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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited May 2010

    Nicely done Mainer! That is optimistic progress...I'd take it.

  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited May 2010

    Hi again....thanks for the support.

    Yesterday was a good day, did the revlon walk in the morning, which was HUGE, times square packed with a gazillion people, then we had our block party which is really nice, because I live across the street from an especially pretty church, and we have a blues band and bake sale. Also my husband pulled the funniest prank on me ever.

    Despite all this, I am at the lowest place I have been since diagnosis. I am so limited in how much I can use my arm and shoulder, and I still struggle with the breast pain since sx. I just want to scream. 

    I worried about dying of cancer, never thought the real threat here was a life of chronic pain. I am seeing the physiatrist (sp?) on Thursday,plus more accupuncture and OT this week. Please pray for me I can somehow turn this around.

     Good weekend wishes and one armed hugs to all!

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited May 2010

    Oh Cookie! Blessed hugs to you {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ Cookie }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

    Stop. Take in the love. Breathe. That's all you have to do.

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited May 2010

    cookiegal, sorry you are feeling low.  Chronic pain can wear you down.  I think most of understand that feeling of just wanting to be finished with the cancer, and all the physical and mental bi-products that come with it.

    On the other hand...Girl!  It sounds like you had more going on this weekend, even with your impinged arm, than I had here with two working arms.  And since you threw out that teaser about your husband's prank, do we get to hear about that?

    Good Luck with the therapy, I hope it does the trick.

  • suzwes
    suzwes Member Posts: 1,740
    edited May 2010

    You're in my prayers Cookie.  Sounds so painful, I'm sorryFrown

    NativeMainer - hope you're feeling less sore as the day goes on - sounds like you got some good natural Vitamin D!

  • ReginaR
    ReginaR Member Posts: 287
    edited May 2010

    Hey Middle age Gals,,. Here's some picture of me & my Pink Outfit at Ky Oaks Friday April 30 "Pink Out day" ( day before the Ky Derby) Breast Cancer Survivor day. It was 136 th running of the Oaks & had 136 Breast cancer survivor  got to Parade around Churchill downs. I was so Honor & Held my Head up High for all you ,my Pink pals! It was a wondeful day & I meet several other Beautiful Breast  cancer Survivor.

    Then I got home & had a message from my oncologist office to call them back  Monday. They would have to rain on my parade!  Maybe just more test results ?

    Hope all of you are doing well. I was thinking of all of you when I walk in the parade  &  I am Praying for all & esp that everyone's appt & treatments go well this week.!

    {{Hugs}} Gina   PS I started back On Tamoxifen Yesterday. I wanted wait til after the oaks parade, so my leg would not ache & No headaches. So we will see it was the side effect or if It was the infection . ( it was probally little bit of both)

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  • NativeMainer
    NativeMainer Member Posts: 10,462
    edited May 2010

    Great pics, Regina!  You look great!  Hopefully the message from your onc's office is just an appointment reminder or something equally simple.

    suzwes--I tried a bit of that old saying "The best thing for what makes you sore is more of what makes you sore" and did some more work in the garden this afternoon.  80+ degrees, just a little breeze, even though it's overcast I was sweating and puffing after 20 minutes!  So, enough of that, going to take a leaf out of Snookie's book and lay out on the deck and take a nap after slurping up a tubfull of cold water!  Lots of Vit D, alright.  I wonder if that means I should go out and get some calcium--in the form of a large chocolate ice cream cone?  It wouldn't count on the diet since it's therapeutic, right?  

  • carollynn79
    carollynn79 Member Posts: 654
    edited May 2010

    I think I would say achey instead of Psycho but the rest fit depends on the day!!

    Cookie hope you are having a better day and I agree you don't think of all the things that change in your life, how you feel etc.

    Regina nice pics, sound like you had a good day.

  • suzwes
    suzwes Member Posts: 1,740
    edited May 2010

    Nice pictures Regina - sounds like a fun day.

    NativeMainer - choc. ice cream is the calcium of champions!!  Go for it.

