 522
    edited February 2011

    Laurajane:  I am so sorry to hear what the doc said, but am of the same mind as others who have already posted.   I realize one day at a time can be difficult considering the shock they've given you, but they truly can't put a timeline on your life.  They are dealing with statistics.  Scary ones, but still, they're stats.  Sending love and concern your way.

  • Sugar77
    Sugar77 Member Posts: 2,138
    edited October 2010

    tatasista - well said!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2011

    kad22- DCIS is Ductal Carcinoma in situ- it means the cancer does not have an invasive component (InvasiveDC), though some become invasive (science does not yet know which may become invasive and which will not).

    The prognosis is usually much better for in situ, though it can progress. Some in the medical field feel it is more of a "pre" cancer than cancer itself. You probably had a bi-lateral because the DCIS was spread throughout your breasts, so it was safer to remove them than to risk missing a progression to IDC.

    This is a really simplistic answer; it's late and I've had a long day but I figured I'd chime in since I was working online for my Naturalist course. 

  • Titan
    Titan Member Posts: 2,956
    edited October 2010

    LJ...can I say bull..well..crap?    Your BS is indeed  BS!  They don't know anything unless you have had tests!  Have you had any other symptoms besides that f'ing tumor and your nodes?  Cough, back pain, bone pain, vision problems, headaches..haven't heard you say anything about those...alot of people have cancer in their nodes...and while it is an issue..it doesn't mean you are going to die tomorrow or even soon!

    I love my breast surgeon..but..when it comes down to it..my ONCOLOGIST is the one that I listen too..he or she is the one that knows cancer and what to do it about it...

    Please flip off your BS next time you see him..from me...

    Love you sweetie..hang in there..and try to get some sleep..I know it won't be easy..drink alot of wine or something...but try.go out doing your landscaping thing and wear yourself out or can something...I just wish I could bring you into my house and hang out with you...sometimes I hate this cyberspace..when sometimes what we need is a little human contact.

  • laurajane
    laurajane Member Posts: 321
    edited October 2010

    Hi all thank-you for all of your wonderful thoughts and prayers.

    My Doc called me this evening and said he talked to everyone he could think of calling including the BCRC. The pain I am experiencing will only get worse if I don't have the surgery. He said that it is highly possible that in only a few weeks it could become unbearable. So I will have the surgery on Tuesday and wait until I come to the next road. The oncs at the BCRC said that because of my immediate resistance to Taxol that they did not have a guarantee on any kind of chemo available to me at this time. Cisplatinin would give me a remission but they could not say if it would be for a week , month or more. The quote was "A year or more would be challenging". I am so happy for all of you that had complete recovery from Taxol. As we all are I am praying for a cure for those of us that don't. 

    The best thing that happened to me tonight was that when I was in the restroom earlier I had a sudden profound thought and that was how can I feel this good right this minute physically and have such a short prognosis. I am going to love every minute I have feeling this good or at least try. 

  • Titan
    Titan Member Posts: 2,956
    edited October 2010

    Ok..deep breath...surgery on Tuesday...we will be with you all the way...what exactly are you having done?

  • Teka
    Teka Member Posts: 10,052
    edited February 2012

    laurajane,

    Your personal doctor got back to you before the weekend.   What a doctor.   I hope you've a restful weekend.

  • laurajane
    laurajane Member Posts: 321
    edited October 2010

    Titan- I am having a MX and lymph removal. For those of you that have had this done. Do you recommend anything I should prepare to have ready for when I get home. Will I need a nurse or whatever. My daughter will plan on being here. The drains etc chance of infection all of that stuff kind of scares me. My surgeon talked so fast when I was with him and I also have such a difficult time understanding him. He has a real strong accent. I did get a couple of hours of sleep tonight. I wake up feeling like I am wasting time sleeping. Crazy is probably the best way to describe my state right now.

