Stage Less than 4 Woman...Here's YOUR place..

I stopped writing to stage 4 ladies awhile ago. It broke my heart. I used to PM some of them I wanted to give a hug too. I am way to afraid to do that anymore. So I just don;t. I sure hope they do not think I was fake when I did contact them. I just feel, they do not not not want me around anymore. I pray for them DAILY and I am not kidding.. They do not need a PM from me to get my prayers heard from our Father. I am not mad at all.. I am not stage 4. I will never understand their feelings unless I am. I feel it is not my place to try.

I read all the post's and I am glad that my now deceased SIL told me to never go into the Stage IV area, unless I was stage IV. So, I read from time to time and pray but don't post and I feel bad for the woman who posted there but Lexilove don't go away you are much to much fun you too Estepp! I hope to god we don't ever have a reason to go behind door #4 again, and may those women live well and long.

What Madalyn said.

Oh, and one of my chemo sisters on the May '08 thread found that crocs were the only footwear she could tolerate when the skin peeled off her feet from hand/foot syndrome.  You just never can tell...

otter 

Thanks for the new thread. Until 2 days ago I was fine but some of my BC sisters remarks really upset me. I felt like because I'm still stage I, My BC didn't count at all.

We didn't have a choice when we all started this journey. I care and respect all women an any stage, but I don't want to be looked down because I'm an earlier stage.

We all need to belong to a supportive group system no matter where we are in our journey.

Thank You again lexislove. I was upset before but now I feel much more better

Hugs to all

Sheila

I will say, I have no place on stage 4 threads. I really believe this. My docs have no idea what stage I was.. they figure stage 3... but that is not stage 4.

I would never leave BCO because there are many way I gain here.. and I am really needed here, but I am not needed anywhere on stage 4 threads..

I do wish, for their sakes.. and a lot of ours... Stage 4 could have a  private area.. it actually might help from scaring new BCO ladies... ( mods... JMO... this might help the newest dx not fear the worst.)

I for one, wold support stage 4 having a password protect here on bco... it might be the best... for so,so many.

otter - really?  i've never tried them on.  i'm surprised by that because to me they just don't look comfortable.  i would have thought something lined like the winter clogs with that sherpa lining would have been more comfortable.

glad to know that in case i have peeling skin.  i may end up having to wear them! 

Lexis, just so you know, last night, in my post I said that I hoped that none of those women who were attacking stage four ladies were never in their shoes because what goes around comes around.  To make it plain for you, because I guess you have a hard time understanding some things.  I did not mean that they would get stage four.  I meant that some day someone would be just as mean to them as they were being to the stage four women.  And I MEANT that with every fiber of my being.  Karma is a bitch.

 Have fun on your little "I'll show them" type of rant on this thread.  It's childish, ridiculous, and was only started for spite.  What goes around truly DOES come around.  

 Oh, and I wont' be back.  So have fun talking about me behind my back...it seems to be what you are doing to others, so I have no doubt you will do it to me also.

Dear Ladies, Wow, I can not believe what this crazy disease can do to us. I think that you are all wonderful and I just hope that we can all stick together no matter what stage we are. Hey, I am no saint either, I left the board once but came back. I was a little angry about something but realized we are all just trying to survive this horrible disease(plus I was weaning myself off of anti-depressants, ugly!!!!, I was such a jerk at times). I have to remind myself that God is in control. Lexi, you are such an inspiration and cute, and Gracie, don't leave mad, forgive and start again. God bless you all, Kathy

I'm afraid I stirred that whole pot unintentionally.

I will say this.

Estepp; I am a fallen Catholic, you know my story & my child born of sin who will spend her life in purgatory. When I wrote to you; YOU were kind. You welcomed me with love, life & understanding. These are the moments on these boards that last forever.

Fairy; She suggested I have an OncoDX when I was newly Dx. That changed my life.

rgiuff; Stopped my panic at Dx and saved my ovaries.

Konacat; Well, I love her because she loves cats as much as I do & that is just a bond that can not be broken.

Ivory: There is a woman that could get along with everyone with-out trying. So beautiful, I feel her love through my key board.

Lovegolf; Called me, the day of my Mx, to see if I was okay. She didn't know me, but she cared, I will love her & remember her always.

Beesie~Need I say more?

There are close friends I have made, we have gone through surgery together & support each other daily. Toni, Renee, Sharon, Karen, Michelle, Joni, Kathy, Terri....it goes on & on.

We can't all get along. We won't all like each other, Lexi, I have never spoke to you, but I read you often & I can honestly say I care for you. We are all we have ladies, if we do not watch each other's backs....who will?

I respect Stage IV wanting private moments to share private thoughts. It is easily understandable. But, I defended that stage1 girl, for I found no place logical for her to post that question.

I do shoot from the hip, I tell it how it is & many can't take that. I respect that too.

I have a point & I forget what it is....is it too early to drink?

Yes, I said I would not be back, but I am  Not to argue any more with lexis.  She's not worth the time....but to let those of you who do care about our Stage Four sisters and indeed ALL sisters who are fighting this fight, that another thread has been created for those of us who are sick and tired of all of this vindictiveness and want to just talk.  No fighting will be allowed, hopefully if all of us ignore those few individuals who are sick enough to want to belittle a stage four sister, we can have a great thread.  You are all welcome who want to come and just talk.  

Thanks, and Blessings to you,

Gracie 

Why do I feel we're living the script from Mean Girls?

 But none of us have Lindsay Lohan's or Rachel McAdam's body, so no one is going to watch us act like a bunch of stupid high school girls.

Frightened women will always make mistakes and post on the wrong board. That's life.

Now officially ignoring ALL these threads, and suggest that we all do the same - and return to our business here - supporting newbies, and keeping up with the people whose information was so helpful when we were in treatment ourselves.