A stage >4 for those of us who care about all sisters

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GracieM2007
GracieM2007 Member Posts: 1,564
edited June 2014 in IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma)

Here's a thread for all of us less than stage fours who care about ALL of our sisters, EVEN those sisters who are in stage four.  It's a place where we can talk and be ourselves, and NOT a place for vindicitive rants against other women who might be in a worse place than we are.  There seem to be a small few lately who want to do nothing other than to cause a fight.  And this board was not created for that.  They do not want rules.  Rules to them are something to fight against.  Got news for them, the entire universe runs on rules.  

 Some Stage four sisters have asked time and time again to have a spot where they can come and deal with this beast on their own, without any questions.  They were given that spot.  I can see where they are coming from and I give them enough respect AS HUMAN BEINGS, let alone as having Stage Four, to comply with their requests.  Anyone else who has a problem with respecting their wishes, is simply childish, selfish, self centered and yes, sick in the way they think.  These sisters are facing something we all hope and pray we never face.  And yet they are being attacked almost every day now from people who have absolutely NO compassion, NO caring, NO love in their lives for others in similar or worse situations.  

 IFor those of us who do understand, who try to put into practice the old adage "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you", you are most welcome here.  Hopefully if we ignore those who insist on arguments and fights, we can make this place a better place for ALL of us, including our sisters who are stage four, because their fight truly is the hardest, regardless of what anyone else says.

Blessings, and welcome :)

Gracie 

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  • GracieM2007
    GracieM2007 Member Posts: 1,564
    edited October 2009

    Thanks to all of you who have pm'ed me about this thread.  I just wish you had been made to feel more comfortable on the site so that you wouldn't be nervous about posting on it.  And I agree that we have to start having a more adult conversation about what is going on with all of the anger that is shown.  I hope this can help be a start to that conversation.  That was my intent with starting this thread.  Instead of having a place where other sisters are torn down, to try to have a place where we can start building each other up.  And I hope that those of you who are worried about posting due to the fact that so many get attacked for their views, will find a place here where you can feel more at ease about posting your feelings.

    Thanks again,

    Blessings,

    Gracie 

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  • navygirl
    navygirl Member Posts: 886
    edited October 2009

    Clearly I have not been on the thread where this issue has come up, and considering what is said here - I am thankful I have not. I don't browse the Stage IV thread because I'm not stage IV, and I only respond on a thread that resides there if it is to show support or understanding on a topic I can relate to. Regardless of where you go regularly on BCO, or what forums you relate to, NO ONE should be torn down, challenged, or chagrined for their beliefs - needs - or feelings.

    I appreciate your bravery in putting this out there and trying to start a constructive dialogue, and wish you the best in accomplishing some positive changes.

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  • GracieM2007
    GracieM2007 Member Posts: 1,564
    edited October 2009

    Thanks, Navy.  I agree.  We all have our thoughts, opinions, ect.  And instead of fighting about them, we should try (although sometimes it is hard) to talk them out.  And sometimes our emotions get in the way.  But if we dont' try, then we will never get anywhere.

    Blessings,

    Gracie 

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  • pip57
    pip57 Member Posts: 12,401
    edited October 2009

    Wow, what an uproar we had.  I guess I don't really understand why it is so difficult to let stage IV girls have their own space.  They ARE in a different place and their reality is not the same as ours.  It kind of reminds me of when my daughter died.  People would say "Oh, I know just how you feel.  I lost my Mom recently."  We were both grieving, but there was a world of difference between our losses. 

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