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  • BustersMom
    BustersMom Member Posts: 495
    edited February 2010

    Hi everyone - just a quick "drive by" - I'm tearing the entire house apart & reorganizing it this week & i was lucky to find the keyboard under all these papers - lol

    Buddy - I hope you are feeling better today.  Sorry you are dealing with so much pain :(

    Marina - thinking of you today as you start tx

    Susan - Happy belated birthday - I'm sorry I'm late with my wishes.

    Today I go for the rads simulation, and tomorrow is first tx.  I'm having 33, and they are doing all of the lymph nodes as well as the breast.  I wasn't scared until I heard they were doing the nodes, because now I'm even more worried about lymphedema (along with most likely losing my reconstruction - arrrrgh!).    I don't want another damn surgery!  Good Lord, they take my breasts, take my ovaries, and now they might want one of the fake breasts ?!  what else ? And I just want it all to be over with & move on & get back to LIFE.    Sigh - I know so many of you know exactly what I mean :(   BLAHHHH!!!     Today I have to give the "cancer sux" shout out.   It alway sux, but sometimes ya just need to bellow!

    Sorry, I went off on a tangent there.   I have to admit it felt kind of good.

    OK - guess I better get back to cleaning up in here.   I miss you guys!!!  XOXO   Juliet

  • ritajean
    ritajean Member Posts: 4,223
    edited February 2010

    Thinking about you Marina and hoping that the first treatment went well for you.  I'll check back on later to see if you've posted!  That first one is always so scary.  Hey, I'd made myself sick from worrying before I ever got there!

    Juliet....Come and do the "cancer suxs" vent anytime you want.  We certainly all agree!  I will keep you in my prayers and pray that no more surgeries are needed and the lymph nodes remain fine during and after the radiation.  You are one tough, young gal and I admire you so much.  You're going to get through this and you will get that life after cancer.  Sometimes it is just so hard to take it one day at a time because we're tired of the continuous pitfalls and just want it OVER.  Hang in there.  You have a huge fan club on this site!!!!!  Hugs across the miles......

    Rita

  • BustersMom
    BustersMom Member Posts: 495
    edited February 2010

    Rita - thank you so much - that really helps.   Ok - time to go to the MD!    XOXO

  • buddy1
    buddy1 Member Posts: 750
    edited February 2010

    Mack  I will be thining of you all day.  I used to pack a bag with snacks and things to do and a cooler.  After today you can say one treatment down...

    Thank you for all of your kind words.  I have still not heard any news.  I  am definitely gonna get the pain patch for the back.

  • smerf
    smerf Member Posts: 615
    edited February 2010

    Juliet, you are such a take charge girl, and I know you know that you can always vent here. Who else understands as much? Hoping you sail through rads, and come back soon to a lunchbunch. We miss you!

    Marina, thinking of you today, and hoping for minimal se's. Great news about most of the bloodwork, and you did deserve something good.Did you find the nanny you were looking for?

    Buddy, I'm hoping for good news on the bone scan. There are less serious things involving bones, and that's what we want for you. Hang in there, waiting is the toughest.

    Ruth, wow, what a time you've had! Glad you are now with an onc you like.

    Being bad, I guess. Eating my way through this vacation, and having wine with dinner every night. I think mountain air makes you hungry, even if you don't ski! Leaving tomorrow, though our flight doesn't get in until almost 1AM Friday. I think I'll be more than ready for some zzzzzz's by then. 

    Thinking of you all, and especially those in tx.l

  • rdrake0
    rdrake0 Member Posts: 180
    edited February 2010

    MakMak3030 - My hair didn't all fall out during Ixempra or the TACE.  It might now with the CAF.  What I did was to cut it off to an inch last July in preparation so that it wouldn't be such a shock.  It is still short now, though.  And it did thin out a lot!

    Ruth

  • elf_song
    elf_song Member Posts: 163
    edited February 2010

    OMG, I spent few hours to read the pages after pages...  hopefully I can write everything I want before kids wake up from nap..   I got so much to tell, gosh, where to begin...

