Surgery tomorrow & wondering about BRAC tests
Well, it's almost here. I am having a 'double lumpectomy' with wire localizations and a sentinel node biopsy on the left side tomorrow. I have IDC in the left breast and DCIS on the right. I am pretty anxious about this- terrified is probably closer to the truth.
My sister flew to CA to meet with my mom's oncologist last week, my mom has stage IV BC with mets in her bones and lungs. My mom told them at the appointment that her mother and her grandmothers on both sides had BC too! My sister and the ONC were floored by this- apparently this was the 1st time she had told anyone about this (???) , even her doctors! The ONC wants her to get tested for the BRAC gene, especially after hearing the new family history and my own recent diagnosis at the 'young' age of 46.
The ONC said the treatment if my sister or I am BRAC+ would be double MX and removal of the ovaries. Mom hasn't had the test yet and I'm wondering what to do. I think even if I am positive I do not want to change my treatment/ surgery plans. I would rather stay vigilant and try to keep all my original equipment. BC has made me very fragile emotionally. I can't deal with surgery any more drastic than the lumpectomies right now. I am thinking I don't want to mention this to my surgeon at least untill my mom's results are in. Should I? Hoo boy, I'm irritated that mom never told us this and now I want to keep it from my own surgeon! Figure that one out!
I really don't know what to do about this new info... I found all this out on Saturday when my sister emailed me...thoughts, anyone?
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Hi Sparrow,
I wanted to wish you well on your surgery. I am recovering from a lumpectomy that I had on 8/26. I had IDC with DCIS removed - a rather large amount. I am waiting for final pathology to see if they got clear margins. The worst part of the whole deal for me was dealing with after affects of anesthesia. The pain and from surgery has been minimal - more pain from my underarm where they took my sentinal node and one additional inflammed node to biopsy. I took pain meds for one day and tylenol for 2 days. Today is day 5 and I feel really good with no pain meds. I am going back to work tomorrow for a 1/2 day and then will be full time on Wednesday. Are you having sentinal node biopsy?
As far as BRCA testing, I also had that. My biological father dumped my mom when he found out that she was pregnant with me. I've tried to convince my mom to help me get medical history from my biological father's side of the family for years and it's been a very sore subject with my mom. She hasn't wanted to upset the apple cart by making contact with that family. It seems like our parents generation is so much more passive about these types of things or they are scared to confront them. So, when I got breast cancer at age 40 with no family history on mom's side, it was suggested that I get BRCA testing. As I looked into it more, I realized that it's important for me to know, however, it's also important for my kids to know. If I had a gene mutation, my kids would have a 50 chance of having it. Even though I have all boys, I was told that they would be at a much higher risk for other types of cancer, including breast cancer if I was positive. For me it was a no brainer to get it. Along with testing comes genetic counseling and they share a lot of information with you that will help you decide if you want to take an agressive proactive surgical approach.
I was told that being positive for BRCA1 and/or 2 would put me at greater risk for another breast cancer and ovarian cancer. Fortunately for me, mine test came back negative. However, had it been positive, I was planning to get all my girly parts removed at some point. This is such a personal decision. Take one step at a time. Take time to learn as much as you can. With knowledge comes power and with power comes the ability to make decisions that seem unfathomable right now.
By the way, It took 2 weeks for my BRCA test results to come back so I found out right before my surgery that I was negative. Had I been positive, I was planning to stick to the original plan of lumpectomy and then go back later for elective surgery. You are in my thoughts! I wish you the best in your surgery tomorrow.
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Sparrow,
You are dealing with so much right now. Given your mother's new information, you'd have to meet with a geneticist to go over your family history, get your blood drawn and then wait 2-3 weeks for the results. Stay with your original plan, deal with what you do know, then plan to get testing at a later date, if your mom tests positive.
