Confessions of a hospice patient

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  • Jyber
    Jyber Member Posts: 38
    edited October 2009

    Amber's opening post on this thread is just one of MANY examples of her great emotional intelligence. I am 56 years old and do not think I have evolved nearly as well. She is and will remain an inspiration to me.

    Dan, I hope you print off and keep all of Amber's posts on this forum as well as on her blog. They are treasures and demonstrate her wonderful spirit. She epitomized grace and caring. One day these writings will be treasured by her children.

    Thank you, Dan, for your wonderful support of one of our beloved sisters. And thank you for coming here to fill us in on her final journey to her true home.

    Best wishes to all of Amber's loved ones,

    Joan 

  • hollyann
    hollyann Member Posts: 2,992
    edited October 2009

    Amber, rest in peace dear Breast Friend.........You will be sorely missed......Tears flowing freely now........When will this ever stop?.........I HATE CANCER!......

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited October 2009

    Prayers for Amber and her family.

    It is a sad dayCry.

  • Artemis
    Artemis Member Posts: 759
    edited October 2009
    (((Amber's family)))  Cry
  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited October 2009

    Amber , may you rest now I will never ever forget you and all that you did for me. Prayers for you sweet sweet sister and your family. 

  • Danie
    Danie Member Posts: 184
    edited October 2009

    My deapest condolences to Dan, the kids, family and friends.  May you Rest in Peace my dear Amber.  You were such a sweatheart.  My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

    Comfort hugs to everybody who knew Amber,

    Danie

  • saint
    saint Member Posts: 1,877
    edited October 2009

    Amber-may the angels lead you into paradise & take you to the holy city...........

    Dan & family--I offer prayers that you all find peace & comfort & recognize her in your day to day lives. She will never be far....hugs

  • Makratz
    Makratz Member Posts: 12,678
    edited October 2009

    Amber, I'm happy that God has finally called you home.  Enjoy your new life and know that your past life has touched so many of us.

    Dan and family, my heart is breaking for you all  What a wonderful lady Amber was.  I know you will keep her memory alive and remember her fondly.  She blessed all of your lives and so many of ours.  I know Amber is resting now, knowing she won the battle.

    Hugs,

    Linda

  • cakeisgreat
    cakeisgreat Member Posts: 660
    edited October 2009

    Lord, you have enveloped sweet Amber in Your arms.  Please envelope Dan and the children in Your arms now, and for many many years to come.  Thank You that Amber's children have a mom they will always be proud to know and be inspired to be like.  Thank You that Amber's spirit will continue to shine in them so that Dan and the kids can see her forever through them until they meet her again in heaven. 

  • GrammyNancy
    GrammyNancy Member Posts: 666
    edited October 2009

    My deepest sympathy to Amber's family.  Amber was such a loving, caring and inspirational woman.  I am sure Amber was welcomed home by a mighty chorus.  Your family will be in my prayers.

  • celtic
    celtic Member Posts: 59
    edited October 2009

    My sympathy to Amber's family, friends, Dan and Children, in this time of grief you are not alone.

    Amber will always be a special lady and thought of often for her wisdom, faith, motherhood and choices she made about her life.

    Christine ((((  hugs ))))

  • kbugmom
    kbugmom Member Posts: 15,189
    edited October 2009

    Amber showed us true courage. Dan, kids and family may you have a peace that only comes from the Father. May the days and years ahead only be remembered with loving memories.  God bless you all.

    Susan

  • TenderIsOurMight
    TenderIsOurMight Member Posts: 4,493
    edited October 2009

    Adding my words of sincere condolences to this thread in light of Amber's loss. I am so sorry breast cancer claimed a woman in the fullness of life, as well as for all the other's we mourn over and over again. May our world quicken the pace to find relief from this dreadful disease which takes women and men of all ages. My heart weeps for her family.

    Rest in peace Amber,

    Tender

  • deborye
    deborye Member Posts: 7,002
    edited October 2009

    My deepest sympathy to Dan and the children.  May God give them strength. 