    Hello to Marina and Ruth, nice to meet you and sorry you found us..

    Marina- I think you are very strong person and you can totally kick this cancer's butt..   I hope you are doing well from first tx..     When I read your story, I got tears because I was dx little after stop breast feeding my younger son, he was 8month old at that time and older son was 2years old and It was 3weeks before my 37 birthday..  It was very tough with the little ones but I did what I had to, be strong and be positive.. I went through 4month of aggressive chemo and 7weeks of radiations and they stopped the Herceptin because my heart function got dropped...   So, I've been cancer free for little over a year and I like to keep it that way..   Now, I am 38 and got new boobs and our older son just turned 4 yesterday..  life is good..  BTW, I was born and raised in Seoul, South Korea and came to US when I was 21...I am glad we have something in common..  Laughing  I wish we live close by... oh well, if there is anything I can help, let me know and I will do my best to help you...

    Oh, well, kids are up and there goes my time with computer, darn it~!!!        I will come back tonight or tomorrow for sure...     you won't believe what happened to us on Valentin's Day...

    I love you ladies and have a good night and smile~!~!!  Laughing

  • makmak
    makmak Member Posts: 632
    edited February 2010

    Hello.. I"m back.. that was wild..  The biggest side effects came with Benadryl.. which I've had before and warned the nurse.. I was totally woozy and out for over an hr.. still feel it.. Julie from here emailed me and I had my blackberry and recommended I ask for something else.. so I'll be getting Claritin instead.. Thanks Julie..

    Found a nanny yesterday and she starts on Sat.. because we live so far, she asked to work 7 days a week 2 out of 4 weeks.. asked for a bit more money, but so be it.. She'll be cooking/cleaning and doing the nights too.. so that will be a relief...

    Off to feed the baby.. tonight may be very interesting with SE's... I read somewhere to rinse my mouth with soda and salt.. have to research that one too!!

    Oh the nurse told me NOT to cancel my trip to Miami with baby in July or trip to Panama in November.. so that TOTALLY made my day!! Now if my Boss is as understanding.. but they have wi fi so I should be able to work during chemo and not take the time off.. :)  will make the time go faster too!!

    Thanks all for your support!! I used my phone to log in and read it during my 6.5 hrs of drips.. and it trully helps!!

    Marina

  • rdrake0
    rdrake0 Member Posts: 180
    edited February 2010

    Did anyone hear the CBS news report that asprin could help prevent the spread of bc?  Here is a site: http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/02/17/health/main6216242.shtml

    Let me know what you think.

    Ruth

  • buddy1
    buddy1 Member Posts: 750
    edited February 2010

    WHOOO  HOOOOOOO!!!!!!

    Scan is negative.  Thank you for all your support and kind words.  I still dont know why my xray is bad.  But right now I dont really care.  I am preping for a COLONOSCOPY tomorrow.  FUN FUN FUN!  I sure do love you girls/

  • smerf
    smerf Member Posts: 615
    edited February 2010

    I saw the report about aspirin, and I'm sure they will do follow up studies. I have been taking aspirin every other day for the last twelve years, and it did not prevent my bc, but maybe help prevent a recurrence. It will be good news if it holds true.

    Marina, I'm so happy to hear how well you sound after first tx. You seem like such a strong and wise person, and you will get through this. I had the same reaction to Benadryl, but got used to it over time. Eventually I wasn't even sleepy, and my doc did not want to change drugs. I also had a decadron high, and came home and cleaned house like crazy. I got over that in time too! Glad you found a nanny, and nice that she will help with cooking and cleaning. Sending big hugs your way.

  • smerf
    smerf Member Posts: 615
    edited February 2010

    Buddy, I'm SO happy for you!!!! Ugh to the colonoscopy, but don't worry the prep is the worst part. Hoping for great results on that too, and then you can maybe relax a little. Is your doc asking you to see an orthopedist for the bone?

  • zap
    zap Member Posts: 2,017
    edited February 2010

    We are rebounding!  It is all getting better!  Well, maybe just little. 

    Elf, what happened on Valentine's Day?  You can't do that.  We need to know!

