just diagnosed...whats next
Hi everyone, My doctor called 2 days ago after my stereotactic biopsy telling me that I have dcis-high grade. She said i will have the area removed and then radiation. She also said that there will be another biopsy after they remove the area. I'm assuming they will be checking for any invasive cells, I'm also going to have snb on the day of surgery. I'm so overwhelmed by this and scared right now. Whats next for me, how did you all cope? I feel so alone and hopeless, it seems like a death sentence to me. I'm 30 with 2 little ones.
Thank you
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Dear Zlota,
Just want to let you know that you are not alone! The beginning is so hard! Sending you lots of light, love and support sister!! xo
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Zlota-- I'm sorry you're joining us, but this is a good resource. I only discovered it after I had my surgeries and wish I had known about it to better prepare myself with questions for all my doctors. I was 43 at diagnosis, and with a small child so I was very worried. My BS recommends that anyone under 50, even without a known family history, do genetic testing. This helped me decide if I should do a uni or bilateral mastectomy (I tested BRCA negative but my grandfather had pancreatic cancer and I think there are gene mutations left to be discovered). I also had issues about tamoxifen (clotting factors) so in the end I went with the bilateral rather than take the drug to prevent bc in the remaining breast. While I waited for my surgery, I got a 2nd opinion-- the other BS verified everything the first told me, but it just made me feel better about my decisions. After the surgery I had a 2nd opinion on the path report to be sure everything was caught, and I had a second opinion from an oncologist (different hospital) to be sure I had the right follow-up plan. It's overwhelming having to navigate all of these doctors and tests, so always bring someone with you to listen and take notes and ask all the questions you want-- 2 yrs later I'm still asking questions about my path report because I was too emotionally drained to think clearly at the time. I also talked to a lot of women about their reconstruction and what the surgeries were like so I wouldn't be surprised by anything-- some even share their pictures.
I did all my crying in the car so my daughter wouldn't see me. I also exercised my arms a lot (swimming is great) before surgery because the SNB leaves you with a stiff arm-- get physical therapy when the BS gives you the all clear-- it feels wonderful (massages) and you regain mobility much sooner-- and the PT will talk to you about reducing your risk of lymphedema (removing nodes, even sentinel nodes, does put us at risk, though our drs. always downplay this).
I don't mean to overwhelm you-- I just want you to feel prepared at your next office visit. Please keep us posted.--Julie
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This is not a death sentence. Breathe Breathe alot...long slow breaths. The begining is the worst part. The waiting can seem like forever. Search on here for post by Betsie sign is a bee. She know so much about DCIS. Hang there...you will get to the other side.
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it wasnt that long ago that your post sounded like me. It is the most frightening part, the beginning. none of us wants to be here. so research and research and talk to people and find the right doctors that you feel comforable with. If i didnt go the city for my treatment i wouldnt have been able to do mammosite (for older women with small size cancer)... radiation... Always in the back of my mind is that will the cancer grow to stage IV. it is unlikely. and you will live to tell your children about this. but it changes YOUR life forever. changes in lifestyle and changes in how you think about the future.. but you have a future...
my first thoughts when I heard cancer was to take them both off.. who needs them.. but i knew that after time,,,,,, it woul dbe harder to move on and with research that it was overly dramatic.. so i had a lump and a week of radiation and tamoxifin.. and feeling great. My surgery was mid June.. End of July i was sipping Pina Coladas on the Key west beaches.( you will read a lot about whether to drink - i dont drink often but damn it i am going to drink when the situation is perfect and it was perfect)...
we are here...
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Hi Ziota.....First of all, I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this....But...The beginning is hte hardest....So many questoins and feeling out of control of your life.....Please take a deep breath, and know that DCIS is NOT life-threatening....and is nearly 100% curable.
You have come to exactly the right place....This forum is a lifesaver....So many good people, and there is a lot of good information. You can count on us to be with you...You are definitely NOT alone....We've all been where you are now, so we know exactly what you are going though.....
