Does anyone else feel this way?

Deb you don't have that desire cause your body is in the fight of its life and all your energy is being focused on healing right now. Who feels like sex when their boob is covered in 3rd degree burns??? You have to be kind and nuturing to yourself. I know how loving and kind you are and if this was anyone else being hard on themselves like that you would have a word or two with them and quick. Besides who else would make us smile with all those witty remarks and funny pics you keep us in stitches over on the housekeeping thread? Your sisters on here are so very glad you fought hard to be here. We love you and you are going to get through this and just like lexislove, one day you are going to be encouraging someone else who is going through it sometime down the line.

Deb, You are feeling the same way that we have all felt. You are not alone. We are those who are going through the same and we understand. I try to talk with my sig other or my daughter, and they don't understand. They think that I should just "get over it". They feel powerless and angry because they CANT understand and can't make it right. I know that and so I come here to vent and read and leave here feeling better. The whole experience in itself reminds us of our mortality, who except someone who has to face it, can understand. The physical trauma to our bodies takes time to restore to balance. Then throw some meds on top of that and you not only have a rollercoaster ride from hell, but you have a physical, emotional and mental inbalance. For me, the cancer and the tx's can rock my body, mind and heart, but it can't touch my spiritual being. I am spirit way before I ever entered into this body. I will be spirit way after I leave this body. I work daily on maintaining my spiritual health, and then I can endure. I send love to you.

Anita (frankenboob)

Gentle hugs, sweet Deb...I too know exactly how you feel...I thought my life was over......But I now realize I have a new normal and I am getting used to that new normal......Certainly there are things I can't do now that I used to do but I have found new things to do.........You are doing ecerythign in your power to beat this and that is all any of us can do........I also had both breasts removed but atill swonder if/when will it come back.......I catch myself most of the time and go Whoa girl back up!...Just enjoy the here and now and let tomorrow take care of itself.......That isn't to say I don't have my down days.....Lord knows I do.....I have crying jags and sad days and fearful days....BUT they are only temporary...hang in there , Deb...You know where to come for support just like the rest of us.......Be good to yourself and give yourself more credit......You are stronger than you think........We all love you and need you more than you will ever know........

I don't have any great words of wisdom for you, but I do feel for you, so I'm sending a huge hug.... {{{{{{{{{{Deb}}}}}}}}}}  I've certainly had my rant/cry/despair days... it sucks, it's hard, it's not fair, it hurts, it's deflating, and some days it feels like it'll never get better.  And if one more person tells me that cancer must be a "gift" in so many ways, I'm going to ask them if that's what they'd like for Christmas!  Hang in there and know that you aren't alone, we hurt with you and for you, and although it doesn't seem like it, it will get better.  I believe that with all my heart.  And on the days I start to falter in that belief for myself, I have friends I call -- because sometimes when I can't believe, it helps to know others do.  I believe it for you, too.

extra hugs,

Carol

Hi Deb, The way you feel is exactly the way the women I feel in love with feels. Its hard to deal with it from my side of the fence too, but im hanging in there and i hope its the right thing to do when she pushes me away all the time.