    The auto show was good.  I  want the 1959 vintage red convertible caddilac  My Dh wants the   2011  Lexus or the Cadillac.  We SHOULD look at the Chevy Electric car (the VOLT) that would cost  pennies to go to and fro from work Meanwhile, we will drive our own cars for awhile!

    Take care!  Susan

  • jneumann
    jneumann Member Posts: 67
    edited February 2010

    Hi,

    I am newly posting and sad to hear there are so many of us in Illinois.  My docs have been great my tumors just refuse to stay in remission.  Have congestive heart failure too so it is hard to take many of the drugs.  Herceptin lowered my heart rate, Avastin gave me nasty sores so I am trying Xeloda and Tykerb.  So far my cancer has not spread any further and that is a good thing to me.  Now I just need to zap these liver mets and go back into remission.  

    As for the aspirin, due to my heart I have been taking one 81 mg of aspirin per day for the past 6 years, didn't help me any.

    Sunny and high 30's here today, looking forward to the 40's they talk about.  Am going to start my seedlings in hopes of spring!

  • jneumann
    jneumann Member Posts: 67
    edited February 2010

    Any outings planned?

  • Carolyn422
    Carolyn422 Member Posts: 162
    edited February 2010

    Buddy - Great news! Good luck w/the colonoscopy!

    Marina - 6.5 hours- Wow! Hope you're doing well.  I thought of you when I was on the www.livestrong.org website. They have this great Get Organized section under Cancer Support.  I found a health diary, a healthcare team appointment note planner, a medication list with a section for side effects.  I really like the team appointment note because it has a section for questions, for notes and treatment plan.  I think you'd really like it.  Just a thought!

    On an interesting note ever since I switched doctors and have a game plan I'm suddenly sleeping better.  Hmmm....wonder if there's any connectionLaughing.  LOL.. 

    Have a  wonderful, restful night everyone! 

    Carolyn

  • DonnaDio
    DonnaDio Member Posts: 905
    edited February 2010

    Budders...Sounds painful and sounds like a muscle. Wait for the results and see. Wonder if you need to have a heating pad on this or what? See what they say first and they should advise the best route. I know., my joint pain is better but it is because i am goin to a chriopractor. I am a mess..neck. lower back.. and pain everywhere! IS the lump issue ok now?

    Worked today and am beat. Went to a DirectBuy presentation and was quite interesting.GOOD for us to consider when we move to AZ.It alllows you to buy all merchandise at a manufacturers price.

    Spoke to a gal today that my OBgyn  had given my name as a BC contact. Called her at luch and is goin thru a DX and starting it all out. Gave her this forum and will help her in anyway i can. GOOD to be able to do that today and feeling better overall!!!!

    Thanks Jakcie.. progress is AWESOME!!!Feeling relief and KNOW i am goin in the right direction FINALLY!!!

    My poor friend just brought her Yorki in for a dental cleaning and died.. had a siezure and his heart went out. FEEL for her so much!!!!!What a day!

    Hugs and Sweeet Dreams!!!

    Dona

  • makmak
    makmak Member Posts: 632
    edited February 2010

    Good morning!! Just a quick report so far... Zofran kicks my butt too.. but at least it wears off in an hr or so.. the nurse s having me take two of those and Decadrons today, one tomorrow and half on Sat... Didn't use a sleeping pill.. but the baby decided to wake up at 1:30 and then every hr until 4:45.. so I was up all night.. not sure if I want to take any more pills though... I'm also swishing different stuff like salt water and biotene.. I have a really sensitive tongue from being hypo-thyroid.. so I am really not too happy at potential of sores... I was warned the effects are cummulative... Oh and started tingling in my fingers already.. Always had bad hand/foot cirulation.. neuropathy??  Well... my attitude is that if I'm still alive as a result, I can deal with whatever else...

    Did anyone lose their lashes? I bought fake ones but my girl recommended I find latex free glue.. Do I need that?

