LIFE'S A BEACH!

oh sweet friends! my thoughts, prayers and hugs and love are with you!!! Go one day at a time and know you have us all to carry you when you need it.

 Good news - my scans show no progression and one spot seems to be a little less intense in activity. They are checking a bile duct dialation (just to be on the safe side) but all is GOOD!!!!!

Hi everybody.

Have managed to have a very lovely day -- after my nap. Teeheeheeheeee.

We went to an afternoon movie and then on to pizza dinner @ the grandpeeps. I managed to hug my babeez without picking them up or getting "bumped" and it did me wonders to spend time with them.

Then we went over to our neighbors party across the street. It was just several couples, the hostess knew what's been going on with me. Very understated and calm. I decided not to make a big announcement -- since there's nothing to announce of yet. So it was "daNile" evening, which was lovely.

Now a chance to read the supportive thoughts here...... which mean the world to me.

Elaine, what absolutely brilliant news. Something for us to celebrate. Hallelujah!!

I'm doubtful that I'll make it till midnight. Hugs all around!!

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Gonna go grab my comfy blankie and curl up on the couch at the end of the Christmas tree and see if I can get some shut eye, before the sun comes up in earnest.

love you beachies

it's a new day, a new year!!

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There's always room for more.

Happy 2010 Beachies!!

Be blessed with love, joy, peace, happiness and good health!!

 and REST.......

Everybody must be snowed in and can't get to the beach today ;(

Praying for a 'calm' year on the beach.

And just happy moments dipping our paws.......ahem, I mean toes, in the water.

I think that is a grand idea Arnie.

Happy New Year, Beachies.

Didn't mean to keep anybody guessing about my where-with-all. I've had a very lovely, sane, worry free day. I wish I could bottle this sense of calm & well-being. It must be from all of the prayers, PMs, FB wishes, phone calls, emails...... well you get the idea.

My goal for the day was to get the Christmas tree taken down, with the ornaments put away & I've gotten it done!!!! You may remember that last year I never took the teeny tree down & just moved it into the guest room for 11.3 months. LOLOLOL. So this is a major accomplishment.

I had an epiphany this morning that has made me very happy. All along, before this drama, our plan was for DH to depart for FL tomorrow morning. Well this morning, I realized that his getting to go south according to the original 'plan' was the one thing we could actually control.

So the two of us had a big heart-to-heart & he's spent the day packing the car with me getting the laundry together for his departure. I am sooooooooo glad about this.

We had of course both assumed that I'd be a dithering ninny & that there was no question that he would stay here.

The only downside, is that he won't be here when I get the actual 'news' path-findings. (No plan is perfect.) I am planning to pack a bag and move into Sarah's for the rest of the weekend. That will benefit each of us.

The way I look at it, is that if I need to proceed with surgery mid-Jan, he will be back in plenty of time for that. If I were to win the lottery and receive the get out of jail free card, not requiring surgery, I'll join him in FL mid-month as per the original design and we all go merrily along.

This way he will have a couple weeks of sunshine, golf, warmth and our life as we imagine it, prior to returning here to become my nursemaid if that's needed (surgery).

So here's what I need from you. Tell me that you're proud of me for thinking 'big picture' and that you'll keep on praying for my continued calm. Got it? No body gets to panic. Worst case scenerio is that he could fly back at a moments notice.

Remember my big girl panties are on..... this is not my first waltz on this program.

Strangely enough I have four school visits to make next week -- the most I've scheduled compactly in ages & ages..... in an effort to get to FL. So I will have 'plenty' to keep me occupied.

Then Jan. 11th it's fly to Baton Rouge and Coonie's waiting embrace.

As a very wise woman told me this afternoon -- in that she had a similar 'call' to make -- there will quite possibly be numerous sacrifices for him to make in the coming months. These two weeks are not needed to be vaporized.

So there you have it.

The laundry's done. The tree is down. The car is packed and our beloved Buckeyes are tied in the Rose Bowl. All is well with my world.

Keep up the prayers for calm & acceptance.

I am reading the threads about mastectomies and what to expect. If anyone has 'specifics' to share of their experience -- I would greatly appreciate your sharing, or PM.

1. What helpful hints beyond the first thread in that department do you have to offer?

2. What were you like/able to do at one week, two weeks, three weeks, a month etc. How soon do you think it's realistic for me to be singing and dancing again with young children..... which also requires lifting gear, hardshell guitar case (heavy) etc etc. Six weeks? Eight weeks?

Of all the areas on the boards, I can't seem to find a comprehensive thread(s) that outlines real life experiences and expectations. If I'm missing some section some one point out the obvious.

Go BUCKEYES!!!!

Faithie----you're gonna get on brain-overload real soon.

Sounds like you've got it planned just right.

If -- "if" you have surgery, it's really not that bad to recover.

For me personally, I had a bilateral and ooph the same day, and went home

the next day. I was sore for a few days, but I was back riding 4-wheelers within the month.

Now, be sure and get your doctor's opinion. We're all different and some may heal differently

than others. I was just ready to GO! I never took pain meds because I just wasn't in any pain.

Thank Gawd for that!

You're level headed Faithie. It'll all come together. The best scenario is for you to join you DH in Florida......AFTER your trip to Baton Rouge!!!!!!!!!!!! whooooooo hooooooooo!! I promise I won't squeeze too hard......LOL

Lovin ya sis!

Faith sounds like you have it under control but I am glad that you are not alone while you wait for your results.Sending (((( HUGS and Prayers)))))

2Hands. Welcome to the beach. I hope that someone with some zip will get you a pair of honorary flip flops. I'm suddenly pretty pooped. LOL.

I spent all afternoon reading your Nov. thread of surgeries. That's been the most 'helpful' for my brain so far. You were masterful at being the 'room mother.' I was soooooooooo appreciative and I wasn't even in the group. You really provided an amazing gift..... to all those involved, but even to me, these weeks later. Thank you.

GO BUCKEYES. I'm going to take this as my own happy talisman for the New Year!!!!!!!

well, unless this is the way you cope best (and that is MOST important), just my humble thought - try not to make too many plans and assumptions just yet, since you don't quite know what you're planning for ...  The waiting is so hard; too much time to think and imagine and and and. I hope that makes sense (and does not sound, I don't know, bad/wrong/flip/etc.). always proud of you! hugs

Welcome flips for ead/Liz