The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

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it sounds like you have a good sense of humor and your pharmacist sounds like an idiot. If this continues to rankle, I'd inform him that he violated HIPAA by breaching your confidentiality and depending on his reaction, I'd report him to your state board of pharmacy. Boy Arimedex is expensive! see, if your pharmacist hadn't shouted it out, I never would have known. I googled arimidex help with payment and found this site which might ultimately lead to some assistance:http://www.arimidex.com/paying-for-treatment.aspx Also apparently it is available on-line!! even if it isn't cheaper, you wouldn't have to subject yourself to your pharmacist, of course then it might be the mailman shouting to your neighbors about your monthly packages......Julie E

Last night one of the nicest things was said to me in a very long time at a major league baseball game.  I'm 56 years old mind you.  I was with my husband buying a beer (I love having a good beer at a baseball game) and a man came up who works there.  He said to the attendant selling the beer, "Hey, you better check her ID, she doesn't look old enough to be buying beer.  She's just a teenager."  I thanked him, smiled and could have kissed him:)  Amazing how that one interaction really made me feel so good--and it's been a long time since I've felt so good.

pj--if your pharmacy is part of a chain look on line and find the headquarters and send a letter of complaint there-addressed to the president of the company if you can find that person's name.  There is no excuse for violating your privacy that way.  And next time he does that and someone asks you about your med, turn to the pharmacist and say "You told this person how expensive this is, now you explain what it is and why I'm taking it.  And don't forget about HIPPA."  If that doesn't get through to him, ask him what pharmacy board licences his pharmacy and file a complaint with them. 

Here's the dumbest I've heard from a nurse....."well be known that breast cancer is the best cancer to have" I wanted to say "really?, here ya go, take it"

from my co-workers

"Your too old and fat to wear that wig"

Or about my radiation burns: "That makes me nasceous, I can't stand to look at you"

TerriD

your coworkers need to be thrown under your bus and then you need to go forward and then in reverse a couple of times before moving on.

Oh yeah - I've got one from my boss : Why don't you just tell the doctor to cut them both off?  And are you going to be back at work this week, because I need you to work overtime.  I just had my surgery 2 days ago.

ITs amazing how insenstive people can be...my former boss, told me that "they got the short end of the stick" when I was off for surgery....I wanted to rip my shirt open and say "who got the short end of the stick"!!!!  Tude....sorry that you boss is so insensitive

Kittycat, 

I am so sorry, this disease does suck!!

Olivia 

I haven't read all 40 pages of insensitivy, but when this happened last week, I knew that I'd find this thread and be able to rant in total detail....... and I felt better immediately, on the spot, even while this story was unfolding as though in slow-motion.

Imagine.

I am in a convention center exhibit hall, setting up my booth. My DH has hauled everything in from our car, but I am just capable enough to start putting the backdrop together on my own, while he moves the car to the back-lot.

A woman I have known for the past 15 years (a vendor) comes walking directly toward me. I'm certain she will ask how I'm 'doing' since my BILAT in Jan.... as this is the first we've seen each other since my surgery, in fact this is our first interaction.

I am already engrossed in thinking thru a gazillion details and upset about heading to a PT apointment, just as soon as this is all in place, so I'm a tad distracted.

I am wearing a form-fitting t-shirt and layered over that is a loose fitting button-down jacket.

She walks up. Pulls my jacket away from my body and the first words out of her mouth:

"So just how flat are ya?"

When my head stops revolving on my neck I must have said something about being busy, because she then left me to my set up.

All of you brilliant minds. Who's got the best come back?

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Strength and courage.

Strength and courage.

Strength and courage.

P.S. I have chosen not to have reconstruction, so I'm pretty darn flat.

faithandfifty....WOW!!!  That has got to be the most insensitive thing anyone could do or say!!!  I am with Sharon, my mouth is literally hanging open in disbelief.

 I actually think most people say stupid things because they don't know "what" to say.  Other's are trying to lighten the seriousness of the topic at hand.  I try to just let those things go, because people really are 'trying to be kind' ... but this is crazy!  I just had my surgery last week, and I was always quite busty, now I'm not, and that woman was just plain RUDE!!!!  To have lost all or part of your feminine form is not a joke.

"Are your parents siblings?"  Oh Pickle, that one made me fall off my chair!

I think the best comebacks (see above!) are the subtle ones.  But the other way to make people stop and think about what they've just said is to make it obvious to them that they've hurt your feelings.  That might just keep them from saying something insensitive or unkind to someone else.

I've been so fortunate.  The only time someone said something that upset me was just before starting chemo.  A salesclerk told me about her SIL who "suffered terribly" with chemo -- and she hoped I wouldn't have to go through the same thing.  Gee thanks lady!  As though I weren't worried enough! 

or the usual sweet response "why do you ask that?" - which gives it back to her to explain and perchance understand how stupid she sounded.

After catching up I have only one thing to say -- arghhhhhhhhhhhhh.  Unfortunately, a lot of people say whatever comes into their mind without thinking it through.  I know the over-riding response is to either beat them to a pulp or insult them.  I think the more effective response is to tell them exactly how that makes you feel!  Hopefully, it will make them feel like s**t.

Faith ... next time tell that woman - "thanks, that makes me feel so much better."  If she doesn't get it, tell her she overstepped her boundries and don't ever do it again.

I think sometimes you just have to call people on their words and actions and stop being polite.

Bc ... so sorry about the loss of your job.  (((((HUGS)))))

For folks who tell you that you will get perky new breasts I just say I was attached to the old ones!