Too attached to your therapist?

I was in this situation.  Was with my first therapist for >2 decades.  She retired and I didn't know if I could cope. At our last session, she said it had been a failure, and I didn't know what she meant. (I wasn't sure if she was saying I had been a failure - I was crying throughout so I couldn't hear well.)

I missed her terribly.  I was only able to write her at Christmas every year.  She would write back and encourage me to be strong.

After my excision, 6 years later, I knew I was having symptoms of something. I checked with the Institute with which my first therapist was associated.  They had a referral program.  I got a new therapist (#2). 

 IF you think you would benefit from therapy, I suggest you may want to consider searching until you find the right person.  It may take several tries.  They will probably do things differently, and have a different perspective.  Everyone has different needs.  

Oh Ellen, my heart reaches out to you. How can it be bad to love a person?  Even if love is sometimes misplaced, unrequited, inappropriate, or whatever in some situations, how can it be bad to care? In many situations, you want to honor how another person feels, but that doesn't change what you feel.

Granted, sometimes people say they love another, and its not really love.  But if we have issues with that, then hopefully we work on that in therapy, or in whatever way is best for us.

In a therapy situation, hopefully the therapist can deal with their side of things.

  Parting is hard, whenever people care. 

Hi-I've been seeing the same psychiatrist for over a year now. We do one-hour sessions of talk therapy and med management. I talk about whatever is important to me. I was doing Cognitive Behavioral therapy for about 6 months but since my BC dx & tamoxifen use (I'm alot more emotional these days); my psych advises talk therapy.

Some times I find that I have nothing to say and many days I cry through the entire session. In regards to getting close to her, I wish she would have been around during the holidays. (she went on pregnancy leave for 4 months) I kinda hit bottom when she was gone and broke down crying in my primary care physicians office. 

Yes, I do need her to talk to because sometimes I feel like I only have her to talk to and these boards. (people who understand what I'm going through)

Thanks for listening.