What did you do on your Cancerversary
How did you spend your cancerversary? From the first to the most recent? Tomorrow is mine and while I have some plans, would love to hear what you all did...
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When I was diagnosed in April 09, 2009 my 2 cousins were with me during all my consultations. The 3 of us were born 2 weeks apart in 1970. On that day, we vowed to celebrate our 40th birthday together, which we did April 26, 2010. In fact we had a mini family reunion. It was great. I did not even think about my "cancerversary" and I never plan too.
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Oops, I forgot to wish you my best for tomorrow. Whatever you decide to do.
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I cried. It was very traumatic for me, and I didn't think it would be. Maybe it's the dang triple negative thing - perhaps if I am fortunate to have more "trouble-free" years, I will be able to "celebrate" it, as I know I should. I just couldn't this year - it was year one and it hit me hard again.
Happy Cancerversary, littletower - I hope it's a wonderful day!
Linda
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My twin sister and I do sushi each year.
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Not sure just what Hubby and I will do--
It will be three years on July 3.
I cannot believe it has been that long.
Not sure what we will do, but we will do something!@!!!!!
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Not sure just what Hubby and I will do--
It will be three years on July 3.
I cannot believe it has been that long.
Not sure what we will do, but we will do something!@!!!!!
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I just passed my one year cancervrsary. I thought about it all week before the actual date and when the day came, I completely forgot about it. I spent the day running errands and to the show. Came home, sat down and remembered what day it was...........Funny how things happen.
Happy Cancerversary.
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when I hit my 1 year in april, I was a mess. the whole year before I was so strong and really just kept pushing through everything and really never stopped to think about everything happening to me at all. then as I approached the 1 year I turned into a basket case. It came out of no where and it was a very emotional week for me. I honestly just wanted the day to come and go and be over with. I wanted to forget about that past yera and pretend it never happened so getting through my 1 year was not easy for me. My husband made me go out to dinner with hiim and I really didn't want to mark the anniversary at all but he was pretty adament that we celebrate.
Good luck and congrats.
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I got my hair cut on my 1 year anniversary. It was the first time since finishing chemo in June. It felt the right way to celebrate the day.
Karyn
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My first anniversary (this year), my husband and I shared a bottle of champagne.
Happy cancerversary!
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I had CTS surgery on the day before my one year anniversary as I did not want to be at work and in the same place as when I was told I had BC (actually anniversary was a saturday). Don't remember what I did for 2nd anniversary, but for some reason it was hard. Went to visit my folks and a girlfriend around my 3rd anniversary (realized after I booked the trip that I would be flying to my parents then, it wasn't planned) and have not idea what I did this year for year 4, which means I probably did nothing.
Congrats on your one year and I hope it is a good day.
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A couple days after my diagnosis and first chemo I had my daughters high school grad party. It was such a crazy time. Everything was different even though it was all the same. I'm just over two years out and I seem to feel stressed out as this day approaches. Time heals everything and my life is beginning to feel normal again. Enjoy your family and have a great day!
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Happy cancerversary Littletower! And many many many many more cancer free ones!
I just had my first cancerversary the other week and I went to work, did some housework, relaxed with my cat and talked to some friends and coworkers and reflected.....it was a regular day and while I didn't do anything "special"...I did all the "normal" things I couldn't always do when I was having treatment and mentally I was enjoying my day and giving cancer a big middle finger! lol
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I was so busy that I forgot mine completely.
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I got a pedicure with pink ribbons on my big toes and a tattoo!
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I am too superstitious to even look up the exact date; but I know I get edgy the whole month of February (my husband would say crabby!).
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Thanks for all your posts and good wishes. What a wierd f*#ing day...I don't really know what I feel, except I that my pre-"C" life seems very far away indeed.Who I was, how I felt, how much I took for granted, wow. I went bra shopping, kind of a necessity with the dramatic change. Four bras seems like a good start. And I bought shoes, but they were on sale so it hardly counts:) Anyway, it's almost over. And all I can do is pray that there will be many, many more to come. Thanks again friends.
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It definitely messes with your mind. Hang in there, it does get easier as you get a little distance.......Ruth
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My first one was big. We all went out to dinner, my dh, kids, parents, siblings and their families. We had a great big dinner party. My family bought me presents and balloons and a big cake. It was special. My second one was more toned down, just dinner with family.
I also write a special email with more personal feelings about the last year and send it out to my siblings. That's more a my thing.
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just realized i spent the 5th anniversary the same as dx day--on a peaceful river in a canoe with my immediate family--but didn't realize the date, just that life is great.
i was told that cancer would someday be in the rearview mirror of my life, and it is.
live well and take care.
--hattie
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Hey Hattie- I remember you from when I was first dx. (I wasn't much of a poster, have changed my name and have never had a personal avatar so I'm sure you don't remember me).
My cancerversaries - I was in such a fog, I don't remember the exact date. Recently I've chosen 10/31 - 11/1 easy to remember and within a day or two. When I was 5 yrs out, I smiled all day and went lunch with my boss that week. He saw me thru the whole thing. At lunch he cried and told me he was so afraid I was going to die. One of his good friends died from bc. But his mom and both his sisters are longterm survivors!