    R.I.P. Lovely Amber

  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 10,007
    edited October 2009

    Angel Amber. We have arrived safely in the midst of the Smoky Mountains -- on a day when they are literally filled with smoke, and proverbial hanging clouds. Ridge after ridge and cloud after cloud. It was a day of driving and praying.

    Upon our arrival I learned that you are now safely in heaven..... I feel as tho you are just beyond that next ridge. Just barely away from your earthly life and that heaven is so close by.

    Amber, you were faithful till the very end of your walk here among us.

    We can't fathom your departure from witnessing to us. We can't grasp a loss of your magnitude.

    In heaven time must indeed be 'counted' differently.

    I do believe that any question you might have ever had is now answered. You are whole. I trust that to be true. You are now eternal.

    Your blog and your writings here will forever comfort those who take the time to read. Your children will be forever blessed by your words. Years, decades from now they will read, reflect and renew at your example, your honesty, your grace and your candor. They will be filled with pride to be called your child.

    Dan. There are no words. No words that are adequate. No words that are appropriate. You have demonstrated your depth and wisdom. That doesn't take away the ache. Please know that I will continue to pray for you -- for the heavens to give you assurance after reassurance that all is well. On earth as it is in heaven.

    xx00xx00xx00xx00xx

    (((((((((((((((((((Dan))))))))))))))))))))

    ((((((((((((the children))))))))))))))))

    xx00xx00xx00xx00xx

    Strength and courage.

    Strength and courage.

    Strength and courage.

  • EGAL
    EGAL Member Posts: 539
    edited October 2009

    My sincere condolences to you and your children.  May Amber rest in peace~

    Ellen

  • kjbell
    kjbell Member Posts: 974
    edited October 2009

    God bless Amber and her family. May you find comfort and stregnth with each other.

  • coonie
    coonie Member Posts: 7,618
    edited October 2009

    Continued prayers for Dan, children, family and friends!!

    Rest in Peace sweet Amber! Rest in Peace!

  • AnnaM
    AnnaM Member Posts: 1,387
    edited October 2009

    The heavens are weeping in Boston for those Amber left behind. I know up top there's some mighty perfect sunshine, though, and I figure Amber completed her path way faster than we would have wanted. What wisdom she showed us! What grace and generosity!

    My wishes for peace and acceptance to her entire family.

  • kmccraw423
    kmccraw423 Member Posts: 3,596
    edited October 2009

    Amber, you left us way too soon.  In my soul I know that you are with Heavenly Father, whole, at peace and watching over your family and many friends.  My soul knows this but my heart is breaking.  So many will miss your gentle touch, your laughter, your wisdom, your love.

    Dan, while Amber gave all of herself to you and the children, all of you gave her so much love and comfort.  Your family and friends are so special and so dear.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Amber, you brought all of us into your love and life and for that there are eternally thankful.  Rest in peace sweet angel.

  • ICanDoThis
    ICanDoThis Member Posts: 1,473
    edited October 2009

    Dan, I know that you and your family are relieved that Amber is at last out of pain and at peace, at home with her heavenly Father. Her faith was so powerful, and I am sure that it sustained her through the travails of this life.

    But, as you do,  I hate that you will not be able to share new teeth, first boy- and girlfriends, graduations and weddings. Even grandchildren and gray hair.  I am angry today at the doctors who dismissed her symptoms, and at this horrible disease that robbed her of the life she planned.

    I hope you know how much your sweet, gentle wife was cared about here.