I was 47 when I was first diagnosed, my sister was 36. After I was diagnosed the second time, I went for genetic testing and I am BRCA 2+. With the recommendation of my geneticist I had a hysterectomy with bilateral Salpingo oophorectomy...everything out. After going through "chemo-pause" I figured my hormones were shut down...until my second diagnosis was ER+ PR-. My sister was tested and she is also BRCA 2+. We get it from my dad, as his mom died of breast cancer and he's had colon and kidney cancer. The strange thing with him is that he hasn't expressed the cancers in our BRCA "list", but has had colon and kidney cancer. We have no idea where his cancers came from or if they are hereditary. I am in three different studies, hoping something will be found to help others.
I have two sons, two daughters and three grand-daughters, so far. They all know my BRCA status and will each need to decide if they want to be tested. I have another sister and brother and they are choosing not to be tested. It is a personal decision for each of us.
Best of luck tomorrow and with all decisions you will be making. Take each day as it comes and focus on THAT day. There's a web site called FORCE at www.facingourrisk.org, which deals with BRCA 1&2...
Linda
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Oh BoyMom, I am sorry that you are dealing with this too! I'm so glad you're healing well and you are BRCA negative!
Good luck with the final path report- I'm rooting for you!!
Your post has calmed me down a bit- thanks for that and the good thoughts too!
Unfortunately they are doing a sentinel node biopsy on the left side. Fortunately, I'm right handed.
I'm sorry you had such trouble finding info about your family history. Wow, how frustrating that must have been!
It's really true that "It seems like our parents generation is so much more passive about these types of things or they are scared to confront them." In my case, my mother is from a very different generation and things like this were just NOT talked about. I'm not angry with her about it, just still reeling from this sudden sucker punch. I like what you said about taking one step at a time. I felt under pressure to change my plans for surgery immediately but maybe it isn't the emergency I thought it was.
I am so freaked out and sleep deprived today that I let not one- but two pots of water boil completely dry while attempting to make coffee!
I guess I'll try to occupy myself with something less hazardous than boiling water for the rest of today!
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Dear Sparrow, I've just gone through a wide excision which found extensive DCIS followed by a Mastectomy which found residual DCIS and IDC. Unfortunately, sentinel node wasn't done in my case and now we're looking at doing something else.
My Mother and Sister, both BC premenopausal; all of my aunts on my Fathers side, plus various cousins too. My cousin and I were both tested for BRCA 1 & 2 and found to be negative; this doesn't negate the genetic tendency that is going on through my family, it just means that we are positive for these particular genes.
Follow your prescribed path tomorrow and good luck. Take each day and make your decisions based on sound advice with a clear mind and not something done in haste. Rest today, clear your mind as much as you can. My Niece told me on the way to the hospital for my surgery..Aunt Janice, the expectations for your performance today are pretty low!!! I laughed about that all the way to the OR!!
Good luck!!!
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Thanks for clarifying things further for me, Linda and letting me know it's OK to stick with my original plan for now. Boy, you have a lot to deal with too, don't you? Ooooh, this just sucks, doesn't it? >:P
Thanks for telling me your story! It's great to hear that you're participating in the studies. What a gift you are giving to others!Maybe I can help in some way too.
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Thanks, Janice! So sorry you have had to deal with this nasty disease and multiple surgeries!
I really hate that anyone ever has to deal with this, it makes me want to scream sometimes!
I was wondering how much good knowing my BRCA would actually do. As you pointed out, BRCA genes don't make up the whole picture.
Thanks so much for your encouragement!
Hahaha, the expectations for my performance tomorrow are pretty low too!
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One more question, since I am having a sentinel node removed I can stay overnight in the hospital if I want to. Should I take them up on that? Did you find this necessary? I really would rather go home. My husband will be with me the day of surgery and is taking the next day off work to stay with me.
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Sparrow, I wish you all the best for your surgery. If they are offering an overnight stay for you, don't decide before the surgery. You may want to go home, you may not.
As far as the genetic thing - on my father's side I have 2 aunts who had breast cancer, another aunt who had colon cancer (which is considred related somehow) and my grandma had ovrian cancer. BRCA 1 & 2 negative. My genetic material is part of a study now, done by researchers who realize that BRCA 1 & 2 are not the only genes that give you a predisposition for these cancers. I had a single mast, and am planning to have my ovaries removed since I have a number of risk factors for ovarian cancer. I'm postmenopause so that's not an issue. I haven't yet decided about mast on the non-bc side, but I'm seeing my onc in a couple of weeks and plan to discuss it then.
