The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

My husband had always said he would support me in whatever I decided when it came down to surgery options.  When I finally decided on a bi-lateral masectomy.  He answered, are you sure you want to do that?  How long do you plan on living anyway?

I have to chime in -- my mother told me today that my breast cancer was like her skin cancer on her nose (which was removed a few years ago, no problems, no treatment) not to minimize her skin cancer on her nose but somehow it has me upset. 

 I tried to preempt some of the caustic comments from co-workers - like a least you get some perky boobs out of it -- I decided my comeback would be, well I look at it this way, there will be one less boob in the office. 

Two weeks ago I had a mastectomy and yesterday found out the margins are not clear, less than 1mm.  The surgeon was reading the path report during my appt for the first time and he looked a little shocked.  I guess it was not something even I had prepared myself for.  I am not sure what is next but I do know it is still on my chest wall and sternum which has me worried

sockenvy--How horrible!  And unprofessional! And Insensitive!  Did you report what he said?  It's totally inappropriate behavior for any nurse, but even more so for a male to a female, and in that situation---I am apalled! 

olivia218--bc is like skin cancer--sure, IF she had her nose amputated as part of her treatment, maybe.  I really like the "one less boob in the office" comeback.  To the point with just a hint of an edge to it, great job!  I'm so sorry the margins weren't clear, even more sorry that it came as such a surprise.  I can't imagine how you are feeling after hearing that but I can certainly understand why you are worried.  Do you have an appointment to get more info about what your options are?  I hope it's very soon. 

Joviangeldeb--I wonder how that person defines 'inside' the body?  How absolutely idiotic!  

Has anyone else ever been tempted to tell some idiot who's just made a stupid, hurtful comment  "Did you know they just discovered breast cancer is contagious?  Oh, it's so good to see you I just have to give you a hug!"  I never have but the mental picture has amused me many, many times!  

We're safe here on the forum--once bitten by the beast we're immune to anyone else's beast "germs!"  One day, I'm going to actually say and do that some stupid sucker who will believe it, and then sit back and watch the antics with great glee! 

Hi everyone.  I am a yankee, but now live in the border "south".   When someone asks a dumb question, I gently take their hand, look them in the eye and say something like " Bless your pea picking heart for asking."  and I gotta get a move on, see ya.

This week I celebrated my 46th birthday and my niece sent some photo's to the rest of the family. I had several say, you don't look any different, you don't even look sick!  UGH!  

There's nothing like the look of fear in the eyes of someone who just realizes they asked a stupid question, is there?   Great comeback! 

Sorry to say my parents refer to my breast cancer as a situation - okay a situation that amputated my left breast!

OMG some people say the dumbest things.   I can't believe that after a mastectomy that someone would ask if you kept your nipples.  I would reply, "Why yes, I have them in my pocketbook, would you like to see them?"

OMG, gracie, I'm going to get a couple of fake nipples and keep them in my purse so I can use that line AND freak out the idiots that would say "Yes" and I can't wait to see the look on their faces!

Too funny, I have to find some fake nipples and put them in my pocket!!

Has anyone had somebody ask them, "so, are you all put back together now?".  What----am I Humpty Dumpty?????

For the most part people have been pretty great... that is untill last and tonight.. last week me and DH was invited over our friends house to watch the premier of the nascar races, all the men sat in the living room while us woman (about 10 of us) sat in the kitchen drinking, laughing and having a good time, then one friend whips off her bra and says it was uncomfortable. a few other woman did the same, one of the ladies there said, "I wish i didnt have any boobs so I didnt have to wear this stupid thing" I could feel every one look at me,shocked, so i took out my foobie and laid it on the table and said well, "you can have a mx and then you wont have to worry bout it" It was dead quiet for a minute till I started laughing then every one else cracked up, of course the other friend apologised, I know she forgot,and was sincere so i did forgive her.

then tongiht I get an email from my DH friend that was a video called "antidepressiant for men" So I opened it up, It was a video of naked woman with big boobs jiggling around, I was so pissed, So I emailed the dumb jerk a$$ back and said, while I enjoy most of your emails, and jokes, I find your emails on naked woman very offensive and disrespectful, And would like you to take me off your email list- Most times i can get past the STU-PID  remarks but this really ticked me off.

OH YEAH! MY FAVORITE;

You just have to keep a positive attitude.

"You just have to keep a positive attitude" is the only phrase that makes me want to slap someone.

That really did me in every time someone said that to me.

A friend told me that I'm much better off than she is, because I get all these check-ups, so that when something is wrong, it will be discovered right away, whereas she only has her regularly mammogram and might already be seriously ill without knowing it.