  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited May 2010

    It would take a lot of writing to explain the prank. It involved a pretend letter from the Green Bay Packers.

    Here is a blog post about the Revlon walk in NYC. 

    http://bit.ly/dxYGOD

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited May 2010
    Woo Hoo!  ReginaR, look at you...stylin' at the races right down to those bright pink shoes!  Thanks for keeping us in mind when you did your parade walk. 
  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited May 2010

    calcium of champions!

    love dat

    feeling a bit better today, first morning in a month where I did not wake up yelping ouch...I'll take it!

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited May 2010

    How are you feeling today, Cookie?

  • Jo_Ann_K
    Jo_Ann_K Member Posts: 277
    edited May 2010

    I realize it's been a while since I have visited here.  The good news is that means that I have moved on psychologically most of the time, but since my Mom died of breast cancer mets on Mother's Day 1990, I've been thinking more about myself in the past couple of weeks.

    I was diagnosed in 9/2008 with DCIS, which I'm happy to say was found very early, due to diligent surveillance since my Mom's diagnosis (she had one positive lymph node - mastectomy and chemo and died 7 years later within 3 weeks of recurrence).  My grandmother and her 5 sisters died from female hormone cancers (breast, uterine, ovarian). Yet, BRCA testing was negative.  However, the genetics counselor thought it was likely there was some genetic abberation; it just hasn't been discovered yet.

    The "beauty", if you can it that, of getting cancer at this stage of life is that you are mature enough to realize how important "living" is and not just "existing".  I'm an empty nester with my husband of nearly 33 years and 2 bichon frise dogs, whom have been a wonderful source of comfort during those down days.  We have two grown successful daughters who live out of town, and a handful of very close friends whom I have known since childhood.

    Since the diagnosis, I no longer look at work as a career aspiration, but a job that provides the resources to enjoy life. I appreciate the best in everyone and try not to be as critical as I once was. I hear the birds sing more and appreciate the color of the sky and the green hue of new plants in the spring.

    I don't get upset at the little things as much, and big things with much less intensity.  I'm grateful for having learned the importance of living my life before it was too late.

    Jo Ann in Owings Mills, MD

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited May 2010
    Jo_Ann_K,  So glad you stopped back.  You have brought an inspirational message that I can appreciate, even tho' my War of the Teens is still raging.  As far as taking time away from the discussion boards, moving on; it's a good thing to get to that point of not having to think about B/C every single day.  You go, girl!  
  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited May 2010

    I'm in the same boat with Elimar with the War of the Teen episodes, but Jo_Ann_K loved your input !   Thank you for the perspective-I lose it every now & then (especially when DD is practicing driving!)

  • suzwes
    suzwes Member Posts: 1,740
    edited May 2010

    JoAnn, that is an inspirational message.  DH and I are slowly getting to that point but still have a 19 year old who'll be home from college for the summer in a couple of weeks.  I'll then join the ranks with Elimar and Eph3_12.  The war is going to be full force when he has to remember the home rules again or golden rule as we call it (you know - he who has the gold, rules?).

    Cookie, hope you feel better soon - feeling your pain literally but not to the extent you have to deal with, at least I can use my computer!

    Have a terrific day everyone.

  • robinlbe
    robinlbe Member Posts: 585
    edited May 2010

    LOVE the golden rule, Suzwes!!!  That is perfect!  We, too, have a 19 yr old who just got home for the summer.....but he's our oldest.  Two months from today, our youngest turns 13 and then we'll have three teenagers living in our house....

    Today is my milestone day....six months ago today, I was diagnosed.   Four months ago today, I had my BMX.  And as I said above, two months from today, I'll all three of my kids will be teenagers.   Can't figure out which is scarier.....or better :)

     blessings.....robin

  • fmakj
    fmakj Member Posts: 1,278
    edited May 2010

    Love the pic Elimar!!

