What do I say to my girlfriend about her fears ?

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tony513
tony513 Member Posts: 2
edited June 2014 in Not Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastases but Concerned
What do I say to my girlfriend about her fears ?
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  • tony513
    tony513 Member Posts: 2
    edited October 2010

    Please see my profile.

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  • apple
    apple Member Posts: 7,799
    edited August 2013

    offer to help her with breast exams.  read how to examine breasts carefully on the web.  steer her to this forum.  education and knowledge are great weapons against the beast.

    best of luck to the both of you.

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  • chicago-37
    chicago-37 Member Posts: 101
    edited October 2010

    Tony,

      If I were you, I wouldn't say anything about her fears.  She is living through something that is hard for anybody else to understand.  Even when I hear my husband try to be positive it is grating on me.  I would suggest to be there for her, and understand that it is scary.  Try to show her there are other things to live for and that there is a lot to life besides fear.  She needs to change her mindset herself...and trust me...I haven't been able to change my mindset. :(

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  • Bren-2007
    Bren-2007 Member Posts: 6,241
    edited October 2010

    Hi Tony ... your girlfriend is still recovering from her diagnosis and treatment.  It takes awhile for the fear to ease up a little.

    When I would share my fears with my husband ... bless his heart .. he would tell me it's not coming back or to think positively.  He thought he was helping me, but what I really wanted was for him to say, "I understand your fears ... I don't want it to come back either."

    Sometimes all we women want is our fears to be acknowledged.  That's all.

    Please encourage her to join one of the discussion forums here.  She would receive all kinds of support from other gals who have been through it.

    You're a wonderful guy for wanting to support and encourage your girlfriend.

    Please let us know how things are going.

    Bren

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