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Well i had a sentinel node biopsy operation on july 9th, i notice the areas a week later was swollen and tender, i went to see the surgeon who said thst it was either a seroma or a hematome at the incision site,He tried to drain it i the office but no pus or fluid came from the sitem he said that it is a hematoma and that my body would get rid of it and not to worry, that it is common.Guess what i am worried.To add to this my BMX is this coming Wed with the TE and i just want to run away from it all.I know that i cannot, but what has me so afraid? Why can i not trust and believe with my whole heart.I have only a couple of days to get it mentally together.I have a 5 year old who i am sure is wondering why is mom acting weird.My emotion are all accross the board.This weekend was my family reunion and of course we talk about BC due to the fact that so far 8 women including me in my family have had this dreadful diagnosis.6 survivors.
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I remember that the time leading up to my surgery was the worst time. The anxiety is overwhelming. Maybe you could ask your doctors for anti-anxiety meds or sleeping pills. I didn't get them until later and when I finally did it helped a lot.
What has you do afraid? Well, I think a lot of us felt that way. My daughter was one when I was diagnosed, my Mother died of BC, and of course the whole thing is life changing.
I no longer feel like this is going to kill me but I admit it took awhile to feel that way. I read all the success stories on here, read the statistics and finally it started to sink it that I will probablly beat this. Obviously there are no guarantees, but there never are.
After your surgery you will probablly have tremendous relief. I know I did. I was so happy that the cancer was out of me.
Good luck to you. I wish you strength in your fight.
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Shadow is completely right. I too was so scared before surgery. So much so, that I asked my surgeon if I would possibly die in surgery. He kind of laughed and said there is less than 1% chance of dying in surgery and it is usually only people who have serious medical conditions (heart problems, diabetes, etc.) To be honest the injection fr the SNB was far worse for me than the actual BMX. I had BMX with immed. recon. I was pleasantly surprised at how easy it was. Don't get me wrong, it's no walk in the park, but it was no where near as bad as I had anticipated. My husband even said, he thought I would be bed-ridden for weeks and I wasn't at all. You will be fine. I don't know how you feel about religion, but my mom brought her preacher to the hospital and the preacher and the doctor and my family all prayed with me just before surgery and it made me surprisingly calmer. This coming from me, who goes to church for holidays and weddings. I am not normally overly religious. Keep us updated. You will be fine. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Take Care. Allison
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Will this be your first real surgery? I ask that because when I had a hysterectomy about 5 years back, I felt just like you. I had never ever had surgery before and I was sooooo scared that I was going to die on the operating table. And of course I couldn't really talk about it with my husband because I was so sure I was going to die and I didn't want him to know. . . .no logical thought as you can see! But this time, I was much calmer and much less worried. I knew that this was not a big deal and that I would be fine. I even insisted on anesthesia for the reexcission versus "the other stuff."
Your fears are normal. If it makes you feel better to have your paperwork in order like will etc, then do it. If it makes you feel better to talk to a priest or the hospital chaplin, then do it. And if it makes you feel better to sit down with a giant bowl of ice cream, do that too!
hang in there --this will pass.
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