Its back and I have a 5 month old baby

Awww Paxton, I'm so sorry.  AND, forget about that 2 years crap if you have mets!!!!  Many, many of us have had mets for years and are doing well.  This spring it will be 3 years with liver mets (bone mets gone) and I am here, very much alive.

For now, focus on dealing with the recurrance, cross the mets bridge if and when you have to.  Hit the cancer hard, with all you have.  You're a stong, young woman.  And what a sweet little baby!!!

Other Moms will come to support you (I'm not a Mom so I don't have that special wisdom).  You will get through this.  Hugs for you and your dear little boy.

Elizabeth

xox

Paxton-

I am so sorry that you are dealing with a recurrence. I hate cancer.

I don't know if you believe that diet has anything to do with cancer or not but there is a book that I would like to suggest to you. It is called "The China Study" by T. Colin Campbell. I read this book after I was diagnosed the second time and it makes total sense to me. After my first diagnosis, I didn't change anything in my life. The second time was a wake up call for me. I knew I had to do something. So I follow the guidelines in the book. You could ask for the book as a Christmas gift maybe.

I hope your PET scan comes out clear.

Good luck to you.

So  very sorry to hear your news-it's not surprising that you're devastated. Really hoping that you don't have mets-but, as the girls have said, there are many treatments available if you do, so let's hope that you find one which works well for you. I'm so sad for you-you've had no time to move on from your original diagnosis before facing yet more problems.Please try to avoid statistics-you are an individual, not a number and there's no way of knowing how well you may respond. Once treatment has begun, you'll feel a little more in control. Can I suggest too, that you accept as much help as is offered? If you do have mets, then you will be on some form of treatment for life-and it is incredibly tiring. Good luck to you and your family.

Paxton, is your ER/PR status the same as your first bout with this disease?  Another gal on here had it recur in the opposite breast but it turned out to be ER+ rather than ER-. 

I had a spot on my liver and adrenal glad with my first dx. I had a PET/CT scan and it turned out to be negative.  Praying yours will too.

Shirley

Do not... I repeat... do NOT allow ANY doctor to give you an expiration date.  I had IDC on one side, then got DCIS a year later on the other side, did a double mastectomy and as I was finally recovered and ready to move on... BOOM, mets to lung (and now liver).  

That Stage IV dx was just over SIX years ago.  Not only am I still here, but I have been completely asymptomatic the entire time, although only reached NED during the first 3 years.  I'm not saying that everyone will have the same experience as me, but no one knows.

I had a consultation at Sloan-Kettering and after the exam and discussion, I asked a question about the proper order of treatment (and if there even was a proper order).  Instead of answering my question, the doctor said, "it really doesn't matter.  You're not going to live five years"  I didn't ASK for a prognosis and it was very damaging to hear.

And the kicker is... SHE WAS WRONG!!  I celebrated my SIX year Stage IV "cancerversary" on December 1st and I feel absolutely fine even though the mets are also in my liver.  I'm not saying that being Stage IV is a walk in the park 'cause it isn't.  But new things are coming out of clinical trials all the time and you should set a goal of staying alive until the next big thing comes along that will beat the beast to the curb.

I wish you the best and hope that the PET comes back "dark".

Robin 

Hi paxton

I am not yet diagnosed with mets...but suspecious about a mass which is seen on the phophylactic reconstruction breast.....tests are going on..

I met a 80 yrs old lady at the lab last month..she had come for a follow up blood work..she had a mastectomy 20 yrs ago, had chemo, radiation and all...2 yrs ago she had liver mets about 9 tumours in liver..she took chemo, radiation, and hormonal treatment...she said all her liver lesions disappeared....she is quite healthy..I was so surprised...i thought once you get mets, life spirals down from there...that's not true...every individual is different..doctors cannot make a generalised statement about the time of survival..they make these assumptions looking at people who did not do well...and forget that there are so many women who are living well after loong time of their mets diagnosis...cancer is a living cell whose brain got whacky..it can go whacky as long as it is living...we got to do everything possible to kill it...and good luck and prayers coming your way....