Whatever your genetic status, you don't need to decide yet what to do.
Leah
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Sparrow, my surgery was in the afternoon and I was an hour from home; I also had a tissue expander inserted and filled, so I was kept overnight. I would have gotten better care, better sleep and well, better everything, if I had gone home; but at the time, who would have known that! You don't have to decide now; plan on staying overnight, you can always change your mind.
As far as the ovarian/breast connection; I had my ovaries removed in 2004 and I decided to go with the single mastectomy. For me, and this is only how it pertains to me, it was the right thing to do. I've had a significant number of health issues for the last several years; the biggest hospital stay was last year when I had a Nissen fundoplication with gallbladder removal..major, major surgery and now this. Emotionally, I'm having a hard time with just being sick all of the time, so a double would have been just to much for me.
We're evaluating treatment options (depending on onco score and other things) and we're going to watch the left side closely and right now, that's good enough for me.
Remember...low expectations!!!!
{{{hugs}}}
Janice
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Hi, Sparrow -
You are getting good advice, I think. The important thing to do first is to get the known evil spots out - you can always look into more surgery for possible "prevention" purposes later. A genetic counselor said to me (I had lumpectomy) that the bigger deal if a woman turns out to be BRCA positive after a diagnosis of early stage breast cancer is the OVARIES. There's no way to monitor them, and your risk for ovarian cancer is much higher with either of the BRCA gene mutations. When you have lumpectomy, your breasts are carefully watched for signs of new problems, so you don't necessarily have to rush and have bilateral mastectomies...
I had a single lumpectomy with sentinel node biopsy, and I went home the same day. 30 minutes away - not a huge deal, and it was great to be back home. Although I'd had a motion sickness patch that the anesthesiologist put on due to me mentioning that I sometimes had issues with motion sickness, and this led me to actually FEEL sick later. I read somewhere that people who get motion sickness can often be predisposed to having nausea after anesthesia, and that one should tell the anesthesiologist this. So I did, and she slapped a patch on my neck. Several hours after the surgery, I was feeling pretty good, but my mouth was SO dry - it was driving me nuts! I read through my information about my medications, and it was the patch that was causing the dryness. I had no instructions as to how long to leave it on, so I removed it. And within about 2 hours, I got nauseous - like motion sickness - and it lasted all day. If I had it to do over, I'd either skip the patch to start with, or I'd leave it on for much longer. My point for you is to make sure you know what they're giving you and how long you should take or wear it!
I hope it all goes well and that you will be recovering comfortably at home soon!
Coleen
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Hi Sparrow,
Just following up to see how everything went. My thoughts are with you
Lisa
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Hi everyone!
Everything went fine yesterday and my BS said the two sentinel nodes he removed were clear of cancer, although we won't know for sure if he got clean margins until the final path report comes in. He talked to my husband after the surgery and I need to read his notes still.
The worst part was the wire localizations. I started to panic just a little bit but thankfully I had my Xanax with me and I was OK in a few minutes.
They brought a very nice, very serious female radiology med student into the room. They introduced her and said she would be observing the procedure. It made me very uncomfortable to have an extra person in the room so I apologized and asked her if she wouldn't mind skipping this one. I felt bad about it but it would have made it much harder for me to handle, silly, I know. I was glad I spoke up for myself, though.
The wire localization pain was less than the stereo & ultrasound core needle biopsies I had last month. My radiologist was wonderful. She was very kind and explained everything to me that was going on. I was grateful that I got her.
My surgeon stopped by while they were prepping me and told me he felt it would go extremely well. He said the two spots were very small and hadn't formed into tumors yet, so what he would be doing was closer to an excisional biopsy than a lumpectomy on both breasts. He felt that the areas were so small it that they wouldn't change the shape of my breasts at all. He also did a little oncoplastic reduction on my right breast. It's always been a bit bigger than the left. I think it will make me happy to be more 'even' even if both breasts are a little smaller. I think that's what he said anyway... I had already had 'relaxing medication' injected into my IV line.
