HUSBAND LOST JOB

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leener
leener Member Posts: 65
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer
HUSBAND LOST JOB
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  • leener
    leener Member Posts: 65
    edited June 2009

    On 6/9 I had what was supposed to be my last surgery after 12 since I was diagnosed 8/18/06..  Two days later my husband was laid off and here in West Central Florida, in his business which is building,concrete and trusses--nothing is happening.

    I feel like the wind had been knocked out of my sails and  dealing with the kids (3) and him around the house is about putting me over the edge.  Even before this most recent job aet back we were having trouble.

    I know things could be worse, but it has been 4 years of  2 job losses. death, cancer , surgeries recovery and having to deal with life with that happy face on and continue to be a wife, mother, daughter to an older mother, and special education teacher.  I am on the edge..

    I just need some sisterly advice.

    Thanks-leener 

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  • jeril12
    jeril12 Member Posts: 17
    edited June 2009

    Hi, so sorry, I really feel what you are going through. My husband has gotten through 2 layoffs and is still working. But some friends of ours are on shakey ground...I'm in Michigan, home of the Big 3, thats where us 50 somethings work...future unknown.  I work in my Cities Building Department (Largest City in Oakland County, west of Detroit) and yes there is nothing going on but commercial interior alts and some residential additions...I don't think this is a place your husband should look.. any way, to go through all the surgery, 3 kids, no work, my heart goes out to you and I will pray that

    change will be a good thing not bad for you. Good luck,   I here New Orleans has a lot of insurance money coming in.

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  • baywatcher
    baywatcher Member Posts: 532
    edited June 2009

    OK, here is some sisterly advice-

    With all the crap that you have had to deal with in the last 4 years, at least you didn't have to deal with a divorce. It sounds like things are making you crazy and it is totally understandable...but it might be a time to really try your best to get off the edge because you don't need another crappy thing to worry about. Please know that this is not meant to be judgemental at all...I am not good with words....only to try to help you. You gotta try to keep the happy face on. Maybe you could get an anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medication if you think it would help.

    Good Luck

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  • leener
    leener Member Posts: 65
    edited June 2009

    Thanks for the replies.  I think a divorce might put me over the edge, so hopefully we can avoid it.  He takes my inquiries about what is happening on a particular day as an intrusion and an affirmation that he can't be trusted to do the right thing.  The thing is, he has not been very trustworthy in the past and I feel I must check..this is our family we are talking about.  He sleeps till 10-11:00 and I am sure he is somewhat depressed, but I don't see any real efforts.  I am out for the next couple of weeks as I am a teacher, This is just not what I expected my summer to be,   

    I guess I just need to find the balance of  how much I should be involved and how much I should be removed.  I have taken Xanex fro a few years, mostly because of the side effects of the Tamizofen (which I am now off of).  I statred taking my Lexapro again a few days age cause I had it from an earlier time.

    I am just not sure how much or little to push at this time.  Things are so tense. 

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