    Teka- You are right, My personal doc who is also a dear friend is a pain in the arse to the oncs, surgeons etc. The nurse at my surgeons office made a rude comment about him when I was there on Thursday. When I asked after waiting 3 hrs how long it would be to see the surgeon she made a sarcastic remark about how I didn't actually have an appt that  my doc insisted I get in that day and they had to figure out how to squeeze me in  and how I was screwing up the schedule as it was. Titan and many of you would of been proud of me for the way I handled that comment from her. I wish everyone had someone as caring and knowledgeable as my doc in their lives. He was so saddened to give me the info he had found out today. He ended the conversation with "it is in Gods hands". TIme for me to start praying. Well it's almost 5AM I am finally starting to feel a little drowsy. I guess I should say good morning everyone hope you have a fabulous day!

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited October 2010

    LJ, everytime I hear disturbing news here, I feel like I am hearing it about my sister.  You are no exception.  For the past 24 hours I have wondered what my choices would be, and what I would be feeling.  You have every right to feel crazy, and I can so relate to you feeling that sleep is wasting time.  BUT rest will also keep you in a better frame of mind.

    I only had a partial Mx, and really have no advice other than some I heard here.  One of our sisters said it was nice to have one of those big wedge pillows to sleep somewhat upright at the beginning, because raising herself from flat off the bed was less than comfortable.  Take your daughter with you to any more appointments, and have her take notes as to what care you will require.  It is so difficult to remember things when you are getting such news, and deciphering an accent makes is all the more tough.

    I willl be keeping you in my prayers.

    {{{{{{Laurajane}}}}}

    Meece

  • TiffanyF4
    TiffanyF4 Member Posts: 171
    edited October 2010
    laurajane I think I might get in my car and go stomp that receptionist it would make me feel better anyway LOL! You have some AMAZING women here in your corner. Don't accept what they are telling you just yet. Have your surgery get 50 opinions if you have too!  Just remember that God can do medical miracles I have seen it with my own eyes! Find your guidance within your faith. {{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}
  • TiffanyF4
    TiffanyF4 Member Posts: 171
    edited October 2010

    Oh Laurajane I have a MX in Sept of 09 so any specific question just PM me if you would like.

  • NavyMom
    NavyMom Member Posts: 1,099
    edited October 2010

    I have been off the boards while visiting my son and his family.  I am sorry to hear your news, LJ.  Sending good thoughts and prayers your way.  I just don't know what else to say.  As far as what to expect after MX......Have lots of pillows handy.  And get a pen and paper in the bathroom where you will be emptying your drains.  The surgeon will need to know how much drainage you have post op before the drains can be removed.   Take your pain meds before it gets out of control and have OTC stool softeners at the ready.   All simple things that help the initial post op week or two go a little better. 

    Swanny, you asked about CT scans.  My onc orders a PET scan everysix months.  I have also read on the here that some do not have any scans at all.  Just monitor any symptoms. 

    Welcome to all the new ladies.

    Navymom

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2011
    lj- look up Modified Citrus Pectin on the American Cancer Society's website. Supposed to catch any rogue cancer cells that may sneak off during surgery.
  • MonikaV
    MonikaV Member Posts: 201
    edited October 2010

    Lynn 18 where are you having your surgery done?

  • MonikaV
    MonikaV Member Posts: 201
    edited October 2010

     Question to all of you.... My friend 's sister in law found a lump in her breast.... Went out and purchased health insurance. Few days later went to the doctor for a physical ,then biopsy all that good stuff. She needs chemo. She received a letter yesterday that the insurance is cancelling her due to pre existing condition. My question is: she still needs the treatment. Is there any programs that any of you know about that can help her get the treatments? Please let me know.

    Have a good weekend everyone. 