The last thing I remember before going under was 'I wonder where the assisting surgeon got those cute shoes?' They were dark red patent leather clogs and she was wearing them with red and white striped socks. It sounds like a weird combo but I loved it... and before I could even ask I was out.
After I woke up I felt able to go home and they agreed to that. I felt so much better sleeping in my own bed!
My husband has been wonderful through all this and he's a great nurse too.
I am very sore today but I feel so much better emotionally knowing the worst part is over- if they don't have to do re-excisions, that is. I feel like I will be able to handle chemo (if I need it) and radiation, which I know I will have to have. I am so glad I saw a psychiatrist for anxiety meds to get me through the rough patches and the therapist I have been seeing is just wonderful.
They sent me home in a tight tube top/bra and I haven't looked at the scars/stitches yet. I don't really want to. I am allowed to take a shower tonight and I suppose I will get a peek then. I'm not looking forward to it.
Lisa, Linda, Janice, Leah and Coleen- thank you so much for the great advice and the good thoughts. I felt like you were my cheerleading team yesterday and it helped more than you know!
XOXOXO- Tamara
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Tamara,
Yipee!!!!! I'm so excited to hear back from you. I was thinking about you and said a prayer that everything would work out great. I LOVE the shoe comment - it made me smile. Also, I am very proud of you for standing up for yourself with the med student. I am getting my care at a teaching hospital so I've had Fellows and Med Students in virtually all of my procedures. They've also been present during my consults with the surgeon and with Oncology. It's always made me feel more uncomfortable (like a bug under a microscope).
I went for my surgical follow-up yesterday. The first thing that my surgeon said was "Do you want the good news or the bad news first?" My face must have gone white b/c she then said "Let's start with the good news first". She proceeded to tell me that my tumor was only 1.3cm and not 3.8cm like they originally thought. She also confirmed that after even further dissection of my nodes that they were totally clear. Based on the final pathology, I moved from being at Stage 2a to Stage 1. WOW - I couldn't believe it. That WAS really good news. At that point, I figured that the bad news was that they didn't get clear margins and I was right. So, I'm off for re-excision on Friday 9/4. My surgeon said that it will only take about 45 - 60 minutes. I'm not thrilled, but, I was so happy about the other news that I'll deal with it.
Wish me luck - I didn't handle the anesthesia well last time. I'm going to check out their shoes before I go under and give myself a little chuckle!
Lisa
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Yea Lisa!!!
That's great about your downgrade to stage 1!!! It sucks about the re-excision but I've read a lot about that on this board and most women say it's not as painful as the original surgery. I'll find out if I need that too on 9/9. I will be sending prayers your way on Friday!
Maybe they can try a different kind of anesthesia on you. I wonder why you had trouble with that? Hmmm...
Heehee, be sure and let me know how it went and if you got any fashion tips too.
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Dear Friends! Tamara, I am so happy that this part is over for you; you're home and you have a great nurse! Lisa, that is good news!; I didn't have good margins either...It sounds like we're all in this around the same time frame...I'm ahead of you, but I think we can help each other through this!
Shoes!!! love it!! I'm back to the Dr. PS, complications....I hope you have a good weekend, we're heading up north and will be back late Sunday.
Janice
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Janice,
I agree, it sounds like we're all experiencing some of same things around the same timeframes and can most certainly be of great support to each other. I'm so sorry that you've gone through so many health problems over the past couple of years and now have to deal with BC. My surgeon did mention that now that I am stage 1 that I may be eligible for Oncotype DX. I plan to discuss this with the Oncologist on the 9th. Prior to my surgery, as a stage 2a, I was told by everyone that I would need chemo as part of my treatment. So, I've been mentally preparing myself to begin chemo at the end of this month. Now, with the new developments, I'm not sure what to think. If I can, I will go through with the Oncotype test and go from there. My surgeon told me that alot of people end up with scores in the middle of the range and that they really haven't figured out the best way to treat people with mid Oncotype scores. She told me about a trial that is going on for this purpose only and told me that I might want to consider being part of it if I end up with a middle of the road score. The trial is called TaylorX. It randomly assigns people to recieve hormonal therapy alone or chemo and hormonal together. I'm hoping that mine come back either low or high so that I don't have to make a decision of whether to get chemo or not. It was hard enough making my surgical decision and I still wonder if it was the right one.
