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  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 3,255
    edited June 2009

    Holy moley we bought out the store.... catch it all on the Fashion thread

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  • footprintsangel
    footprintsangel Member Posts: 43,890
    edited September 2009

    Do you need a loan Dreamwriter?  Is it a car full? Take care, have a cancer Dr appt

    tomorrow and I hope we start the ball rolling. Take care, Debbie

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  • saint
    saint Member Posts: 1,877
    edited June 2009

    LOL--glad you had fun dream----get some pretty fabric? Good deals? nice lunch?

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  • flash
    flash Member Posts: 1,685
    edited June 2009

    Glad to hear you got some good deals.

    Flash

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  • Analemma
    Analemma Member Posts: 1,622
    edited June 2009

    Elaine, I love to take back roads trips.  I'm a bit of a map nut, and I like to follow the old US routes when we have to travel by interstate, and then when we have time, to take the old route some.  US 21, which is where I seem to have lived my life, goes from the north, in Cleveland, where I live now, through the southwest Virginia mountains, where we homesteaded in the 70's; south to Davidson, NC where Greg went to college and we had our first home; to Rock Hill, S.C., where I attended Winthrop; through south Carolina to Charleston, through the very small town of Smoaks where I was born.  It has been replaced by I-77, but at some point, I've travelled the whole route.   I'd love to travel west on old Route 66, but I doubt if I'll get the opportunity.

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  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited June 2009

    Why not?

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  • Jane_M
    Jane_M Member Posts: 1,549
    edited June 2009

    Emma - travelling route 66 is on my bucket list, too.

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  • saint
    saint Member Posts: 1,877
    edited June 2009

    Me too------add it to our list---we'll all meet up at the same dive! HUGS

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  • LynnW
    LynnW Member Posts: 191
    edited June 2009

    Vicki, thank you for sharing your battles of late.  It only takes one post like yours to make me sit up and stop whining about my own issues. Right now they are nothing like what they will be down the road so i should really appreciate that. 

    Jane,, you mentioned not wanting your husband to love his new wife as much as he loved you.  I felt like that too and I felt guilty.   I stared dwelling on it.....and had to find out how to shake it because  I was starting to resent him for imaginary romances that he hadn't even had yet. lol  The only way to do this was to put myself in his shoes  (something mom taught me)    If he died,,, would I want to  meet and share my life with someone who I didn't love as much as him??  The answer is no.  I'd need to love and respect the new guy just as much  or else i'd be living a lie and always comparing the poor guy to my dead husband. Our men have to move on after we die and they must heal enough to love someone the same way they loved us. If they can't then they are sentenced to a future of being alone and missing us too much..  When we heal from the loss of someone,, its healthy and it means we have accepted things. That doesn't mean we ever forget who we lost so don't you worry for a minute about that. Your his goddess and thats why he won't meet anyone unless they are as wonderful as you.  I figure I'm a hard act to follow and i don't envy the next woman at all.  lol

    I'm not a religious person but my sweet man told me the other night in bed that he thinks I'm his angel. I told him that I always thought he was mine.  We hugged and agreed that we are both angels and that somehow we met and thats why we have such a wonderful relationship.  He then said that must be why his back is always itchy in one spot.  Its where his wing keeps trying to grow.  I then told him my wings can't grow either due to the cancer in my spine. We both laughed. We said ,, I love you,,, as we do every night,, and went to sleep............ i just realized  while writing this post.,,,,that I'm pretty lucky. 

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  • footprintsangel
    footprintsangel Member Posts: 43,890
    edited June 2009

    My Neighbor told me their daugther died of breast cancer yesterday. It scares be

    cause hers was not that far when I talk to her last time. I guess we never know. Vicki,

    my thoughts are with you, God bless you. Lynn, You are so caring about others, I

    am an angel lover too, And believe I wouldn't be here without mine. I went to my cancer

    Dr and I was told I had to change my appt to next week. Need to good relax, To everyone

    here, I hope you have a pain free night. Take care,Debbie

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  • hollyann
    hollyann Member Posts: 2,992
    edited June 2009

    Debbie so sorry to hear about your neighor's daughter...How old was she?.....Debie my thoughts are with you this evening and with Saint.......

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  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited June 2009

    Debbie- I am so sorry to hear the news. This is a scary thing, never knowing when things will progress or be stable.  Hugs

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  • Deb-from-Ohio
    Deb-from-Ohio Member Posts: 1,140
    edited June 2009

    Debbie, Sorry to hear about the neighbors daughter...I hate this disease....and Lynn, you and your husband sound so sweet together, that one brought tears to my eyes....it's amazing at what our guys can do/say that astound us......

    Hugs and prayers to all

    Deb

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  • LynnW
    LynnW Member Posts: 191
    edited June 2009

     Sorry to hear about your neighbours daughter.  This disease doesn't pick and choose. I'm amazed at the span in age at the oncology clinic. Young and old and all in between.

    Thank you Deb from Ohio. sorry if my hubby story made you teary.  I guess I get teary when I think about it too because my life has been very hard,, but when I met him (second relationship) I truly didn't feel worthy of having someone like him in my life.  My ex was bipolar but no one knew it for 17 years of marriage.  He abused me both mentally, verbally and physically. I still hate the sound of gravel in the drive way under the car tires because my three boys and I would panic when we knew he was home from work.  I only regret wasting so many years while healthy with this un healthy relationship.  

