mums just found out that she got stage 3 breast cancer

rickbrig
rickbrig Member Posts: 3
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer

Hi my mum age 54 found out last friday the 4th March 2010 that she had nipple cancer from this she had a mammo gram and located that the lymth node under arm is at 5cm and then found another 5mm in the breast tissue all 3 are postive and we have been advise this evening that on or by the 18th March she will have the operation to remove the left boob.

 As i have researched so much information in regards to breast cancer and can't believe all i have read, i can't seem to understand her feelings.

This is why i ask for some advise to understand the thoughts which mum may feel and some postive feedback to storys of people who have been there and are fighting with a smile.

I haven't really cryed as i'm being strong for mum but i'm scared that one day i'll break so i hope you all don't mind but i'm writing to you all for support for me and mum.:)

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  • Bugs
    Bugs Member Posts: 1,719
    edited March 2010

    I'm sorry you guys are going through this.  Your Mum is scared and the most important thing you can do is just be there to hold her hand.  This is the hardest part in this whole journey.  The waiting for results and starting a treatment plan.

    The good news is that stage 3 is not the end of the world.  Many, MANY women survive to live long and healthy lives.  I'm four years out from diagnosis and living a great life. 

    If you can convince your Mum to come here and join us.  Nothing helps ease the fears more than hearing that all the feelings you are having are completely normal.   This is a great group of women!

    Big hugs to both of you!

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  • Dawnmrn1
    Dawnmrn1 Member Posts: 446
    edited March 2010

    You and your mum have to take it one day at a time!  the docs will get you thru. My onc told me at Dx I had to give him control, which I did and he would get me thru chemo. Here I am 9 months out and still kicking. I worked thru chemo and rad, took 4 weeks off for my first mastectomy and 6 weeks for my second!!! I am an RN and my work is physical and I can do it!!! 54 is young, my age, give your mum your support, she is lucky to have you. Don't be afaid to cry!  It is soooo scary!!! Cry in front of your mom my DD did!  We both felt better after!!! You are both in my prayers!!!

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  • rickbrig
    rickbrig Member Posts: 3
    edited March 2010

    Hi there,

     Thankyou for your support and great advice.  You are right Dawn we need to give the doc control as he will guide us through this all.  I let mum read your response and she was inspired by your words and your movation.  I did cry infront of mum today and so did she and yes We both felt better.

     Even though there is a battle ahead, hearing your stories gives hope and makes you believe that things aren't that bad after all.

    I can now see a different way to see all of this. 

    Thankyou so much and both of you are in our prayers.

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  • Dawnmrn1
    Dawnmrn1 Member Posts: 446
    edited March 2010

    Everyday will be better,the shock of the diagnosis wears off!  There will be good days and bad days, but you will both get your head around this and be able to move forward!  Take all of the support you can get from friends and family!  they are what gets you thru!!! Soon you will be on the otherside of Tx looking back!  Y ou can do this!  Much Love, Dawn

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  • rickbrig
    rickbrig Member Posts: 3
    edited March 2010

    Thankyou.  I greatly appreicate your words of wisdom.Smile

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