Tamara,
The surgeon told me that the re-excision will not be as bad. I did ask her if there was any other anesthesia that could be given to me. She said that they may be able to do a twilight sleep with lots of localization to the breast. So, I guess that I show up tomorrow and see what they plan to do for me. I tend to have motion sickness and have been told that this is why I have a harder time with anesthesia. They did give me things to counteract all of that but as with Kleenex, it didn't work. UUHHHGGG!
By the way, I didn't mean to overlook your comment about your mom being in stage 4. I can't imagine how difficult that it must be to have all of these things happening at once. How is your mom doing? My mom just went through testing to find out why her blood counts are all wacked out. They were testing her for lymphoma or luekemia. The tests and scans came back negative last week so they are still trying to figure out what is wrong with her. It's very stressful. My heart goes out to you - it's so hard to deal with our own cancer diagnosis and then to have a mom fighting cancer at the same time seems unbearable. My prayers are with you.
Linda, boy your family has gone through the ringer with cancer. It sounds like you've made some good decisions on how to deal with your positive BRCA results. Many blessings to you and I hope that your brother and sister remain disease free!
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Lisa- I hope all went well today! Let us know how it all turned out. Motion sickness + anesthesia- UGH!!! Could anything possibly be worse??? >:P Nonetheless, I'm expecting only the best for you!
I'm expecting my Oncotype DX results wednesday. Good luck with yours! Yea for stage 1!!!
It's funny, my Mom has apparently been stage IV for some time but wouldn't tell anyone in the family about it. Just recently she began asking my brother to drive her to chemo treatments and we were like, 'Chemo- WHAT FOR?' :O That's why my sister flew out to get the whole story. My Mom is really amazing, 82 years old with cancer and keeps plugging along. She refuses to stop working full time and always has the most amazing positive attitude. She makes me feel like a whining baby for having such a hard time with stage 1 & 0 BC sometimes.
All her blood work & tests have been improving lately, so so far so good, I guess...
Janice, I'm expecting only the best for you too! After all you've been dealing with I think you MUST be close to done! I hope your complications become uncomplicated ASAP!!!
Hugs to all!!! -Tamara
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Hi ladies,
Surgery went well. They gave me a different cocktail and it made a huge difference. I am, however, in more pain now than I was last week. I don't get it. Anyway, I also got some "other" news from my surgeon yesterday. Apparently, I am moved back to stage 2a. Pathology actually found that I had two tumors and only listed the largest of the two in my path report (1.3 cm). The other one was < 1 cm. The two apparently were joined by a "thread" and so now they are calling them one. The size of the tumor has put me back to 2a. Well at least I enjoyed being a stage 1 for a week. Honestly. I'll meet with the onco next week and see what he has to say. I'm probably going to need chemo for sure now.
Tamara,
Your mom sounds like a rock star. Don't feel like a whining baby. You caught your cancer early but you still have cancer. And, CANCER SUCKS! By the way - no cute shoes in surgery
Lisa
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Lisa- good news about the anesthesia but I'm so sorry about your stage 2a status!
This is such a complicated & confusing disease. CANCER TOTALLY SUCKS!!! >:P
My spidey sense is telling me I'm probably going to need chemo too. I know I'll need rads and Tamoxifen- which I'm really dreading.
I'll be sure and tell my Mom she is a rock star! She'll love that!
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Hi Friends! We spent a lovely, relaxing, quiet weekend up at our cottage..warm, sunny, perfect way to spend some time!