God Bless,
Sandy from Cincinnati
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It's absolutely normal to be scared, a little panic stricken and overwhelmed at this point, but this is not a death sentence! Take a deep breath and exhale, three times.
I was diagnosed 5 years ago, grade 3 with comedo cells and necrosis. Had a lumpectomy, rads and finished up my five years of tamoxifen the beginning of July. I am doing fine.
I do think the genetic testing is in order, and because of your age I would also want a bilateral MRI, if you have not already had one.
Education is key, but I advise sticking with the main sites, like this one, Komen, ACS and Living Beyond Breast Cancer. One of my favorite sites when I was diagnosed was dcis.info. Ask for and keep a file of all pathology reports and any others from the time you are diagnosed. There will be two pathology reports, the initial from the biopsy, and the report from your excisional. You may very well want that information years from now. This is recommended by the National Cancer Institute and many of the cancer advocacy groups as too many cancer survivors do not have the information to share with doctors treating other aspects of your health years after treatment ends. Watch some funny movies, do retail therapy, get a massage or a mani-pedi. Humor is wonderful medicine, and it really helps to get pampered during this stressful time. Cyber hug!
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Thank you so much everyone, do you know how often the initial pathology report changes after you have your lumpectomy, Im afraid that it might be more serious than just dcis
Thanks for listening and sorry for being so paranoid
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zlota,
the beginning is the highest anxiety. i can't answer that question about the change after lumpectomy, sorry.
what i do want to say is 1) get a second opinion----no matter what! {my first breast surgeon (BS) is top of the line in NJ and most dr's wives in the area go to her and i still went for a second opinion.} 2) absolutely ask for an MRI of both breasts. 3) take someone with you to your appointments that can keep it together and pay attention. if you can't take someone with you, bring a tape recorder. 4) keep the war stories that non breast cancer people tell you at bay and do not let those stories sink into your head---everyone is different.
my BS and Oncologist told me in the beginning to take one thing at a time. whatever is on hand for that day, focus on what needs to be done.
i was a nervous wreck and couldn't do research. my friend researched like crazy when she was diagnosed so everyone is different. you have to do what feels right for you.
take one minute at a time. try like anything to keep the sad thoughts out of your head. they will do you no good.
you are so not alone but it could definitely feel that way although you're surrounded by love and support from your family & friends. take one thing at a time. good luck.
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Hi again all, having surgery on monday so scared...
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cs34 where do you live? you mentioned nj, i live in westfield nj
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i live in Edison. i am going to PM you my email and phone number if you'd like to talk. if not, no pressure.
dr susan mcmannus in somerset. her office number is 732-846-3300 if you'd like to give a call.
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Hi zlota,
Your situation is just like mine..I just diagnosed with DCIS too..I am 52 and so alone except my husband..I am so far away from my family and feeling so depressed..I would like to hear from everyone here who has the same situation like ours..Am so scared to death too..Me, i have to wait for another 3 weeks for the surgery, because i developed a lump after the stereotactic biopsy and my BS told me to wait till the lump subside because it will interfere with the removal of the tissue around the area where they saw cancer cells..I have pain in my breast and back going to my arms constantly..I don't know if this is due to my biopsy procedure..I am praying for you that everything will be fine..Please keep posted so i can get some info on what to do too..It's killing me slowly knowing that cancer is the death sentence for me..Please keep in mind that you are not alone and am thankful that everyone here is very supportive..Please help us get through this..My prayers to all!..GOD BLESS!
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linfer7358- I'm having my surgery on monday, my doctor is moving fast cause I asked her to get me into surgery asap, I'm also thinking death sentence.... I don't know why, this fear is killing me, not knowing for sure for you have is even worst. I'm 30 and initial report says high grade dcis. My doctor is very optimistic but I'm scared just like you, where do you live?