In my day, I've done som relay for lifes, some Danskin mini-tris. Now I enjoy a simple life and am so glad I have chance. Just like Miss Hattie!
Annie
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My anniversary was October 1st (start of breast cancer awareness month for irony sake) . I took the day off from work and engaged the jewish ritual of mikva. It involves completely immersing ones completely naked body in a natural body of water, while saying prayers, after having completely cleaned oneself and removed anything that might come between the water and your body, even stray hairs from your head. It is most commonly used by married woman to ritually cleanse themselves after their periods so that they may resume marital relations with their husbands. (I did not use if for that but had gone just before my marrage. ) It can be used a way of transitioning from one ritual state to another. The mikva in my neighborhood is very welcoming and beautiful. They were very open to my create my own ritual or using one they had created for healing or graditude. I spend at least 2 hours in the mikva room by myself letting go of the past year and embrasing the rest of my life. I cried and wailed and prayed. It was an extremely powerful experience for me. I tried it again when I was a year out from chemo and it was nice but not nearly as powerful.
My cancerversery also happened to be the second day of Rosh Hashona (the Jewish New Year) and since the Jewish Calendar is lunar and does not match the gregorian one, I actually feel like I have two cancerversaries. But on the second I am usually involved in the holiday which is a joyous celebration of life and a new year, and the start of 10 days of introspection and seeking forgiveness from fellow mortals (including ourselves) before Yom Kippor, the Day of Attonement, which is a bit what dealing with cancer often feels like for me. An acceptance of my mortality which reminds me of the need to do what is really important, such as embrase my loved ones while forgiving and seek forgiveness for all the foibles of being human.
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I have several, the day I found my lump,the day I was diagnosed,the day I had my mastectomy,the days I finished chemo and herceptin and my first year clean mammo.....I do little things for each day,I always buy a plant because the day I was diagnosed I planted a beautiful pink mini rose..not planned..just happened that way, this year it is covered in blooms,have a special dinner,go to a concert,..but this year is my second year and I am going to meet with a plastic surgeon and plan reconstruction!!!
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My first cancerversary is in August and I plan to go skydiving....something I always wanted to do but was going to wait until the kids were grown, just in case. Now, I am thinking, jumping out of a plane is probably not going to be what kills me. Screw you, cancer!
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hmmmm...I've had 7 cancerversaries and am preparing for the 8th. I try to gather up all my bad habits and enjoy them all at once on one day. F you, cancer.
I usually drink my favorite libation, "Knock You Naked Margueritas", which were invented by that amazing American piece of womanhood from Jackson, Mississippi, Jill Connor Browne, author of the Sweet Potato Queens Book of Love. Actually I think the recipe for this fine beverage came from her later book, The Sweet Potato Queens Cookbook and Financial Planner, both fine examples of American Lit. Any Southern girl worth her salt (pun intended) can rattle off this recipe:
Get several large cans of Minute Maid frozen limeade. Defrost one by putting in the fridge, put the others in the freezer for emergencies.Get the cheapest half gallon of tequila you can find, Corona beer, and 7-up. Put the limeade in a nice big pitcher, add a bottle of cold Corona, several cans of tequila measuring from the empty limeade can, and a can of 7-up. Sir well with a long handled spoon and add ice. Put in a pretty salt-rimmed glass and have several of your girlfriends over. Fry up a big mess of bacon. Finish it off with Chocolate Stuff from the SWP's cookbook and financial planner.
As the day progresses, switch to a larger, more user-friendly glass and forget about the damn salt. (I use one of the halves of a cocktail shaker, myself, which is so large I also use it to water my geraniums.) Get one of the emergency Minute Maid limeades out of the freezer and carve out some frozen limeade slush with a spoon and plop it in your glass. Slop some of the other ingredients in and muddle around until it has that sickish green look. Don't worry too much about the stirring, it will all get mixed up in your stomach anyway. No need to worry about the ratio's anymore, either. Later on, it's a nice option just to switch to a Corona or two.
Knock You Naked's is a complete food group what with all the grains that go into the Corona's, the vitamin c from the limeade, and that elusive food group, the Oddly Green Food group. Screw you, cancer.
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Weesa, I love you!
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Weesa
-I actually went to the Sweet potato Queen festival in Jackson. Met the Queen herself and had many drinks at Hal and Mal's.(which by the way is the best bar in America).
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I'll be 4 years with NED on July 24th, and never did anything special for my cancerversaries. I go about my day, and usually just look back on the whole experience, and wonder how did I ever get through it. Sounds kind of boring after what we all have been thru.
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badmamajama, Holysmokes, going to the Sweet Potato Queen Festival (I think it's St. Patrick's day) is on my bucket list. What makes Hal and Mal so special? (As a pub owner, I am curious.)
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Renrel....I was in Israel with my family on the 1st anniversay of finishing chemo and I went a mikva in Tsfat....I didn't spend the amount of time that you did, or have welcoming around me, but it was poweful in itself that to me it celebrated the end of the need to use a mikva...it was something that I felt was important, even though I did not use one prior to this....3 years later, I still think how special it was.
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