I need to find a shelter for myself and my son...Starting chemo

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aaronali12
aaronali12 Member Posts: 32
edited June 2014 in Managing Side Effects of Breast Cancer and Its Treatment

I thought if I posted on here I might get some answers. Basically I am stage 1 I had my lumpectomy I just had my port ut in and now my husband is relapsing from his drug addiction. I have a 3 year old son. I live in queens new york. I am trying to find a safe place for myself and my son. I don't know where to begin. I am starting chemo in about a week. I am really scared because I was depending on my husband for help and he has only been messing up big time!!!!I cannot stay with him. He does not want help and he takes all of our money. He just spent our rent money this weekend and is still on a binge. I jyust want to leave so I can go through my treatment in peace. If anyone knows of any place I can call for some help I would be so gratefu. thank you and god bless

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  • Mazy1959
    Mazy1959 Member Posts: 1,431
    edited June 2009

    Do you have a Salvation Army, a womens shelter or etc? I will pray for you. God love and keep you and your son safe. Bless you...Mazy

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  • mom2two
    mom2two Member Posts: 1,352
    edited June 2009

    Here is a list of women's shelters listed near queens. You can also find help at churches, the salvation army etc.

    womens shelters near Queens, New York

    A.

    Safe Horizon

     - www.safehorizon.org - (212) 385-0357 - More
    B.

    Phipps Houses

     - maps.google.com - (718) 563-0413 - More
    C.

    Phipps Houses

     - maps.google.com - (718) 299-3794 - More
    D.

    Lexington Ave Women's Shelter

     - maps.google.com - (718) 789-8051 - More
    E.

    Phipps Houses

     - maps.google.com - (718) 579-0714 - More
    F.

    Phipps Houses

     - maps.google.com - (718) 299-6522 - More
    G.

    Wynonas House

     - wynonashouse.org - (973) 297-1639 - More
    H.

    Bethany House

     - maps.google.com - (516) 868-6866 - More
    I.

    Park Slope Safe Homes Projects

     - maps.google.com - (718) 499-2151 - More
    J.

    Real House

     - maps.google.com - (973) 337-8742 - More
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  • mom2two
    mom2two Member Posts: 1,352
    edited June 2009

    Sorry about all the extra computer markings but the shelter names are there and the phone numbers.

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  • pbcc1
    pbcc1 Member Posts: 659
    edited June 2009

    Soooo sorry you have to put up with extra stress while fighting cancer. Prayers for you and your son, and for your husband to get his act together. You need to look after you and your son right now. Your husband will have to take a back seat to what you need. If you have to leave, then do so and bless Mom2two for listing some shelters for you. There is help out there. Please search it out. You will be in my prayers for an easy journey with this, and for your husband to see what he is doing to his family. God Bless and protect you and your son.

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  • apple
    apple Member Posts: 7,799
    edited June 2009

    In your writing you seem so strong.. so full of composurel.. so confident... but jeez you face some obstacles.  i'll be sending prayers for you from Kansas   This forum is a real godsend.. i hope you can rely on it for support and guidance

    may you and your son be safe. 

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  • greenfrog
    greenfrog Member Posts: 269
    edited June 2009

    I am a single mum with a toddler - my heart went out to you when I read your post. Jesus if there wasn't the Atlantic in the way you could come and stay with us! You are doing the right thing - finding a safe haven for you and your son. Keep strong, keep well. xxx

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  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited June 2009

    I don't know the whole situation, but if there is abuse, or you are concerned about your physical safety contact the local battered womens shelter, police departments usually have their numbers available.

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  • aaronali12
    aaronali12 Member Posts: 32
    edited June 2009

    I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for all of your advice and prayers. I am going to start calling the shelters. I am praying for everyone here as well. thank you and god bless

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  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited June 2009

    I agree with the others, get to a shelter. they will be able to help you get away from your husband while you are dealing with this illness.

    Sheila

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  • Hoolianama0508
    Hoolianama0508 Member Posts: 162
    edited June 2009

    Let the hospital know that you are in need of shelter, they should have resources and social workers there to help you. I am originally from Queens and I will ask my contacts if they can recommend a safe place for you.

    God bless you and your son. I know it hurts when your loved one is not supportive especially during this frightening time.

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  • ShellyJo
    ShellyJo Member Posts: 132
    edited August 2009

    I agree with Hooli, The hospital has the resources and social workers. Go to them ASAP. They are very proactive of woman in your situation...

    ~Shelly 

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  • hollyann
    hollyann Member Posts: 2,992
    edited August 2009

    My heart goes out to you and your son....I sure hope you get to a safe place soon.......I am curious why are you having a port an dchemo for stage 1 bc?....Was your oncotype score a factor?.......

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