Worst Thing Someone Said To You?

Any of you ever met an old aged bimbo? I have and it wasn't very pretty!

Two years after my mx, I signed up to be a Cancer Support Visitor/Volunteer.  We were ladies who had had BC and we did a course so that we could visit newly diagnosed women in hospital after being contacted by the hospital social worker and take them a kit with booklets and a temporary prosthesis for after tx.  We would stay in contact while they underwent further tx and gradually withdraw as their lives got back to 'normal'. 

The lady who was my support person during tx had a lady who lived on my street and I would give her a lift to our local BC support group meetings.  This sometimes led to my having a cup of coffee and getting marginally friendly with her.  One day, as I was sipping on my coffee she said, "This BC thing could be a good thing if I can make some money from it.  How much do you get paid to visit all those women?" I was totally gobsmacked!  I explained that all the support visitors were volunteers, which I don't think she believed, as she asked the same question three more times over later weeks.

Another time, she rang me to come down there straight away as she had a problem, then hung up on me.  I was fairly worried as she had been dxed with IBC and had had a bilateral mx.  She was being treated at the time for Lymphodema and, with the heat/humidity of our summer, was suffering quite a bit.

I dropped what I was doing to rush down there, only to find her walking around with just a pair of shorts on.   What really shocked me though, was that there were three men there, fixing the roof or plumbing or something similar.  She would walk out and talk to them totally topless!  Gobsmack # 2!  Finally, she told me that she needed me to do a lymphatic massage, because she couldn't stand the discomfort she was suffering.  I told her that I was just a volunteer, not a trained nurse/massuese/physiotherapist and couldn't touch her for that reason. To which she replied, "Well, you're not much use to me, are you?"  Gobsmack # 3!

She was given excersises to do for her own benefit and she wore everyone down by not doing what she was told and then calling her doctor/physio etc.,- to come and make her feel better. In the end people (and her husband) got sick of her expecting everyone else to do the hard work that goes with lymphodema and started to avoid her. 

I think we all felt a little guilty after she passed away, but some people just wear you out emotionally.

Sheila

P. S.   I can't tell you all # 4, as it's too crude.

Love this thread. Bump. Tami

I added a worst story much earlier on this thread - but I have a new one.  I was at a business meeting and saw someone that I had not seen for a long time. They saw my very short hair growing back and inquired. I also caught them eyeing my port (it is a lump on my chest) and so I explained what it was.  I also explained that my dr. suggested I keep the port in four months to  one year, just in case I need it, but hopefully not.  This person said to me, "Oh I didnt know you could have chemo again; I thought people were either cured or ...."  Then they stuttered and turned red. I could not speak. I went to the ladies room and had a major hot flash.

Not sure if I put this out there but last April 7th I had breast surgery at the young age of 56 and when I got home from Boston to Mo my nieghbor next door came over to see me and said can I ask where they put your NIPPLE hello I said I dont know she said her sister law had it sewn on her hip but she never had reconstruction NOW I thought that was funny not insultated at all but if we cant laugh we will cry I KNOW....I am going back to Boston (born and raised there) and having my tissue expander out and it was a year ago this memoral weekend i had completed my first chemo still felt good but very isolated like when you have the baby and all your friends are going out and having fun come on your remember too admit it ...but some lady stopped me and told me about this site and god bless you all you have been in my heart since every one of you are wonderful ladies and us bostonians are usually snobby but I have been in MO since 72. I thought I would have hair on this weekend my baby boy graduates but not enough hair to show for his day and my tears to see him walk across that stage and know I was still here god I hope I get to be here for all of it including college grandbabies it would be a shame I will make a wonderful grandmother since I have my 3 sons...hugs to all of you

I am brand new to the chat rooms but I have enjoyed reading your comments on here. I have just begun my radiation after 4 treatments of some horrid chemo. I lost my hair on the 18th day after starting chemo. I swore then I would never wear a wig. I don't think there's anything wrong with them but I decided that this was part of my journey. Besides I love hats but hate hat hair. No worries now! So far most people have been fairly decent when asking me about my txs or something. But for some reason, every single person I even slightly know, thinks that when I don't have a hat on then my head is free reign and they need to rub my head! Am I supposed to be a good luck charm or something??

Good idea! Thanks!

"It's going to get worse, you know."  Said by the clerk at the pharmacy when I went to pick up my nausea meds prior to my second round of chemo.  OH GOODIE, I JUST CAN'T WAIT!!!!!!!!

Nancy

My Mom asked me if I felt empty after I lost my hair   Left me feeling great.....

One of my clients actually asked if I cried when I shaved my hair.......uh, what do you think!!?????

Holly, you probably disappointed her.  Some need to live off of other's drama.   (Personally I hate drama--the last 6 months could last me a lifetime.)  She probably wanted a juicy bit of drama and angst to go home and get on the phone and talk about.  It's why I kept my news so very quiet at work, I work with many that are just like her and I didn't want to be part of that grapevine.

Can I steal that line?

Does anyone else have someone who brings up who died everytime you talk to them ??  I do and it can be someone that I have no clue who they were but I know they are gone. 

kmmd, you are probably so right...Some people need gossip to feed off just to get by.......Sheesh!......

Idaho, I got so many of those stories when my sister was diagnosed I thought I had heard them all, Then I got diagnosed....Nope hadn't heard all of them yet apparently...SOmeone came up with more!..LOL......Yep one step away from a turnip!.....

Hi Friends I went to the cancer dr and saw the dr assistant. She says I have breast cancer

stage 2 on right side, I have IDC stage 3 left side. Iron and blood count was very low, She told me I looked very  depressed, I'm very tired cause of count. Where do Dr go to school?

Actually, what bothers me more is when ppl come to me and say...My friend/relative/whoever is a 10/15/20 year survivor, and if they can do it, you can. I know they are trying to be nice and encouraging, but I just want to ask them. well, what kind of breast cancer did they have, what kind of surgery, and how many lymph nodes involved, what kind of receptors, what stage and grade and so on. People just don't know or understand that there is SO MUCH more to it then just having breast cancer.