    I keep chuckling when you all suggest the different organization sites.. like you know me already... I keep EVERYTHING IN MY HEAD... I don't make notes, or anything... so with chemo brain coming, I definitely need to at least get a note-book.  I did start a folder though..(which I forget to bring half the time)..

    Oh.. one more thing to share about myself that I remembered when the nurse offered me hats.. One of my very very big hobbies is knitting... I've got a new victim, my baby.. but I may have to make a hat for myself or something...

    Hope everyone has a great day as I enjoy my last 2 days of Maternity leave managing my new soon to be HEALTHY body..


    Marina 

  • DonnaDio
    DonnaDio Member Posts: 905
    edited February 2010

    marina.. Keep on goin as you are goin to get thru it ALL.sorry for the wake ups maybe you can nap today?!The lashes for me did get scanty as i had chemo and happened in 30 days or less? Mine came back pretty quick and when i used eye liner and it helped for lack of lashes.YOUR attitude is everything and realizing one day at a time, one step at a time. YOU are not alone in this process and always have info here to tap into when some issue comes up!! KEEP up the great work and Biotene does help alot for the sores and such for sensitivity etc.

    Hope ALL have a good day. Have a dental appt today as i am finalizing my device in straightening out my front teeth for all the night grinding that occurred for me. HAVE a chiro appt later in day, tomm is my B.S. appt for a check up. My BRCA gene test results are bein re-discussed again as it is now bein seen as a mutation not that I have one. I am also being approved for Vagiferm for a brief amt of time IF my BS approves it i must add!!!!Anyone on this or tried anything like this?

    Be well today and ALL the best to those in TX and TESTS,APPTS!!!!

    Donna

  • ritajean
    ritajean Member Posts: 4,223
    edited February 2010

    Good morning everyone!

    Welcome, jneumann!  What part of the state are you from?  Tell us a little more about yourself when you get a chance.  You can see that we are a chatty bunch and there's lots of wonderful gals on this site.  Come back often.

    YEA BUDDY!  We like those negative scan results!  Treat yourself to something special...even if it's just a hour of "doing what you like to do" before you start the colonoscopy prep!

    Smerf....so glad to see you posting more. You have so much info to offer and are such a good source of support.  We missed you before!  Hope you are enjoying your mountain retreat. 

    O.K. elfsong.  You do not throw out a suggestive hint like your Valentine Day and then NOT tell us the story.   Get right back on here and let us know what happened.  You've left us hanging!  LOL

    Marina, I'm so sorry that you didn't get much sleep last night.  Just keep taking it one day at a time and sneak in a nap when you can. 

    Susan, I think you would look pretty classy in that vintage red convertible!  Then you could join the "tops down" club!

    I made it to the Gentle Yoga last night and it felt good to get back into the groove again.  The area  bc girls are having an outing tonight and I'm really bummed.  They're going to a Chinese/Japanese restaurant and it will be the first time I've missed since Wendy and I started the group.  It's really strange but I just can't do the Chinese food smell since chemo.  It really makes me nauseous.  I didn't eat any Chinese while doing the chemo so don't know why this happened.  Chinese food has always been a favorite of mine.  Anyway, I'm staying home and eating hamburgers and pouting.   LOL   Anyone else have something like this happen to you?  I keep thinking that it will subside but it hasn't yet.  Even if I could get through that smell when you open the restaurant door, I'm not sure I could eat the food.  We decided that the best way to find out is to have Dave go get the food (take-out) and bring it home and see if I can eat it.  Ah...a project to undertake in the near future.  And to top it off, cagney is going to be there and I've been waiting patiently to meet her! 

    Tanya...nice to see you last night!  You looked great!

    Well, I'm off to do some more laundry and work around here today.  I've been to the library and have lots of reference materials so I can start writing some more questions.  The sun is out and it's going to be a lazy day here in Central Illinois.

    Rita

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2010

    Budders - AWESOME NEWS! Yippy!

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    Running late...meeting a friend at the "Y"!

  • BustersMom
    BustersMom Member Posts: 495
    edited February 2010

    Buddy - glad to hear your news!!  Awesome!

