Do U know of a “Widow over 50 Internet Support Group”?

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NaughtybyNature
NaughtybyNature Member Posts: 1,448
edited June 2014 in Recommend Your Resources

My mom just lost her husband, my dad, of 44 years, this past January 5, 2010. 

It was kind of sudden (he had heart disease for a long time) and nevertheless shocking the way he went and was treated for the "wrong thing" at two different hospitals back in Portugal.  Dad died of a ruptured aortic aneurysm at age 68.

As the first month was very difficult for me, I seemed to have "graduated to a better place" but mom... just continues to sink.  (She should be joining me in the US next month).

I have done a search for an internet group similar to BC.Org but have came up empty... most of the groups are for young widows/widowers... mom is a young 65!

Do you know of any internet support group I can refer my mom to?  Any books regarding grieving and stages of moving on that you might suggest? 

Thanks for your time.  Always me,

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  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 1,638
    edited February 2010

    Hi Lilia:

    I am sorry to hear this

    and send my condolences to both of you

     if I hear of anything Ill send it

    to you privately

    only on here the odd time

    Best wishes

    and take good care

    Sierra :)

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  • mke
    mke Member Posts: 584
    edited February 2010

    I gave a friend whose husband died "The year of magical thinking" by Joan Didion (author whose husband died suddenly).  I don't know how useful it was, she couldn't read it right away.  It's been only a few weeks, your mother probably isn't ready to move on.   Maybe there is some some of bereavement group in your area?

    It seems to take a year of firsts - first Christmas, first birthday, anniversary, first everything that needs to be fought through.  I went and stayed with my sister for a bit after her husband died and she had a couple of tough firsts while I was there.  If you see signs of depression you could help your mother deal with that, but she will grieve and move on at her own speed.

    Both my friend and my sister are more than a year past their husbands deaths and they are now both happy and involved in life.

    My condolences to both of you.

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  • azsunn
    azsunn Member Posts: 201
    edited February 2010

    I sent you a private message.

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  • sweatyspice
    sweatyspice Member Posts: 922
    edited February 2010

    This is based in the UK, but seems to have an internet forum.  Seems like you have to pay dues to join but it doesn't seem expensive.  I haven't really read everything thoroughly so I might be mistaken.  Take a look:  National Association of Widows

    http://www.nawidows.org.uk/

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