Okay, where to start? Lisa, because I switched Dr.'s in mid-stream, we're not 100% sure what I am, so they're staging me on the mastectomy findings only, but my Dr. (who was pretty irate) said it was an impossibility that I didn't have invasive cancer on the wide exc. biopsy, and absolute impossibility..so I may be in the same boat as you, I just don't know it!!! I'm glad you came through the surgery okay though; my core biopsy hurt much worse than my WEB, very little to no pain at all with that (for a change!)
Tamara, I can relate, my mother had a heart attack..we found out 3 years later! I don't know what it is about them, but they like to keep these things to themselves. The BC, though, I was in high school when she was diagnosed, no keeping that one quiet! Make sure you tell us right away about your score! I'm out of town that day for a meeting, but I'll hop on line as soon as I get home!! XXXX (fingers crossed for a low score!!)
Coleen, I've heard the same, so they're going to have me have MRI's with US on my left breast from now on; my mammo showed almost nothing and here I sit 4 months later with a mastectomy..go figure!! My Dr. said the US will help alleviate the false positives you get with the MRI's, but will give us the heads up we're going to need from here on out.
We saw my PS on Thursday, he's more optimistic; the tissue looks better, but he still took out another 150 cc's of saline from the tissue expander and kept the drain in too. I go back on Tuesday; he said that there is still a chance that he'll have to remove the TE. but it does look better.
I got a call Thursday evening from Genomic Health; They received the tissue sample that day, they've spoken with my insurance company and everything is a go; results should be back to my oncologist in two weeks.
My onco did talk to me about the TAILORx and I'm looking into it, everything about this has gone against conventional wisdom, so I'm expecting either an intermediate score or a high score. If it's an intermediate score, I will go into the trial; if it's high, I have options; I may have an axillary node dissection; if they're clear, then aromatase inhibitor may be fine..I guess we'llhave to see!
I'm sure I'll be talking with you when the time comes!
Janice
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Hi Janice! Your weekend at the cottage sounded so nice! I'm so glad you had a good time!
Good luck with everything, I'm glad there was little pain with the WEB! Good luck with that problematic TE too, gee whiz, what a lot you have had to deal with! You are truly a rock star!!!
That TAILORx sounds interesting. Keep us updated!
I just got back from my follow-up appointment with my BS. Over the weekend some fluid began to accumulate under my arm and I was pretty uncomfortable. It was impossible to sleep last night, even after taking Lunesta. My BS drained 3 syringes of fluid out of there this morning and I felt much better immediately. I was completely numb there so thank goodness it didn't hurt at all.
I was under the impression that my Oncotype DX score would be back today but it will still take another 2 or 3 weeks to come in.
My BS was very happy about my results so far: negative nodes, clean margins on the left excision (IDC), no cancer at all in the right excision area (DCIS). He thinks the stereotactic core needle biopsy must have removed it all.
I have to see him again in a week, I may need more draining and then it's off to the oncologist once my Oncotype test is back, I guess.
My BS said again that I may not need chemo which would make me SO happy, although I'm not ready to celebrate quite yet- till I know for sure, anyway. I have been growing out my hair for years and it's almost down to my waist. I love my long hair!
I talked to my Mom last night. She sounded extremely chipper, as always. She's thrilled that she's officially a 'rock star'.
Lisa, hope you are well too. You're a rock star too, in case you didn't already know.
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Janice,
I'm so glad that you had such a wonderful weekend. We had wonderful weather here in Wisconsin too. I was able to get out an enjoy the mild weather and sunshine which improved my spirits. Keep us up to date on TAYLORx. They mentioned that to me as well when they thought that I was stage 1. I'm not sure if it's off the table or not but will find out today. I just want to get going with something. I feel like I'm a ticking time bomb. I found out that I had cancer on July 7/22/09, I didn't have surgery until 8/26 and then again on 9/4. So, here I am, 6 weeks out and I'm still unsure of what's going to happen next. I guess that I'll find out more today. However, I don't even think that an Oncotype test has been ordered for me yet. If I have to wait another 2-3 weeks to find out my score, I'm going to go out of my mind. I'm sorry about your bad experience with the TE. I can't imagine how uncomfortable that must be.
