About at the end of my tether . . . (big vent)

 . . . and ready to bite a big chunk out of my DH's hind quarters! 

I'm at my wit's end with this man of mine and his selfish, inconsiderate ways!  There is a lot I could unload, but for now I'll just stick to the most recent shenanigans of his.

I had to cancel a recent appointment with my counselor, and there was a misunderstanding as to whether I canceled or was just a no-show.  Her office sent me a reminder letter, stating that I owed a no-show fee before I could have another appointment.  Before I had a chance to call her office to try to straighten things out, DH (and the "D" doesn't really stand for "dear" right now) called and basically ripped them a new one over it.  I felt he was way out of line, as our insurance is through my teacher retirement and I'm basically the major bread-winner in our home (he is on social security disability).  Yes, he has a say in how our money gets spent, but he basically butted in on an issue that was mine to straighten out.  He should have, IMO, just sat down and shut up and let me try to straighten things out.

I got a call back from my counselor's office manager, asking about what was going on (she left a message on our machine).  I told DH to let me handle it.  "Why can't I handle it?" he wanted to know.  Well, it's my doctor and it's my health care we're talking about and I deserve an opporturnity to straighten this out.  Otherwise, DH was going to have me hanging high and dry without a counselor.  By the way, I took early disability retirement for major depression and this counselor has played a major role in helping me to get approved for that.  I told him that I wanted to call the office back and straighten out what I saw as a misunderstanding.  "Don't make me look bad," he tells me.  WTF?!  I wanted to say, "Oh, too late!  You already took care of that!"  But I didn't.

I did manage to get the misunderstanding straightened out, and I do not owe the no-show fee.  I think what has DH all p.o.ed is that this was his counselor before she was mine.  She took him on a pro bono basis.  She has since stopped doing pro bono work.  DH, however, had quit going to her before she stopped doing pro bono work.  She had called him out on some of his "stuff" and he didn't like it.  I think he'd like to see me quit going to her as well, but she has helped me so much.  I wouldn't want to start over with someone new.

To his credit, he was my rock when I was going through surgeries, chemo, etc., but his big spoiled baby side has come out lately, and I don't like him very much when he's like this.  Whatever he wants is law as far as he's concerned, and I am just too stupid to pour urine out of a boot with instructions on the heel.

I just needed to vent.  Thanks for being there.