Widowed parent's 50th wedding Anniv.

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samon
samon Member Posts: 100
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer

Just wanted some advice on if or what I should do for my mom to recognize that it would have been her 50th wedding anniversary coming up.  My dad died over 30 years ago, so it's not a recent thing, but I know she thinks about it and so do I.  She even mentioned that she gets invites to other anniversary celebrations.  I know she doesn't want a party or anything, but I don't want to ignore the day either.  Unfortunately, she has a funeral to go to that day (so that won't make the day easier) and I have an activity to go to for my kids.  She is planning to me us later at my kids activity.   I never know if I should do something or just mention that I know it would have been their anniversary and tell her how much I lover her.   

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  • Mantra
    Mantra Member Posts: 968
    edited October 2009

    I would do the following. Mom, I know that (date??) would have been your 50th anniversary and I was thinking that it might be nice for us to get together for dinner unless you prefer to be alone. I know I would really like to be with you that day but of course the final decision is yours." 

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  • GramE
    GramE Member Posts: 5,056
    edited October 2009

    Get helium balloons, NOT the mylar ones -- have you and kids write a message with magic makers and send "UP".   Or if cemetery visit - take rose petals and pick off one by one:  I miss you, I love you.

    I am a widow  of 6 1/2 years, so not new to me either and Oct 11 was our 40th wedding anniversary.   I did the rose petals at the cemetery, cried a bit and said a prayer.     

    If go out to eat, have a place set for Dad and take a rose and leave on the table.   Do not let it "go by" without at least mentioning how much you love her.    MY opinion.     

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