     Five years ago I met my man now. A year after meeting I found my breast cancer.  I told him he was free to move on and expected him too,, but he didn't want to.  Two days after the cancer came back last year... he decided to buy me my dream home. We both agreed we didn't need a formal marriage but he bought me my (get off my back) diamond ring  two years ago. lol   I don't need a wedding to know our union  is solid and honest..  Even when I'm bald with fuzzy chemo hair, and no eye brows , he tells me I'm sexy,, and he means it.  I argue with him that he's just being nice...but he gets mad and tells me he doesn't lie and would tell me if I looked scarey. lol    I wish everyone could have someone like him in their lives,,, especially when going through something like this.  He keeps me going.  Along with all of you wonderful brave women.

    love you all

    Lynn

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  • Jane_M
    Jane_M Member Posts: 1,549
    edited June 2009

    Lynn - your man sounds like a gem.  You're very lucky.

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  • footprintsangel
    footprintsangel Member Posts: 43,890
    edited June 2009

    Hi Ladies, The Lady that passed away was 36,  Vicki, I met a very nice gentleman when

    my dad was passing away from cancer, I told him I had to spend more time with family

    til he passed away. He left me.....I never say him again. Deb-from-Ohio, I sure enjoy you

    finding Jo and Patoo, Jane, and many others. We have a wonderful family here. God bless

    you all. Hugs, Debbie

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  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 3,255
    edited June 2009

    How is the 10 yr old doing??????

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  • LynnW
    LynnW Member Posts: 191
    edited June 2009

    Geeez,,, I notice yesterday that one of my saline implants is shrinking.  I assume I sprung a slow leak. The thing is I'm on chemo,,, like forever... so how or will they still do the repair surgery for me.  I'll freak if they don't.  I was planning on taking a break for a couple of weeks anyway,, so it will be about 4 weeks since my last session.  hmmmm worry worry worry.

    Lynn

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  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 3,255
    edited June 2009

    My sister is NED - after taking the cyst with clear margins and 5 sentinel nodes all clear.

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  • 2frogs1princess
    2frogs1princess Member Posts: 120
    edited June 2009

    The 10 year old girl has a website if you wanted to follow her.....

    www.ourlittlesweetpea.com

    Take care all....

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  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 3,255
    edited June 2009

    I did see that and under Thank You, is BCO mother elephants.  I would presume for the afghan.

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  • LynnW
    LynnW Member Posts: 191
    edited June 2009

    10 years old. Hard to beleive.  I went to the website. There was also a note from a man who is 47 and also has breast cancer. Guess its not just women and it boggles my mind that it can affect anyone. I hate this damn disease. 

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  • Alpal
    Alpal Member Posts: 1,785
    edited June 2009

    BUMP! I know the boards have been screwed up, but this was way down on page 2. Doesn't need to be there.

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  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 3,255
    edited June 2009

    Thanks for the bump.  I guess we need Saint to keep us going.  I visited a Hospice today.  Nice, new and well thought out.  It unfortuneately was too far from my home.  Our writing group had lunch, had a writing session with our former group leader.  Then I had to dash for my ride home.

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  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 3,255
    edited June 2009

    Hey Saint~~~~

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  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited June 2009

    Morning all, hoping everyone is in a good place today.

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  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 3,255
    edited June 2009

    I am wondering if it is all a moot point.  I know that friends and family will come together to celebrate my life.  They will exchange comforting hugs.  That is all that really counts.

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  • konakat
    konakat Member Posts: 6,085
    edited June 2009

    I'll have to ask my Mom what she wants when I die.  I know my mom didn't want a funeral for my father (they made a decision not to have one).  Mom always hated seeing widows/widowers having to play hostess/host at these things.  But Mom might enjoy seeing my friends an dall that. 

    I hate thinking about this.  I've had a realization a while ago -- my apprehension about returning to Canada.  I've always assumed that I would keep working in the US and just return to Canada when I could no longer work and to die.  Returning home makes me think it is all over...I know it isn't quite yet, but it still feels like a new, last chapter in my life when it should be a different new chapter...

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  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited June 2009

    But this is your book and your story. You get to re write it any way you want!!

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  • saint
    saint Member Posts: 1,877
    edited June 2009

    Hi & HUGS all---

    Kona! YOU gotta turn that around kiddo! This is a NEW chapter--not the last! Great things can come of this----anytime you make a move you are opening ALL the windows & doors & imagine who may walk thru a door you never had b4!!! HUGS to you---this is a daunting task (even without cancer) but I have a really good feeling about this----btw---TELL mom what YOU want b4 you let her take over your plans! LOL

    Dream---I'm here, but not doing much with the puter or phone just now-----what energy I have is being spent on dr app's & such! (bought groceries for the first time in over 2 weeks today-now don't have energy to cook all the things I was excited to buy! LOL)

    Lynn- I got lucky & have one of those guys---30 years this new years eve!

    Hugs all--be well & stay strong!

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