Nicest thing someone said to you

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enjoylife
enjoylife Member Posts: 578
edited June 2014 in Humor and Games

Hi I made a thread of worst things someone said to you because I didn't think I would ever be able to post the Nicest thing someone said to me but here goes my hair didn't come in after 2 years past chemo and 1.5 after herceptain its very thin on top I have to use Topeka to put on my bald areas so they don't shine my scalp you can see shinny as my beautiful hair use to be, but I went back to my hometown and my friends husband said stop whining about your hair have you looked in the mirror lately you are a beautiful women I said to my friend he was probably trying to make me feel better and she said he doesn't say things if they aren't true so it made me walk with my head up high and my new chest out so lets see the nice things people have said to you.

Maura

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  • lorrhaw
    lorrhaw Member Posts: 751
    edited July 2010

    "Oh, we were wrong, you don't really have cancer."  Unfortunately that was just a dream but something really nice I would love to have somebody say to me.

    All kidding aside, my husband says something similiar to what your's said and is always telling me how beautiful I look without my wig.

    Lorraine

  • enjoylife
    enjoylife Member Posts: 578
    edited July 2010

    That is nice Lorraine I had dreams before cancer after my friend died form it and I would dream I had it and woke up and it was a dream it was a good feeling not now but I want to be here for many years. It wasnt my husband my friends husband I am alone divorced its lonely at times but I dont have to put on a act for anyone so that is good...take care

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2010

    After my exchange I was kind of depressed about the results (but am much happier now that they're starting to "settle") so was feeling really crummy about myself.  As I was walking into the grocery store a few weeks ago a man was walking out.  He veered over and said, "You are a gorgeous woman" and then kept on walking.  I swear it was an angel sent to tell me things were going to be o.k.  Even if it was just a random act of kindness from a stranger it made me think that maybe what I thought I was seeing in the mirror was not what the rest of the world was seeing.  From that day on I have stopped feeling sorry for myself.

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 8,458
    edited July 2010

    Probably the nicest thing said was...somethng my dh did NOT say.

    Not long after I started treatment we received word that a college friend of his had lost his wife & was bringing her to Israel for burial. I wasn't able to go (too sick from treatments) but my dh went to the funeral. When he came home I asked what had happened to her and he said, "I'm not sure, I think it might have been some form of cancer". Months later I found out she died of bc. I can't begin to imaagine the depths of my dh's pain and fear, but he wouldn't tell me because he didn't want to frighten me.

    We've just recently had our 34th anniversary. I guess you can see why I stick with him.

    Leah

  • enjoylife
    enjoylife Member Posts: 578
    edited July 2010

    Kate33 that was great and I am very self consious too I am hoping someone thinks I am pretty at my sons wedding I am so nervous aabout the way I look thin hair fatter body after 2 years of chemo ending..its hard and I would of been thrilled if that man said that to me he was a angel god sent but he also meant it ...

  • cathmg
    cathmg Member Posts: 278
    edited July 2010

    Hi Enjoylife-I think one of the nicest things someone said during chemo was that I had a nice head and looked good bald!! I wouldn't have thought of that...

    Maybe the nicest thing-my onc said, " I am confident you will do well, the odds are overwhelmingly in your favor..." Love that guy.,

    Congrats on your son's upcoming wedding! I'm so looking forward to that day!

    Catherine

  • hymil
    hymil Member Posts: 826
    edited July 2010

    Here's a real enouragement i got yesterday: "So, have you done all the reconstruction stuff then?"

    Yes i could have hugged her! She made me feel soo good about the fibre-fluff-stuff in my bra (i'm not doing recon) if it looks good enough to be asking that! I have been so worried about how it looks. This lovely woman has also had BC, so maybe she knew what I would be angsting about....

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2010

    enjoylife- I think everyone will be thinking how wonderful it is that you can be at your son's wedding and I know your son will be, too.  It's kind of sad how hard we all are on ourselves.  Isn't it bad enough the cancer was hard on us, especially those who have gone through chemo?  I'm sure you are going to look amazing especially since I know now our happiness is what makes us beautiful!

    I heard a great song today that talks about loving ourselves and I love the line that says "Didn't anyone tell you how wonderful you are?"  I think it should be our mantra!  Here it is for those who want to take a listen on youtube-

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6cgOV9KjW8 

    Happy Day, beautiful ladies of BCO!

    Kate 

  • SunnyCoconut
    SunnyCoconut Member Posts: 350
    edited July 2010

    Beautiful song, Kate!  Thanks for the link.

    When I first started wearing a wig, I got in the elevator with 3 other women around my age.  I felt so self-consious of my stupid wig that I wouldn't even make eye contact.  One of the women says to me "I love your hair".  I looked up in disbelief that someone would be so cruel and realized by the look on her face that she was serious.  She said, "Your highlights are so pretty",  I started laughing and said "It's a wig!"  They were all shocked and I thanked her and told her how much I needed to hear that.

  • ruthbru
    ruthbru Member Posts: 57,235
    edited July 2010

    After my hair grew back enough that I could go without the wig, I was very selfconscious because it was SO short and SO curly. I was shopping a couple days after the 'unveiling' of the new look and the clerk at the store (who didn't know me from Adam) said, "I have got to tell you that you have the CUTEST haircut I have ever seen!!" Then she asked, "Is your hair naturally curly?" I said, "ummm......yes, for now." Which I'm sure rather confused her, but it sure made my day!

  • chob
    chob Member Posts: 14
    edited July 2010

    having my 17 year old daughter and her friend tell me i was bald and beautiful.

  • Cydz
    Cydz Member Posts: 157
    edited July 2010

    I had so much caring support this past year with a bc dx followed immediately by a melanoma dx, it is hard to choose. My favorite I think was when my friends would say," We can do this, we'll get through this..etc."  It helped me feel less alone through the whole process. I also loved in my mother's day card this year from my youngest daughter, she wrote that I had been nothing less than super woman this past year. That was huge coming from a teenager! I have heard alot of horrible, ridiculous things as well, but I am much happier to focus on the positive!

  • hymil
    hymil Member Posts: 826
    edited July 2010

    Here is today's gem: Okay Okay, Don't get your tits in a tangle! Roughly translated, Please calm down, don't panic! I don't think the speaker realised the details of my recent medical history. I still get flustered easily, but I smiled my way through the day thinking, Yes, I will never again get my tits in a tangle.

  • badger
    badger Member Posts: 34,614
    edited July 2010

    I finished chemo six weeks ago. Didn't shave my head but trimmed hair to an inch length.  Most but not all of it fell out so there's a cap of white peach fuzz covering my head.  It's thickening up but I'm living au naturel and still pretty bald... impatiently waiting some new growth.

    Meanwhile, last week at a convenience store, an older lady in line with me said, "I like your hair. I keep mine real short for the summer, too."  She was wearing a short red wig!

    LOL if she thought it was a conscious decision!  Maybe she was a fruitcake, IDK but it still made me smile. I said, "Well, it's a little short for my taste but it'll grow back." 

    Makes me smile to remember it.

  • linker12
    linker12 Member Posts: 16
    edited July 2010

    The nicest thing thing was my sister-in-law said "Damn Cancer!" when I told her I had breast cancer at age 44...for some reason it struck me funny & empathetic. I felt better about laughing at it after that, & that was/is a big thing.

  • ruthbru
    ruthbru Member Posts: 57,235
    edited July 2010

    After I had worked thorughout treatment co-worker commented, "You are one tough lady!" And I thought, "Yes, I am!"

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