bilateral masectomy in 3 days
Hi Everyone,
it is hard to believe that I was diagnosed on Nov. 19 and have come to this point. I am just so thankful that it was found early. After a lumpectomy and a reexcision and no clear margins, I have decided to have a masectomy with reconstruction. I can't continue to live this way and worry. I have a high grade in a larger area than any of the diagnostics have shown so I'm ready to just get rid of it. I would love to hear from any of you that have gone through the surgery. Any advice is greatly appreciated. I always learn so much from all of you.
Melissa
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Hi Melissa, my surgery (BMX w/SNB) is in 10 days so no experience yet, just a prayer for you. Have you checked out the "diary of a bilateral mastectomy" thread? Very helpful & informative, let me see if I can copy the URL here:
http://community.breastcancer.org/forum/91/topic/695426?page=2#idx_44
Best wishes for a successful surgery! {{hugs}}
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I am schedule for the 26th. I have DCIS on the left side but am planning a bilateral mastectomy. My mom had a BMX nearly 20 years ago. She said the worst part was the drains. Good luck on your surgery. I will keep you in my prayers.
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I had bitaleral 5/1. IT really was not that bad. The pain gave way to just discomfort after couple of days. Sleeping was hard. Get lots of big soft pillows for arms and to make a wedge like system. The drains just get in the way. I worn sleeveless undershirt and pinned them to the hem at the neck. That way they were not in the way of my ams moving. Also get couple of oversized button-up shirts. Take lip balm with you too. I wish all of you the best, if you have any questions I am more than glad to answer here or PM me.
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Hi Melissa:
I had a bilateral with immediate reconstruction in June 2008. Like you I chose a prophylactic on the other side. The worst part really is the drains. I bought a special camisole at Nordstrom's (some insurance companies pay for part of it), with pockets for the drains. It really helped. My husband changed the drains-- I just couldn't. It is very difficult to raise your arms, esp. with a bilateral. Before my surgery I put all my essentials in a bottom drawer, within easy reach. After 3 weeks I had physical therapy to regain arm motion. I assume you'll be having a SNB? If so, the therapy will really help.. The therapist massages the scar tissue and teaches exercises that help to regain motion. But if you do them on your own (your bs should give you a sheet of exercises), don't start until after the drains are out). If you have tissue expanders put in for reconstruction, that makes the recovery a bit more difficult. I found them to be very painful, then just uncomfortable, until I had my implants put in 4 months later (that surgery is a piece of cake). One piece of advice other women gave me was to get a stool softener. All of the meds. will really make you constipated, and that is the last thing you need when already in pain.
You will need help, and if people offer it, accept it. My sister did my hair before my post-op appointments-- sounds silly but it made me feel better. And treat yourself to whatever you love. I was so stressed worrying about the pathology results, but ice cream and dvds,helped me. Some people say the surgery is not such a big deal-- I disagree--you will feel exhausted for a while-- just from the anaesthesia alone, and emotionally it is difficult to face your post-op body. It gets easier as the scars fade. Be good to yourself.-- I hope some of this is useful. Please post when you feel up to it to let us know how you are.-- Julie
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The camisole that Julie mentioned is great - especially if you're going out, you can secure / hide the drains and mine also came with foam 'foobs' to put in breast pockets - I was filled to 250cc during surgery - also had 4 drains at first, so camisole was most helpful after 2 drains were pulled, and i felt more like going out...
the only thing I would add to the great list for packing on the surgery thread is a back scratcher! I thought I had thought of everything...I even took an extension cord for my ipone and charger so I'd have my phone at my fingertips...but lo and behold I needed my back scratched right between my shoulder blades, of course right after my husband left to go to the motel for sleep:(
Unfortunately I developed an infection on the prophylactic side about 2 1/2 weeks post op - I had even had another fill already!! Anyway, to be safe (after a week of inpatient iv antibiotics) I had the expander removed...Will be an inconvenience in the mean time, as I'll be 'uneven' - But will have replaced a couple weeks after I finish radiation (to the other side - which is now 500cc) and then both should be ready for exchange 'on schedule'
Feel free to pm me with any ?'s if I can be of any help
Di Di
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I had a bil mastectomy and lymphectomy in Dec. 2008. My doctor had put a tube with marcaine into the surgical site for 3 days. I never had any pain from the mastectomy. My pain was only from the drains. I had three JP drains and those were little buggers!!! My husband helped me with emptying in the beginning because it was very painful just to move the drain. He had to have a very steady hand. I just pinned the drains to the inside of my shirt. I wore oversized shirts. I didn't have expanders put in at the time of surgery. In fact, I still haven't had them or even considered implants yet. I guess I like to keep a close eye on my chest wall for now
My friend had her implants immediately after surgery. She then had to have radiation so now her implant is hard and a different shape on that side. I would suggest that you ask about your chances for radiation. If you are getting radiation then I don't think it is wise to do reconstruction immediately. I have spoke to a few plastic surgeons and if there is a chance you need radiation than you shouldn't get your implants immediately. Usually, people that have radiation need to have the tram flap because the radiated skin loses it's elasticity. Find all this out before you get your reconstruction. I would hate for you to have a hard boob like my friend.
Take care and feel free to send me a message
Sincerely, Patty
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Hi there...I was diagnosed 11/6/09 and had my bilateral two weeks ago today...1/6/10. Come on over to the January Mastectomy group...there's a whole bunch of us on there who have had our surgeries (or will have them) this month. We're supporting each other and comparing experiences as we are going through them.
Like you, my BMX was my 3rd surgery....1st was my biopsy, 2nd was my lumpectomy (which was more like a half-breast-ectomy) - but still without clear margins, and it also showed multi-focal
If you have specific questions, feel free to ask me or private message too....
I have actually had quite a bit of energy, even that very night of my surgery! I walked "around the block" on the hospital floor just a few hours after surgery, and went home less than 24 hours after the surgery. (I didn't have reconstruction).
Getting used to the new me is going to be hard, but I'm trying. I'm a "young" 50, and an energetic one with younger children (18, 17, 12), and I'm always on the go....
will be thinking of you and praying for you.....these last few days before your surgery are really your hardest.....
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I'm scheduled for mastectomy on Feb. 8th. I'm still undecided if I want a bi-lateral mx, but need to decide soon. This is one of the hardest decision I have to make.
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