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RHP
RHP Member Posts: 48
edited June 2014 in IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma)

This is my first post, but have been reading and learning here in many many ways. A friend sent me this note.. it touched me to the center of my being to read that someone felt this about me. I want to say I feel this about each and every one here! Thank you for sharing your strenth, your pain  and your love.

To all of you wonderful women  from my friend  

On a personal note.  I have often wondered what I would do when the time comes to make a decision between the pain and indignity of major surgery and crawling into a hole to lick my wounds.  I am quite the wienie. After our chat, I decided that if I ever had to make that decision, I would think of you and mussel through it.  Your courage inspires me.  You are not a drama queen.  You're not even a drama princess.  You are the pink dragon, you are the green goddess, you are the strong feminine with a soft caramel filling.  You are a deliciously wonderful woman.   Rage against the cancer and the scars.  Cry and hug yourself.  Everything you feel is valid.  Everything you think is worth serious consideration.  Take the time you need to heal your mind and your body.  Emerge from this the dragon goddess you were, you are, and you will always be!   All my love to you.  Take good care my dear friend.

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  • auriga
    auriga Member Posts: 315
    edited August 2009

    I love this. What a great friend you have. Thanks for sharing.

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  • RHP
    RHP Member Posts: 48
    edited August 2009

    Thanks Auriga It has been an amazing jouney so far. The people you thought would be the most supportive sometimes are and often not. But this came from someone outside that "close" circle. From someone I wasn't going to share with as we weren't "that close" So I learned yet another amazing lesson. That you don't realize how many people really care and that really mean it when they say. "if there is anything I can do" 

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  • auriga
    auriga Member Posts: 315
    edited August 2009

    Oh, how true that is. Some of my closest friends were not there for me at all. Unfortunately, as a result, I rarely talk to these "friends" now. On the other hand, people I barely knew jumped in and offered me support and encouragemnt. It meant a lot to me.

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  • RHP
    RHP Member Posts: 48
    edited August 2009

    exactly, I believe it is there fear of losing you.which is what ends up happening do to their behavior. Yet finding these new friends is that wonderful flip side. One of the many lessons I am learning and accepting from this journey.

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  • cbm
    cbm Member Posts: 475
    edited October 2009

    Thank you for sharing this;  it's so direct and beautifully expressed.  How great to have a friend who can inspire and be inspired like that.  Wow.

    C

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  • RHP
    RHP Member Posts: 48
    edited August 2009

    Thank you..  again I shared this because it is the way I feel about the wonderful women here, and I could never expressed it as well.

    It is amazing how breast cancer took me from self confident and as my sons would say "tough" to quick sand. And it took words from an unexpected place to make me remember that inner strenth. Not that each day it waivers and sometimes falls totally flat like a bowl of jello. But as time goes on and each challenge is met there seems to be more strong days and less pity parties. very gentle Hugs to everyone here  

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  • swest
    swest Member Posts: 680
    edited August 2009

    What a blessing it is to have such a great friend.  That is a wonderful letter.  Thank you for sharing it with us!

    Sonia

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  • RHP
    RHP Member Posts: 48
    edited August 2009

    Thanks Sonia, the truth is we all have friends like her. They just don't know how to express it as well as she did. As I keep reading here, we have each other! Just imagine having had breast cancer in say the 50's or even up into the 80's as archaic and even barbaric as the things they do to us are. It is still much better with every passing day. Beyond all that we have this amazing resource at our finger tips. Gentle hug from me to you, for you too are a pink dragon:-)

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  • Jennyi1
    Jennyi1 Member Posts: 102
    edited August 2009
    Wow, how beautiful. Thank you and good luck to all on this journey that we're on.Smile
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  • RHP
    RHP Member Posts: 48
    edited August 2009

    I actually printed it and put it on my fridge.. it gives me strenth, I would urge anyone who wishes to do the same. It may have been written for me but applies to all of us sisters here! :-)

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  • BarbAnne41
    BarbAnne41 Member Posts: 380
    edited September 2009

    RHP- Thank you for sharing it is simply beautiful.

    You are right on so many points-amazing words come from those we least expect and several, whom we think will be there, vanish.

    And you are also right on how barbaric things used to be, even though they seem so now, we have made leaps and bounds in the treatment of breast cancer.

     Thank you again

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  • RHP
    RHP Member Posts: 48
    edited September 2009

    my pleasure. It all seems so dark all the time and I know I feel teribly alone even though surounded by people. I just needed to share the brightest point with everyone here, feeling most of us probably feel the same!

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  • CapeBretongirl
    CapeBretongirl Member Posts: 364
    edited September 2009

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful note with us.  If I were you, I'd have a copy of it everywhere. i.e. purse, car, washroom, etc.   Especially in your handbag.  So you can read it in those moments of stress.    (((hugs))) Angel

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  • RHP
    RHP Member Posts: 48
    edited September 2009

    Angel thanks that is a wondeful idea! I hope everyone here feels free to do the same. As it applies to all of us!

    Love the avitar by the way

    Gentle hugs

    Robin

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