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I live in Massachusetts how about you?..Keep positive, i know its easy to say, i am too scared to death but I trust God..I am praying for you too because we are on the same situation..Mine too is not that sure, coz the surgeon told me that he doesnt know up to what extend the cancer cells has in my breast because its in the end of the film..And he said that he can't be sure if there is invasive kind of cells inside so its freaking me out..I cry a lot, knowing that something would get wrong and everything will crash..I am also so weak but i try to be strong to fight this..Hold on to almighty God that nothing is very serious in your part..I hope yours too would just DCIS coz they said its still curable..I really understand your feeling..We'll be praying for you..Keep posting!..Take care and GOD BLESS!
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Dear Zlota, I agree with many others here: the beginning is the hardest. You will slowly but surely get more control over the situation, and I hope it feels better when you and your doctor have agreed on a treatment plan. I got DCIS high grade too, and panicked when I got the diagnosis. The first week with all questions and fears was the worst. My advice would be to try to focus on one step at a time. And keep in mind that this is not at all a death sentence - you will get through this! All the best, Maria
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Ziota,
I just bumped a post from Beesie on understanding DCIS. Look under the threads for it. You'll find it full of information and reassurance.
Best,
Amy
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Ziota
Senting you positive and healing thoughts today...Let us hear from you. You will get through this
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Zlota, Sending you positive energy that all went well with today's surgery. Yes, been there too, and I cannot stress enough how much comfort I found to post and read posts during the waiting time between surgery and final pathology report (seemed like years, think it was ~2.5 weeks or so).
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Zlota and Linfer-
My heart is breaking, reading your posts. I know how hard it is hearing the words, YOU HAVE CANCER..I was diagnosed with DCIS-High grade on May 3rd of this year. SInce then I've had 2 lumpectomies-first one didn't get clear margins and showed some invasive cancer-2nd lumpectomy I got clear margins- Sentinel Node biospy showed isolated tumor cells in 1 out of 3 nodes. Got an infection and had to go back in to clean out excision.Doctors are all still very positive and keep assuring me that I am "lucky" to have DCIS. Next step is radiation, so far no chemo required and 5 years of tamoxifen. I was terrified at first, but truly Breast Cancer is not necessarily the death sentence it used to be. Many women(and men) beat this beast everyday!! It's not a piece of cake but it is doable!!
Hang in there. Lots of Love. Carolyn
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Carolyn, sorry that you've had to join us but I'm glad that you found us. I'm a bit confused by something you said though. You mentioned that during your first lumpectomy, some invasive cancer was found. But then you said that your doctors are assuring you that you are lucky to have DCIS. If some invasive cancer was found, then your diagnosis is no longer DCIS. I know this because that's my situation too. I had a 1mm microinvasion of invasive cancer, along with over 7cm of DCIS, and my diagnosis is Stage I T1mic. This is called DCIS with a Microinvasion, but it's actually an IDC diagnosis; it's not DCIS, which is always Stage 0.
For those of us with even the tiniest amount of invasive cancer, no matter how much DCIS we have, our diagnosis and staging changes. The good news is that with early Stage I invasive cancer, with a T1mic (1mm or smaller) or T1a (>1mm but no >than 5mm) tumor, the prognosis is still excellent.
zlota, you've received a lot of great advice. To your question, my understanding is that the initial diagnosis changes from DCIS to something more serious after surgery in about 15% - 20% of cases. Most of the time - about 80% - 90% of the time - all that is found is a microinvasion or a very small amount of invasive cancer (no more than a T1a tumor). If that happens, it's unlikely to effect your treatment plan, and as I mentioned to Carolyn, those who have this type of diagnosis still have an excellent prognosis. (((Hugs))) to you, and hope all went well with your surgery!
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hello all, no surgery for me today, right before they took me in today they did another mammo and found more clcifications at 9 o'clock position ( originally I only had them at 6 o'clock) so my surgery got cancelled and what they did was another stereo biopsy on the new area ( all in same breast) ans waiting for results tomorrow. The bs said that if that area is positive I will have mx next week with reconstruction cause they can't do lumpectomy in 3 areas on my breast. I got so upset, cried for 3 hours and now I'm hoping that these new calcifications that they didn't see before are nothing but it is so hard to have hope after all this time. I was hoping that I will have some idea of whats going on in my breast after this surgery but guess not...
