Thats my girl..............
There is a story I would like to share with you, which has always helped me deal with my daughter for all these years. Helped me to restrain myself from making changes to her. Not wanting progress in a hurry. I know deep in my heart that there is reason for everything happening around us.
A man strolling through his garden found a cocoon of a butterfly. He would watch it everyday. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through the little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress . It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and could go no farther. Then the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily . Something was strange. The butterfly had a swollen body and shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened. In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and deformed wings. It was never able to fly. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand, was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the small opening of the cocoon are God's (Read "Nature's" if that comforts you) way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon . Sometimes, Struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God ("Nature", for those who don't believe in supreme power) allowed us to go through all our life without any obstacles, that would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. Not only that, we could never fly. Have a happy flight Farheena... you have squeezed enough power in your wings now.
Wishing my dear girl a very happy 14th Birthday..
At age 3

Aged 5 months

Her own small pond LOL. Always loved being in water

Lucky to have the most loving who took her for strolls and took time to explain everything they came across on road.

Having bath is FUN!!!




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Farila, great pictures, would love to see her now! Wonderful story of the butterfly, I'd heard it years ago and thought of it often...so true.
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Farila: she is beautiful
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She's so beautiful! You must be very proud....
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Farila - the pics are great. She is just lovely! Thanks for sharing.
Raye
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What a beauty!!!!
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Thank you so much... She has been the biggest motivation for me to survive. Had been out of touch because she needs physiotherapy to correct her gait and I had to stay in hospital.. Love and hugs
Farila
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Farila you can recognize life's true meaning and this can fullfill our lives with happiness that brings us closer to god. I wish many many years with your family and little princess! God bless you.
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Your daughter is lovely! And the butterfly story will stay with me.
Thank-you for sharing Farila. And Happy 14th Birthday Farheena!
Elizabeth
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Farila: Your daughter is exquisite and she has a great and beautiful mother. She is, indeed a special gift to be treasured. Happy Birthday Farheena.
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Farila, thank youso much for sharing this with us. Happy Birthday,Farheena. Farila, your daughter is a sprecial gift. Thank you for sharing the butterfly story. I had never heard it but will treasure it. God bless you and your daughter!!
hugs and prayers
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I showed Farheena all the messages here and she is very happy. More friends.. make her happy. She says thank you to all of you...
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Farheena - we would all like to be your friend.
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Farila, I've never had the honor of "meeting" you, but let me tell you it IS such an honor.
I so loved the description of your daughter that you put so eloquently into words. It brought tears to my eyes. What a LOVING and unselfish mother you are! Your beautiful daughter is truly a treasure. We all can learn so much from her AND you. God makes no mistakes. You were chosen to have this wonderful child...now a young lady.....no prejudices, just love.
Farheena, I'm late wishing you HAPPY BIRTHDAY! You are soooooooo beautiful. Here's a song for you and your mom.
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Thanks Shirley. Farheena loved the song.. She loves music a lot. She is enjoying the love shown on this baord for her. kmccraw423 she loved the pic you put there. Her school has started again from 1st June and so it is BACK TO SCHOOL.....
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