Am I being too sensitive?

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mimi1030
mimi1030 Member Posts: 700
edited June 2014 in HER2+ (Positive) Breast Cancer
Am I being too sensitive?
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  • mimi1030
    mimi1030 Member Posts: 700
    edited March 2010

    Hi ladies,

    I just was irritated by another poster in the Her2 forum, because I posted my mom's story over there because regardless of my mom's stage she is still Her2.  Being that there are ladies in the Her2 board that are stage IV, I was advised by a fellow stage IV/Her2 person that I might get some more tips over there.  Well a poster asked me "why don't you post this on the Stage IV forum?"

    Maybe I am just a little sensitve right now, but I took that as.  You should stick to the stage IV forum because that is where this situation belongs.  Am I being a little pissy? I mean seriously, my mom is her2, does that mean if you are stage IV that the Her2 part holds no bearing.  Hell, I don't think so.  So I am a little ticked about that.  So I posted that I posted over there because my mom is her2 and I wasn't aware that the Her2 boards were only for those who were not stage IV. 

    Maybe I am over reacting, but I think it was a little bit inappropriate to say.  I mean if a poster came over here who was Stage 1 or 2, would you say you need to go and post in the stage 1/2 boards. I hardly think so.

    Geez!!!

    Hugs Michelle

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2010

    Oh michelle, don't take anything personally!! Come and joing the PODS (women over 50). We are a loving group who will support you in all that you have (as are all of the threads). I think folks are just trying to give you the best info as many do not know what to say and/or do not have the info they think you might need. I get so pissed off over the "thread wars" but honestly, I am too chemoed out right now to care. Lots of love, SV

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  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited March 2010

    Michelle,

    You are sensitive and you have every right to be. My brother has just been diagnosed with oral cancer.  I am much more stressed over his cancer than I was over mine.  I don't want to see my dear brother have any pain or fear or disfigurement.  You are suffering on behalf of your mom.

    I don't think the poster intended to reject you.  She probably just wanted to see that you get the best advice. 

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  • ElaineD
    ElaineD Member Posts: 2,265
    edited March 2010

    I took it as she was suggesting that you would also get help on 1V-not that you should post exclusivley there. I do get frustrated too at times, when advise is offered-without the poster being fully aware of the situation of the person asking the question. Far better surely to check back and read a few of the posters threads first to ensure having the full picture before wading in. I've just had to point this out on 1V too, when several posters have waded in with inappropriate "good luck" wishes, for someone who has already moved on to the next stage.

    As a HER2 too, I wouldn't hesitate to post her if and when the need ever arose, so do keep posting here-and elsewhere too whenever you feel the need.

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  • chainsawz
    chainsawz Member Posts: 3,473
    edited March 2010

    Michelle - I responded to your post and replied that all stages post here - it is not limited by stage - it's for all her2+ patients.  I think you are right to be sensitive because I would have been, too.  I think the poster meant to be helpful and just saw WBR and directed you back over to the stage IV forum?  There are also so many forums it is difficult for anyone to know what is where :>    I hope you can find some good xeloda\tykerb info over on the her2support.org site, in addition to this one!  Best to you!!  lisa

    Edited for my horrible spelling :>

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  • Sassa
    Sassa Member Posts: 1,588
    edited March 2010

    Lighten up, Mimi.  You also went off in a huff several years ago as I recall.

    I suggested that you try the Stage IV forum as I knew that women, like Chainsawz, gave support and advice to women with brain mets on the Stage IV forum.

    But that's OK, I won't try to help you anymore.  Who needs to be jumped on for good intented trying to help advice?

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  • Gabrielle
    Gabrielle Member Posts: 73
    edited March 2010

    Sassa,

    Knock it off.  Frown

    Gabrielle

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