  • Amberzhubby
    Amberzhubby Member Posts: 7
    edited October 2009
    A heartfelt thank you to all of Amber's breast cancer sisters.  Your love for her and our family is amazing to me and continues to make my heart soar with appreciation.  I posted funeral and other information on her website www.amberchase.weebly.com.  We love you and want you to know that Amber would want you to go for a walk or drive today and enjoy the beauty of the season and then enjoy your favorite drink (her's was Coke) in her honor.  Every day is a gift and I guess I am saying that her disire would be that you do something simple today that reminds you of that.  Much love Dan, Blake, Bekah, Abby, Caleb, and Ammon Smile
  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited October 2009

    I spent 3 hours this morning reading the entire blog. I'm sorry I never had the chance to know Amber, but after all that reading I was left feeling happy that she lived such an amazing, joyous, full out, intense life.

    Amber had a lot of talent as a writer, and though she may not have thought of it in this way, she was really a journalist, showing and telling what she could from her unique vantage point.

    I learned a lot from how Amber lived, and I have a lot of admiration for Amber, her family, and her supportive community. While the cancer is a tragedy her story is a miracle.

  • cindoe
    cindoe Member Posts: 265
    edited October 2009

    May GOD bless, so sorry .

    Cyn

  • navygirl
    navygirl Member Posts: 886
    edited October 2009

    Thank you Dan, Blake, Bekah, Abby, Caleb and Ammon. You will remain in our prayers, now and always.

  • TennesseeMichele
    TennesseeMichele Member Posts: 136
    edited October 2009

    Thank you, Dan, for sharing Amber with us.  I drank a Coke and took a drive today while thinking of her life and how she touched all of us.

    Michele

  • spar2
    spar2 Member Posts: 6,827
    edited October 2009

    So very sorry, she has enriched many of our lives.  I sat on the deck and enjoyed the sunshine and drank a pepsi and thought of her.  My prayers are with the family.  May you have strength to get through.  Hugs.  Sherry

  • coonie
    coonie Member Posts: 7,618
    edited October 2009

    Dan and children---sending lots of hugs and prayers your way today and in the days to come. Hold on to the wonderful memories for they will NEVER be taken away.

    I enjoyed a Diet Coke yesterday (not regular coke I know), but I did have a Reeses Peanut Butter cup to go along with itWink Just enjoying the little things in life in honor of Amber.

    God bless you all in the days, weeks, months and years to come!!

  • hollyann
    hollyann Member Posts: 2,992
    edited October 2009

    Amber you are greatly missed here......But we know you are now among the Guradian Agel Squad who watch over us.........

    Dan and children, sending lots of hugs and love also and many prayers for peace and comfort during this very difficult time.......And I will also do something enjoyable in honor of Amber.....I think I will go walk the nature trail near my home on my day off Tuesday and reflect on what Amber has taught me.....

    I am planting some bulbs soon in honor of Amber and all the BC sisters we have lost.......It is so sad when we lose a loved one before thay are totally bloomed.........

  • Amberzhubby
    Amberzhubby Member Posts: 7
    edited October 2009

    Hello everyone!

    The kids and I are doing as well as can be expected.  I took the kids to do something fun today that would normally have been Amber's department.  She loved to take them on little outings and spoil them a little.  Now that falls to me and I am grateful she showed me how to enjoy the kids.  The kids actually seemed happy today and little Caleb even said it was the best day he had in a long time.  

    I have had a few requests for the information to donate to the funeral expenses or to Amber's children.  Amber wanted the kids to continue to learn piano but she could not continue teaching them so I am going to use donations to go toward carrying on her piano playing legacy in her children.  I am amazed at the kindness and generosity of so many of you.  If I have learned anything over the last couple of years it is to allow people to do kind things when they offer.   You all have already done so much to help in cards, flowers and that special afgahn that was made and sent even before Amber passed.  

    Donations may be made to the following account:

    Amber Chase Cancer Fund (that's the account title)

    America First Credit Union

    P.O. BOX 9199

    Ogden, UT 84409

    1-800-999-3961

    I am not sure if there is a better section of this website to put this information to give it to those that have asked.  I don't know if the Stage IV or IBC section would be better.  I did not recognize the names of all who request the information.  If someone knows it should be else where let me know.  

    Thanks,  Dan

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