    Just popping in to say hi - gotta look up some info for DH - first rad tx is today.    Guess I will be starting a countdown of my own.  I'm already trying to decide how to celebrate when rads is done.

    Sun is out - yay!!   Have a good one ladies - Juliet

  • Juliechicago
    Juliechicago Member Posts: 200
    edited February 2010

    Hi,

    Just doing my usual pop in.  Great news, Budders!

    Rita-- nearly 10 years later- I too, still cannot stomach Chinese food, or the smell. I wonder if it has to do with the ginger--- it was recommended to me for nausea for my first chemo-- ginger ale, ginger candies. Now-- can't even stand a gingersnap cookie. 

    Have had a strange, mild, "buzzing" pain in my left hip now for about 3 weeks- hard to articulate exactly. It seems more "electric" in nature, which makes wonder if it is nerve related and perhaps related to ongoing herniated lumbar disc issues that wane and return.  You all know where the mind goes, however. Going back to my chiropractor first to see if that helps first.

    Other than that-- the usual craziness.  Both kids decided to grow out 2 inches overnight.  I sent my son to school one day last week in pants that rose above his ankles and with a big hole in the toe of his shoe (How did that get there, Tim?  Usual response-- I dunno). Mommy of the week award. Of course-- now the stores are filled with summer clothes- went three places before I finally just settled on more jeans.  And then the drama in the shoestore when I refused to buy my 5 yr old daughter $45 Sketcher high tops decorated with black skeleton heads. Tears, flopping on the floor, hugging them to her chess "I MUST have these, I just MUST."  Yep. 5. Oh the fun that awaits me. She also "broke up" with Peter and is now in love with "Carter."  Calls him "cutie pie" and blew him a kiss goodbye when I picked her up last week. I am SO in trouble. 

    -julie

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited February 2010

    Well, I see the long post I wrote last night is "Gone With The Wind".  Probably just as well.  That leaves me lots more to read and don't know where to start. 

    Julie you are too funny with the kiddo's goings on.  Young love is wonderful isn't it?? So easy to turn off if a better prospect comes along tomorrow. 

    Buddy -- thrilled for you.  Somehow I just could not conceive of its being anything too bad, but you hate to "cheer" too hard just in case and get everyone too high up -- too far to fall is  you are wrong.

    So sorry Donna to hear about your friends little Yorkie.  I'm sure it's heartbreaking when you go to do something so good and have it go so wrong.  Just hope it all went fast with no pain or true distress. 

    Marina yes the effects are cumulative but it takes a while to get to that point.  Generally the first couple chemo sessions are not too difficult -- then you sort of notice that it is a little longer to get through.  Bummer about the tongue.  I am hypo-thyroid but had few problems with my mouth -- only sore once the whole 6 mos. of chemo.  I lost at one time or other every hair on my body, including nasal hair.  I didn't bother with false eyelashes.  My eye-sight is not too good so figured one of them could end up in my nose, and I didn't feel as though I looked the worse for wear going without, but don't know what anyone else thought.  You are definitely taking charge and once you get set in "your pattern" I think you will do so well. 

    Juliet -- now the boredom begins with those rads, just keep using the cream/lotion and hopefully all with go well with only the boredom to remember.

    Carolyn...it is so nice of you to keep sharing your good sites.  Glad to hear your are sleeping better.  There is so much restoration in sleep as well as in the sun.  If you feel just general turmoil  go where there is water and waves.  Pretty soon all will ease up.  These are the no-cost remedies.

    Rita, you just sound like your usual cheer everyone on self.  No wonder we miss you when you are gone.

    Back later...hoping this post stays here.

    Hugs, Jackie

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited February 2010

    A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor's book.  ~Irish Proverb

  • ritajean
    ritajean Member Posts: 4,223
    edited February 2010

    Hey Jackie,  I was going to take you along to FL with me but you weren't standing at your interstate turn-off ramp when we went by!  I have to admit that the days away have energized me some!  I needed it!  Maybe we need to do this type of thing more often for ourselves.