Even more scared now and overwhelmed, mx how do I cope with this?
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Zlota - I'm trying to put the right words together, something that I would have wanted to read when my BS told me that I was going to have to go under general again because some IDC was found in my supposed-to-be-only-DCIS lumpectomy pathology and they now needed to check my nodes-- something to help one catch their breath. This is such a head spinning process, just when you feel as though you're able to comprehend the news, then BAM something hits that throws one off again.
What I can say is that this is truly among the worst time in the process. Testing, testing, more testing, and waiting for results. But it is so much better to get this information up front, before moving forward with a plan. My BS insisted that I undergo genetic testing, in addition to both stereo and MRI biopsies, and although the waiting was really hard, it did help to better understand what we were dealing with in my breast. Once the plan is in place and you are actively moving forward, you just go into a mode -- a surviver mode -- and the doctors do their things. I promise you that you will get through this awful process and in not too long, you will be like me and the others here, and you will be through it and aching when you read a post from someone who is beginning the process.
Will be thinking of you as you await the stereo results.
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Zlota,
just wanted to say that i was thinking of you the past few days. i am so sorry for the recent news you received. i know that must have been so hard since you were preparing for surgery to be monday. my heart goes out to you any change in a plan is difficult you will get through this! it is such a hard time, the waiting for answers and waiting for a plan! but CTMOM is right it is better to know upfront rather than going through surgery twice. if mx is decided all of us who have been through it promise to help you cope and get through it. im almost 3 weeks post opp for BMX and im back at work and carring for my eight month old just as i was before. you will be amazed how strong you are once this is all done. hang in there and im praying for you!
Jen:)
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Thank you all you are all amazing, I'm def having mx prob in the next 2 weeks, I met with my plastic surgeon today and I'm having it with immediate reconstruction, I will be having the expander put in.
God only a week ago I was hoping for benign results from my biopsy and today I need to cope with my breast being removed. I feel like somebody kicked me into my stomach and can't breath...
Still worry that my suppose to be only DCIS will turn out to be something more. Anyone with highgrade and no invasive cancer? If they find invasive cells what is the next step, chemo or radiation? I don't have an oncologist yet cause I only have results from my biopsy saying that I have DCIS with necrosis. Do I have any chances of this thing to be only in my ducts or is it starting to spread? The unknown is a killer.
Thank you sos much for everything, I'm having such a bad day today.
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Hi Zlota...I'm so sorry you are having a bad day today. I had DCIS high grade 3 w/comedo necrosis and no invasion in my left breast. I decided to have a BMX May 20th w/tissue expanders because of family history. The biopsy results for the right breast after the BMX showed I had LCIS. In the beginning it was very stressful going through all the tests and waiting for results. But, once I educated myself and got a treatment plan together, I was able to relax a little. I hope and pray that your results will come back that it is pure DCIS. I have surgery next Wed 9/29 to have the right tissue expander put back in. It had to be taken out the end of June because of infection. It's been a little tough here & there but the pain was doable. I thought it was going to be a lot worse. Hang in there!!
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I had Grade 3 with necrosis, no evidence of invasion.
I know you really can't relax until you know what your own pathology report says, but just because you have high grade doesn't mean you already have invasion. Statistically, there's a much greater likelihood that it's still contained in the ducts.
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Zlota - During this process there will be days when you feel like time is just freezing and things are moving so slowly, and then "snap," there are times when you feel like so much has happened in only a few days. Oddly, sometimes you'll feel both ends of the time spectrum within the same day. Quite the head spinner, but you will get through it.
Just keep in mind that even if it turns out that a small amount of IDC is present -- which odds are will not be the case -- chemo. is not a definite sure thing to be prescribed. Such was the case with many many of us on these boards. Yes, it is a shocker to learn that it's not pure DCIS . . . add it to the list of shockers in this process .. but as I've seen others post on these boards, don't go looking for trouble.
Wishing you so much good news in the future.
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