Tamara,
Great news on the clear margins. I'm crossing my fingers for you that you won't have to do chemo. I too have long hair (not as long as yours) and I love it. I would rather have another surgery than lose my hair. I know that this sounds very vain and stupid, but, I'm just being honest. I know that once I start chemo that I will look and feel like a cancer patient and I don't want to go there. However, I want to do whatever I can to kill this cancer so I will pull myself up by the boot straps and walk bravely forward into the unknown. I meet with the Oncologist today so hopefully I'm one step closer to getting on with adjuvant therapy - whatever it will be.
Why do they think that you are having this fluid build-up under your arm? I'm glad that they were able to drain it to give you relief. Glad also to hear that your mom is in good spirits - God Bless all of us. We are all rock stars! There are no greater heros than those fighting diseases like BC.
Lisa
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Got a phone call from my surgeon this morning - clear margins this time!!!! I'm very excited so wanted to share.
I also met with my onco yesterday he ordered the Oncotype DX test so now I have to wait for 2 weeks for the results of that to determine if I will need chemo or not. He did say that if I am intermediate, he would recommend that I get chemo due to my age. Obviously, if if my score is high, I will need it for sure. I'm hoping for a LOW score.
I plan to take the next two weeks to enjoy not having to be at the hospital for one thing or another.
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All right, Lisa!!!
Thank goodness your margins were clear this time!!!
Keep us updated on that Oncotype DX. I'm on pins and needles waiting for mine.
I understand how you feel about your long hair- it's not vain to want to keep it- I would rather go through another surgery too if it meant I could keep mine. My long hair is important to me- I've had it for so many years and it feels like a big part of my identity- I wouldn't feel like myself without it. Ugh- it would take at least 5 years to regrow it to its current length, I'm guessing, but I'll cross that bridge IF I come to it.
My BS told me that fluid build-up in the SNB area 'happens sometimes' and I didn't have the presence of mind to ask him about it further- I had a full notebook page of pre-written questions for him about other things but not that. I have many questions about it now that the appointment is over, of course...
I will see him again next Wednesday. I hope I'm over the worst of it but I can feel it filling up with fluid again. This makes me so mad!!! My right breast is healing beautifully and if this hadn't happened I would have an extra week of 'normal' to enjoy before the next phase of treatment.
It's very sore under my arm where the fluid was and had started to spread to the left side of my left breast. I had expected to be on OTC ibuprofen as needed by now but I'm on another week of Hydrocodone instead.
I'm not worried I will get hooked on it- I took it for 2 weeks with no problem when I broke a rib in January but it would be nice to be clear-headed for a while.
How great not to have to do anything medical for two weeks!!!
All this treatment stuff seems like it's my new job sometimes... only I'm not getting paid for it. Sometimes I feel like I should be!
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Tamara,
I'll pray for you. It's bad enough that we have to go through all of this but then to have complications on top of it really sucks. I understand what you are saying about the Hydrocodone. They gave me Hydrocodone following my first surgery. Following my second surgery, they gave me Oxycodone. I'm thinking - great, another narcotic that I could get hooked on. The docs told me not to worry that if I only took the prescribed amount at the prescribed times that I won't get hooked. Right.................. I'm not sure that I believe them. I could see how one could easily get hooked on these drugs.
I'm praying for both of us to have low oncotype scores. We need our HAIR - lol. Mine is part of my identity too. Although, when I'm thinking positively, I try to imagine a new identity for myself. One that includes a new kind of strength and beauty from being a cancer survivor. A good friend of mine said, "Lisa, if you have to have chemo - don't let cancer take your hair. YOU need to take your own hair. Shave it off so that you are in control and not the cancer." I think that she is right. However, that will be a very hard day indeed.
Hang in there girlfriend. You've been through so much in a short time - mentally and physically. Our bodies are probably like WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING TO ME?
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Thanks for your prayers & Your support, Lisa! It means a lot to me!
I'm praying for us both to have low Oncotype scores too!
