Losing patience with people who squander life

My husband better not read this because the person who comes to mind is my 40 year old step daughter.  She's only 10 years younger than me but she still acts like a whinny kid.  All the "woe is me" conversations drive me crazy.  It's amazing what she "can't do" because of her supposed health issues but then she turns around and does things that make no sense.  She lives in the same town as my MIL which is 6 hours away from us.  When we told her how much her grandma (in assisted living) would appreciate an occasional visit, even if it's just for 5 minutes, she said she couldn't do it because of her "comprised immune system".  For heaven sakes, what comprised immuned system??  And this was at the same time she was going to school to be a medical assistant - her goal was to work in a pediatrician's office (what happend to the comprised immune system??).  Well she graduated and got a job in a medical office but was fired in less than 6 months because of a HIPAA violation - she was looking at the med records of her soon to be ex-husband's girl friend.  What a waste. 

But if I discount relatives I find that the people I choose to spend time with are very positive.  Some of them lead lives that I just admire.  Those are the people that inspire me to keep asking myself if I'm doing everything to enjoy now and not have regrets in the future.  BC has just increased my resolve.

OMG Texas, I love it....remoing "someday" from my vocabulary. I am working to be very present in the very moment I am in.

breast cancer sure has a way of putting things in proper perspective.  I sure know what you mean.

My mother is a hypochondriac, she has been all my life.  She has some legitimate issues, depression, episodes of manic, and some real physical issues. She is a bump, a couch potato, a blob.  She barely drives because IDK, she doesnt cook or clean much, doesnt work, the only thing she likes to do is shop. Complains about EVERYTHING, anytime the smallest thing happens she will say "just my luck"  ummm get over it, it isn't a big deal.  Everything happens to her.

Her biggest complaint is that my father has yet to build her a deck on their house.  Because of that he truly does not love her.

Damn I wish that was my biggest issue, not having a deck~REALLY.

Today I went roller skating with my 6 y/o DD.  How is that for living today!  Something I wouldnt have done last year I loved every minute of it!

I could go on about this forever, but I wont.  Cause I want to be positive today

OMG I have one of these in my life - he's very dear to my DH so he is there for good!  He is one of those people that is always complaining about his (self-induced) bad health or talking bad about other people.  He doesn't listen to you when you try to knock any sense into him, or try to gear the conversation in another direction - the sad thing is that there's not really much else for him to talk about because he never does anything!  So now, I just nod my head and smile and catch sideways glances from my man until it's time to go.  Sometimes I just laugh about it with my man, other times he REALLY makes me mad but then when I complain to my DH about him - I feel like I'm doing exactly what he does that drives me so crazy!

I was just thinking about this the other day.  I realized even with my dx I am still much happier than my dh, always have been.  It's so hard to live with someone who doesn't appreciate having his own health, wonderful kids etc. 

I've always been the strong one in the relationship and I was really hoping he would be able to step up when this happened.

Roller skating - now that's living!  Haven't done that in 15 years.  What good memories of the kids when we lived right by a rink and would go on the weekend.  I was lousy but it sure was fun.