    Monika

  • NavyMom
    NavyMom Member Posts: 1,099
    edited October 2010

    Have her check with the American cancer society.  Also what ever meds/chemo she needs she will have to contact the company that makes the drug and get ahold of their financial assistance department.  Every drug company has a way to get patients help.  There will be a mountain of paperwork BUT there is help out there.  Also make an appt to see the ONCs billing director.  And talk over a payment plan.  Frequently if the billing dept talks to the Doc about lack of insurance the Doc will cut the rate if the pt is willing to set up a little payment plan.  I worked in an MD office for many years and this is how it worked there.   A sweet squeeky wheel gets the grease!  Best of luck to her.  If I think of anything else I will PM you

  • swiftbird
    swiftbird Member Posts: 177
    edited October 2010

    laurajane, as many have said more eloquently here, you have a legion of women out here in your corner and throwing out positive thoughts and prayers on your behalf.  I remember when I was diagnosed, I didn't sleep for weeks it seemed - I thought I'd be depressed and want to sleep but instead, it was the opposite and I didn't want to waste time sleeping.  I hear having a really great recliner/rocker chair is very helpful to have after MX.  I just have to wonder whether after surgery why they can't try carbo or other regime; my onc just put me on it, there was no trial... Have they said what the plan is after surgery?  

    Wishing everyone a SE free weekend. I myself am dealing with fire-armpit-from-hell (one more rad; then 6 boosts) but I am fine with it, as long as it's terrorizing any potential rogue cells... Sugar, love your do!! 

  • Titan
    Titan Member Posts: 2,956
    edited October 2010

    Swiftbird...when I had rads I really didn't have any issues except for an area breaking through due to the boosts...keep those creams on..also you probably arent wearing a bra but if you are..don't...we went to the beach right after rads were done and though I covered the area it got lots of fresh ocean air..plus I didn't wear a bra all week..I was healed up in no time..my onc was amazed at how well my breast looked..in fact I cancelled my year appt. with the rad onc...no issues..can't see spending the co-pay...

    Monika..your question was answered but can I say that insurance companies can suck?  I thought that Obama fixed that preexisting crap.

    Hey LJ..thinking of you..Tuesday can't come quick enough..I honestly feel that once this is done and a plan is in place your "expiration date" will be a long time coming...I feel it and I know it..! 

  • jenn3
    jenn3 Member Posts: 3,316
    edited October 2010

    LJ - know that we'll all be waiting in that waiting room with your daughter.......holding her hand as well as yours.  I had a bilat mx and it really wasn't as bad as I thought and the drains weren't too bad, more of a huge annoyance.  I showered from day one, using a big safety pin, pinning the drains to a 1-1 1/2 inch ribbon tied around my neck.  I wore loose clothing and used a large body pillow to keep me from accidentally rolling over in my sleep.  (((hugs))). 

    Monika - a friend at work has a relative that is facing a cancer recurrance and is uninsured because her husband had been laid off and they hadn't been able to get insurance.  They were very concerned and worried because they do have retirement accounts, savings and various properties, but didn't want to drain their resources right away.  It turns out that the same place I was treated does have a grant program and they will be eligible, the social worker is also putting them in touch with other programs for medication as well.  Have your friend talk to the social worker at the hospital, they are connected to the many programs offered.  If the social worker doesn't know, talk to the onc or his nurse - they can help.

  • kad22
    kad22 Member Posts: 191
    edited October 2010

    Oh Laurajane - I wish I was there to give you big hugs!! Get through this surgery and then worry about everything else - I know eaiser said then done but try!! I had a BMX and it wasn't as bad as I thought - the worst part was dealing with the drains but I did it by myself. Have something comfortable and button up to wear home. I also heard a chair would have worked better for me to sleep in but don't own one! Just take the pain meds and sleep. I know you are saying that sleeping feels like a waste of time but sleep heals the body so try to as best as you can!

    Monika - how can it be a pre-existing condition when she didn't have doctors confirmation that it was there yet??

    Have a good weekend - it is beautiful here in WI. ((HUGS))

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