I ran into my old friend Rebecca at a music/movie/classic car show last weekend. She used to cut hair at a very expensive salon. She works freelance now and will come to your house and cut your hair! If I need to shave my head it will be much easier for a friend to do it in my own home. I'm so glad I caught up with her again!
My sister sent me a picture of my mom (who has lost her hair) in her 'sleep wrap' head scarf. She looked really beautiful and graceful in it, like a ballet dancer. She has cheekbones that I didn't even know she had! I guess they were hidden under the hairdo that she's had for years. I'm not petite and graceful like she is but it gave me hope.
Maybe if I have to wear a wig I'll try being a drop-dead gorgeous redhead for a change- when will I ever have a better excuse?
I'm hanging in there... even though I still feel like I have a lemon strapped to my underarm.
This too shall pass...
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Hi Tamara,
Just checking in to see how you are doing. I hope that the swelling isn't too much of a bother to you. I love your description of your mom in her scarf. I hope that if I have to have chemo that I can look beautiful and graceful too. Since my oncologist said that I would need chemo unless my oncotype score came back in the low range, I've started to look at wigs. I want to be prepared as possible - if that's possible. I've only looked online at this point. I've read that if you want to look more natural that you should go lighter as chemo makes you look pale and dark hair against pale skin is no good. Perhaps, drop dead red wouldn't be so bad - lol. I work in the banking industry so I'm leaning more toward the more conservative. I've added a profile pic so that you can see my hair length. I've thought about a shorter wig so that when I decide to take it off after chemo that I won't shock everyone so much. I'm not one that is brave enough to bare it all. I don't even think that I want to look at myself in the mirror when I am bald, let alone show others. Maybe I'll change my mind after awhile. Who knows.............................Everything about this experience is changing who I am.
We're getting closer to our Oncotype results!
Lisa
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Hi Lisa! What a knockout you are!!!
Thanks for the pic!
At my appointment yesterday the SNB site swelling was worse than before so they put a drain in.
If anyone has any tips about how to pin this thing to my clothes to make it show less I would be grateful!
I am an artist and I work out of a studio in my house so I can probably get away with any kind of wig. I don't want to be too crazy though.
I want to avoid that 'chemo poster child' look if at all possible...
The assisting surgeon was at my appointment yesterday so I asked her about the shoes she was wearing the day of my surgery. Her 'doctor facade' completely melted away and we had a 'shoe moment' - it was awesome!
It turns out they are Dansko clogs and they also come in black patent leather and even a zebra print! I have GOT to get a pair of those red ones!!!
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Dear Lisa and Tamara...I've been off for a while and I hope you both are doing well. I have news. 1st is my Oncoptype..it came back "inconclusive". No way was I prepared for that; the sample they received didn't have enough cancer cells to test, so pathology was being notified to see what they had and if they have better samples then I have to wait another 2 weeks; if not, I'm in line for an axillary node dissection to check for spread. Because the combination of the invasive stuff and the DCIS encompassed clse to 50% of the breast tissue, I'm probably looking at preventative chemo anyway.
I'm having a phased reconstruction because of work and I have a tissue expander now..with complications. Excessive lymphatic drainage (6 weeks of drain tube), caspular contracture, an infection...today he told us that he needs to remove the t.e., remove as much of the scar tissue as possible...
Just to complete the debbie-downer, I've had problems with my left shoulder for a couple of years, putting it off because of higher priority health items...until now. The shoulder is just blown out and I'm having shoulder surgery on Thursday.
I truly hope you both have a better run at this than I have!!
Janice
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Oh no, Janice, you are really having a tough time!!! Gee whiz, I'm so sorry!!!
You are in my thoughts and prayers!!!
I hope pathology can find some better samples! Ugh, axillary node dissection doesn't sound fun at all.
What happens after they remove the TE and scar tissue? Can they try another TE or do some other type of reconstruction?
You must be so sick of surgery by now! I hope they do a good job on that shoulder. Gee whiz!!!
I think pink ribbon pins aren't enough- sometimes I think all of us girls who are fighting cancer should wear tiaras and everyone should bow down to us.
You should have an extra fancy one with lots of jewels- you've earned it!!!
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