  • DonnaDio
    DonnaDio Member Posts: 905
    edited February 2010

    Rita.. Go to the dinner with a mask..lol. I have similar ickines in reminders of chemo and not on scents. MY MP3 player..cannot use it as it just brings me back to when feeling the time at the chair getting treatment. Also when i see certain comfort things i used when on the couch and cannot use them now. IT is all traumatic i think and that is what happens to your inside.. it is just what it is in a reaction to a bad time.All we can do is honor ourselves

    Budders....the colon prep is the only thing that is tough..the rest is la la la.. you will not feel a thing.AND you feel energized being all cleaned out!!!!lolol!

  • zap
    zap Member Posts: 2,017
    edited February 2010

    Marina, I hope you are feeling olkay. Are you going to Highland Park?  If so, you may have my same chemo nurses.  I remember gettingthe kniw hat!  Theyw ere angels  They would never remember me as I was a very non-descript patient.  I only had four sessions and I had to easy as compared to most.

    Julie, I hear you on the hip.  I have had so many false alarms.  I am settling down now, but I was chasing symptoms for about a year or more.

    Buddy, good for you.  I too thought it would all turn out fine.

    Julliet, I am thinking about you.  You have so much the right to be frustrated.  

    I have the day off and I have been so lazy!  I wish I could be lazy and not feel guilty for being that way.

    Rita, I think I would look classy too in the 1959 red Cadillac convertible.   I think Paul would rather saw the top off my SUV and make some fins out of two-by-fours than get that car for me at $175,000.  Maybe I am wrong.  I will have to ask.  Don't hold your breath, tho!

    Have a nice evening.  I am making a Moroccan meal tonight.  I had no idea saffron was so expensive!  I went to a specialty store and got all excited when the owner told me she had it and then flipped when she said $12.00!  There are three tiny threads in there!  It better be good!

    Susan

  • firstclasszip
    firstclasszip Member Posts: 21
    edited February 2010

    Hi to everyone from Illinois!  I live in a small town just South of Decatur, Il (Moweaqua) and was diagnosed with breast cancer on January 20, 2010.  Just beginning my journey.  I had a core biopsy and on January 29th had a lumpectomy.  I have to go back on March 9th for more surgery to get a bigger margin around the small tumor area that was removed.  Hopefully it will be clear and I can start radiation soon. I can't believe how many of us are out there!!

    I'll be checking this site often and see if there is anyone near my hometown who would like to talk.  It helps!!

  • zkacmom
    zkacmom Member Posts: 152
    edited February 2010

    Hey Everyone!!!! Guess I will do a little check in.  Had my avastin, falosdex and zometa yesterday. Went to bed when we got home.  I was pretty tired.  I have been having a rough time lately with fatigue and depression.  My family doctor upped my lexapro, so we will see if that works.  It all just gets overwhelming.  Plus I feel like a bum.  I don't do much around the house and feel like I should do more but my dh says not to worry, your job is to get better.  But that is so hard as I am used to doing more than I do now.  Even if I do something I seem to be down for the next day.  Uggghhh...it just never ends.

    Welcome to all the new people.....I read almost everyday but don't post much.  Here is a little bit of my story.  Was diagnosed in Dec of 2006 with IBC on my left side with 9 out of 17 nodes postive...Had a lumpectomy, chemo and rads.  A year later almost to the day, diagnosed with IBC on the right side..no nodes involved.  Had a bi-lateral mastectomy, no reconstruction. Put on Femara.  Got the diagnosis of Stage 4 April 2009.  I have mets to my bones,lymph nodes and liver.  Was on xeloda and nuvelbine...didn't work.  We moved for Illinois to South Carolina in August..I got a new onc and he put be on Abraxane, Avastin, zometa and falsodex.  Abraxane kicked my butt but it also knocked out alot of the cancer but I still have tumors.  He took me off Abraxane.  I will have a scan in March to back sure it isn't progressing.  Unfortunately, I will probably on something.  But stil I have tons of years yet to live but somedays it sure doesn't feel like it...I will quit now...

    WE got snow last week almost 8 inches but it is all gone.  We are going to be sunny and in the 60's this weekend....

    Ginny

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