UGGHHH SWIMSUIT SEASON!!!!!

I am sorry that you are having a hard time right now.  I think as summer approaches more and more of us will be facing events that in past years seemed so easy to get through but now are monumental tasks because of our newly changing bodies.  I am hoping that as summer gets here  (I live in Vegas so it is right around the corner) that I will have the confidence to enjoy each and every event that presents itself.  I am sure I won't be strutting my stuff in a bikini but I haven't done that for years anyway but am hopeful that I feel strong enough to sit by the pool with just a baseball cap, minus the wig, and let my friends and family see how this disease has changed the outer me, but not the inner me.  In the short time since my diagnosis I have come to appreciate every day and every event as a gift and I don't care if I am bald and already quickly adding pounds from chemo I intend to enjoy every day I have and if other people have a problem with how I look they can go pound sand!

Hi, I am new to this site, I am now 37, I was 29 the first time I was diagnosed and went with bigger breast for my reconstruction, and now rediagnosed at 36,had lots of complications, and hope to have at least some breast when it is all over. I know exactly what you are going through, unfortunately, this other female probably doesn't have a clue, and although I doubt she is intentionally being cruel, I know how it hurts. Men, unfortunately are clueless, too, but the fact that he is still by your side says a lot about him, I have had women tell me their husbands left them after diagnosis. I don't know that there is anything that I can say that will make you feel better, but my advice would be to hang in there, just because you don't have "boobs" does not mean that you are not beautiful, I have met and know beautiful women who have went through what we are going through. I pray that God will ease your pain. And, no you are not being selfish, you are allowed to grieve, but remember, your husband is probably grieving too. Communication is key to a good relationship. Maybe calling this person that has invited you on this trip and let them know how it made you feel, and recommend going to a more family oriented area, where women show a little more respect for themselves. Remember-out of every ruin comes a treasure!