Homophobic Response to Post??

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DragonGirl
DragonGirl Member Posts: 269
edited June 2014 in LGBTQA+ With Breast Cancer

Hello ladies,

Well, I just posted in the Stage IV section (entitled "In Remission but with the blues."). Help me out here, please go there and read my post and the first reply. What do you think? I don't know, I just get the willies whenever someone responds to something I've written wherein I've revealed my sexuality (as a pure aside) with some religious plattitude. Am I being too critical? The last thing I needed to hear was about her friend working two jobs when my post is about how the fact that I can't get back to work troubles me. Then she tells me that her life is peachy because Christ loves her. Look, I'm religious, I was raised a Catholic, and I don't want to over-react but doesn't that post smell a little fishy? Is her friend in the same position as me because she isn't married, or because she has breast cancer? If I was straight and married would everything be OK? Am I reading between the lines too much?

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  • cindoe
    cindoe Member Posts: 265
    edited October 2009

    Yep I think you are being critical, she wasn't pushing anything on you. I don't see any homophobic response at all.

    Cyn

    This is  my partner's log in, she passed away recently. I just wanna say at no time did I feel any  response was in a homophobic way, everyone was kind and helpful. I think they have more pressing things to worry about than your sexuality.

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  • DragonGirl
    DragonGirl Member Posts: 269
    edited October 2009

    I'm so sorry about your partner. I hope you are OK. Thanks for your input. I've re-read the post and think you're right, just over-reacting. Tired today and not firing on all burners. Thanks for the reality check.

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  • Mantra
    Mantra Member Posts: 968
    edited October 2009

    Hey, I just hopped over to read the response you mentioned. IMO, I didn't read anything homophobic into it all. I read it a few times trying to see if perhaps I was missing something, but honestly couldn't see it.

    To be honest, I haven't read your entire post. I'm having one of those crappy days and needed to set it aside for now and read it over the weekend. However, I wanted to respond to this post just to let you know my opinion.

    One thing I know for sure, cancer definitely has no boundaries. Religion, sexuality, social, economic, race, age,  . .  it just keeps on coming. I sometimes feel like we're fighting this battle; cancer vs women of the world. I have always believed that female power is a force unlike anything else. Power, brains, determination, guts and on and on. But until we get the medical community behind us with better technology, cancer is just going to keep on winning battle after battle. I want to be alive when we finally win the war.

    Please know you are not alone even though at times you feel like you are. I have found that places like this board have allowed me to reach across countries and cross over oceans to find others who truly understand, care and are willing to lend a helping hand.

    None of us can change how our friends and relatives have reacted to our diagnosis. I've been fortunate my experience has been a good one. However, put in their position, I honestly don't know how I would have reacted. I think because of my own family history of cancer and the way it was handled when I was growing up, I hate to admit it but I think I would have been very awkward and uncomfortable. I feel I would have had a hard time dealing with it and I consider myself fortunate that my family and friends came together to support me.

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  • DragonGirl
    DragonGirl Member Posts: 269
    edited October 2009

    Cyn,

    You know, I've been looking at your partner's picture. I read her member page. I hope you don't mind that I did that, it's just that I saw her diagnosis at the bottom of your post and the date she joined after I responded to you. My response to you telling me she passed felt so empty, saying I'm sorry was just not enough.  She was very lucky to have you. Always remember that your being there for her gave her more than you can possibly imagine. Don't ever doubt it. Your simple presence, in each and every moment, was enough.

    You are in my prayers.

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  • cindoe
    cindoe Member Posts: 265
    edited October 2009

    Thank You

    Cyn

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