Falling apart

We do this one second at a time.  You just have to get through the next second. 

It's entirely understandable to be overwhelmed by a diagnosis such as this.  We are all overwhelmed when it happens.  You aren't alone, and coming here to talk it out is one of the right steps in coming to grips.

You are in the right place at the right time, and we all know what you are going through.  I'm so sorry you had to join our group, but believe me, you are cared for here.....

Hugs,

Pamela

Dear Txstardust,

Everyone of us has had their moment of falling apart.  It's different for each of us and sometimes it is the very responsibilities that are on our shoulders that hold us together.  You will get through this!  It is still so fresh and painful, emotionally and physically.  Give yourself some time.  

We are here.

Pam 

Hey....give yourself a break, you are going thru a very rough time right now. You're entitled to have a good cry.

We all get these awful days, feeling of falling apart, nothing seems to help, and even a very small thing like your printer playing up just feels as if its so big you'll never get it fixed.

It WILL mend. Let it be . Let your fiance sort in when he gets in, go and have girly hour. You have just had surgery,  for gawds sake, get your feet up, girl.

This is not the best path to be on, and the path non of us would choose, were there a choice, but its all a matter of getting thru the day, one day at a time,( sometimes one hour at a time ). Just give yourself time, and plenty of rest, some good food, and gather your friends round you to help. Men always say the wrong thing, the wrong way.... just the way they are. Remember, he's probably just as scared as you are, and treading on eggshells to say the right thing to you. We don't always think that they care, but in their own way they do, so tripping up over a few words isn't the end of the world.  

All the ladies here are at some stage or other of this path, so we are always here to listen and help if we can.

Isabella.

So sorry your going through this but you are in company.  I fell apart for a good 6 months and cried all the time, someone could hug me or ask a question about cancer and i would start bawling and had no control over it.  After surgery I missed 6 weeks of work to just heal.  Then during chemo, I was sick with vomiting and diarrhea about 1 week out of the 3 weeks so missed a week a month till that was over so see you are doing great.  Remember this too shall pass and take 1 day at a time.  Make sure your fiance knows that you are scared and this is a big deal to you.  You are never alone, there will always be someone on the board to talk to that understands.

I know how you feel. I have good days and bad, or, good minutes and bad. First it is overwhelming, then you can get ok, then overwhelmed again. I don't think there is any right way for it to be. Everyone says you get through it. I guess we will see. If you have no choice, and we don't, you will get through it.

I wish you strength in your fight.

Hi,

I know exactly the way you're feeling...yesterday more than  today.  I guess you just go in and out of a variety of moods.  Today I'm falling apart.  I'm terrified.  I don't know what to do.  I feel and am so alone.

I don't know the results of my tests...as a matter of fact they don't even begin until this coming Friday.  I have this gut feeling that the cancer has spread.  I haven't felt "right" in months.  

I feel as I know most of how you're feeling, Shelby.  I want to offer you words of support.  Know that you're certainly not alone in your battle.  There are so many very wonderful women here that are so understanding.  I hope you can feel the caring.  It's sincere.

Shelby, let your feeling out...sadness, fear, anger, feeling as though your world is falling apart.  There seems to be many women here that offer their support so generously.

Please know that I'm thinking of you.  You are in my thoughts and my prayers.  

Bo (sharingwithu)

Hugs Shelby,

From the rush of wonderful responses you can see how common these overwhelming feelings are.  The loss of control over our lives is so terribly sad and scary.  Every day is different now.  I was reading up on this author who actually died twice and was suffering from horrendous depression but had an epiphany when he realised he just needed to go on because he was too curious as to how everything was going to pan out and what would happen the next day.  The human spirit is under there somewhere it is just squashed by fear.  And waiting is just the worst!!!!

Take a day at a time or even an hour at a time - BTW the angry/short fuse times is when I get the most done .... LOL.  Great for the housework - bad for the family!!! 

And look at beautiful sharingwithu giving you her phone number - how amazing is this place.

soft hugs

Helena