    Haven't posted in a while, but I do lurk pretty well every day!  Had my first Mammogram done on 28th of April and was told on 3rd of May that I had to get a mag view done on the left side (lumpectomy last year on right).  Today I went for that Mamm and before I left she had the Radiologist look at it and I have been given the ALL CLEAR!  So now I might be able to enjoy this summer!!  Now just waiting for the Genetic Testing results some time this month.  I also find that sometimes I should be thankful for what BC has done for the way I look at things in life..... It doesn't mean that I wanted to have a do-over again this summer!!! lol    Be Well All!! 

  • fmakj
    fmakj Member Posts: 1,278
    edited May 2010

    PS.. Happy Mother's Day to all the Mother's out there! 

    Hope everyone will have a great week-end!

  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited May 2010

    I too love the picture Elimar!  Happy Mother's Day on Sunday.  I had my lumpectomy a year ago today (Friday), so this year's mother's day should be a bit better than last year!

  • carollynn79
    carollynn79 Member Posts: 654
    edited May 2010

    Happy Mothers Day to all!!  Last year I was diaganosed on May 5 and had surgery May 15 this year is better, at least thyroid cancer was a breeze compared to BC  LOL!!  I agree we look at life differntly.  Will not be able to see my boys but they will call and i will see them in the fall, we are thinking of going to the Grand Canyon together with my brothers family from NM, one son is in Vega one in NM so Grand Canyon wil be a good spot!!!.  My DH and I went out for Chinese last night with friends yummy, tomorrow i will make my apple rice pork chop casserole and lemon cake top pudding, hummm no wonder I am not losing any weight!!!  Oh well

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited May 2010

    Congrats to both of you on your One Year cancerversaries, and keep celebrating them right into the double digit years.  I found out about half the women use their Dx date for the cancerversary, and the rest use the surgery date.  I think I will use the surgery date, when I theoretically became cancer-free.  I'll feel more like celebrating the day it was removed rather than the day they dropped the C-bomb on me.  Or maybe I will just celebrate twice, and throw in the day I finished up radiation too!

    The Mother's Day photo-pic...yeah, I think it's interesting when a photo shows us something ordinary from a new perspective like that.

  • ReginaR
    ReginaR Member Posts: 287
    edited May 2010

    Hello My Middle Age Gals, Love all the great post & good Info. I apprecaite all of you!

    Click here: YouTube - Pink Warrior  Happy Mother day to all My Pink Warriors !!   Hope you all are Having a Blessed Mother day weekend.   I have to work on mothers day-Ugh Been Back on "T" For 1 week now since infections gone. Starting to have headache & I have been moody today! My Husband has notice a change is my mood said I am very edgy today, maybe it just him Not the "T" LOL. {{hugs}} Gina

  • suzwes
    suzwes Member Posts: 1,740
    edited May 2010

    Happy Mother's day to all of the Moms, Grandmas, Aunts and honorary Moms!  Have a terrific day!

  • OG56
    OG56 Member Posts: 897
    edited May 2010

    Happy Mothers Day to all!

    Happy Anniversary to all who have been BC free for a year! I just realized reading this that it will be 2 years for me the end of the month, I am not one to remember dates,even life changing ones I guess LOL!

  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited May 2010

    Happy Mother's Day everyone! Hope you had a great day.Laughing

    Today is the day my "super shot" is supposed to start kicking in for my shoulder catastrophe.

    Heading to NJ tomorrow night for BC benefit at the Brownstone, which is the catering hall owned by the real housewives.

    Will not be counting WW points.

    Cheers!

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited May 2010

    Hope it kicked in for you, Cookie!  Have a great time tomorrow.

  • PauldingMom
    PauldingMom Member Posts: 927
    edited May 2010

    Mom's one year is this week! I posted our story on a Best Mom contest and we won one of the prizes!! It looks like next weekend we will enjoy a limo ride and breakfast at a local bakery.

  • Kleenex
    Kleenex Member Posts: 764
    edited May 2010

    Ooooooh, Cookie - let me know if you experience any "sightings" of the RHNJ ladies! The food always looks FABULOUS - should be awesome.

    Hope everyone had a great Mother's Day!

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