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PT6
PT6 Member Posts: 76
edited June 2014 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

I'm lucky - DCIS stage ) grade 2. Going to have a mastectomy with immediate reconstruction and BAM I'll be done. I went through this 31 years ago and now it starts again. I have other serious medical issues and just when I start getting  those under control BAM! it starts again. I just want to curl up in a corner and cry. As several other people reported - all my friends expect me to be the one with the good attitude and I feel like I am bolstering them up about my diagnosis more than they are bolstering me up. I told my male support system about my diagnosis 2 weeks ago. At the end of the day he gave me a big hug and I have not heard from him since. This happened with my diagnosis 31 years ago also - never saw the guy again. So I am here I and trying to put together a support system for the trials to come and feeling VERY alone. On-line hugs are kindly accepted.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2009

    Okay, big hug coming up.......((((((HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGggg)))))

    Does that feel better???

    Sorry you have to do this again and as far as the male is concerned..........GET THE SHOVELS!! What a shlep, you deserve better.

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  • Alyad
    Alyad Member Posts: 817
    edited May 2009

    PT6 - soo sorry you are dealing with this! (((((((BIG HUG))))))) I need one too, I'm having a rough day on day 5 post chemo treatment 4. at least you don't have to have chemo? bright side?

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  • PT6
    PT6 Member Posts: 76
    edited May 2009

    (((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))))))) Back to you. I don't know what we did before the internet. I just sat here hoping someone would respond. Thank you. Thank you. This sucks!

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  • Alyad
    Alyad Member Posts: 817
    edited May 2009

    you are not alone! and it does suck.

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  • bkc
    bkc Member Posts: 320
    edited May 2009

    ((((((((HUGS)))))))) headed your way. Some days when I'm really down and everyone around me is sick of dealing with this I close my self in my office and come here where I know everyone understands. We are all here for each other and we will be here for you.

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  • medicainfo
    medicainfo Member Posts: 3
    edited May 2009

    Hi friend,

    Please don't feel alone.  A ((((((((great hug))))))))))Smile to you from me and all myfriends. Just get well soon. And if you want to share your story with this world,please write to us. We have a blog (BREAST CANCER VICTIM) dedicated to all breast cancer victims where we post their stories, blogs & website to gather support for them. Please please don't feel alone. We all are with you. Get well soon.

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  • mzmiller99
    mzmiller99 Member Posts: 894
    edited May 2009

    Big cyber hugs, from me, too!! 

     Big group cyber hug...all together now,....((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))!

    And, some soft snuggles, too.  Thinking of you,

    Susan

    PS Who the h#ll needs men, anyway?

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  • idaho
    idaho Member Posts: 1,187
    edited May 2009

    Oh, I am so sorry you have to do this again-  ((((((((((PT6)))))))))).  You are better off without support like that....I have finally come to the conclusion that I am NOT going to make this easier on everybody else (except my kids), everyone else can just see it like it is and I am not going to try to make them feel better about it!  You know what?  I FEEL BETTER!  Peace to you, Tami

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2009

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    There ya go - who needs those other bozos!!!  Do you want his support, of course, but idiots are idiots and so let him/them go.  Be yourself and try not to make them feel better.  We have to learn to just give "them" a blank look and go on with our lives.  Easier said then done, yes, because we are so used to taking care of everyone else.  In most other areas of life "ME FIRST" is not a good thing, but here, go for it!!!

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  • deb6563
    deb6563 Member Posts: 179
    edited May 2009

    {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}

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  • flash
    flash Member Posts: 1,685
    edited May 2009

    Super cyber {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

    I hope all goes well.

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  • PT6
    PT6 Member Posts: 76
    edited May 2009

    Thank you! Thank You! Thank you! I am doing much better thanks to everyone here. I think everyone deserves a few meltdowns during this journey and Saturday was my turn. I am now ready to steel myself for this week's adventures. ((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) back to everyone for their help.

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  • Debonthelake
    Debonthelake Member Posts: 244
    edited May 2009

    (((((((((Hugs))))))))      (((((((((Hugs)))))))))

    WE'RE here.  This is a great site for support.

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  • lemonpie
    lemonpie Member Posts: 183
    edited May 2009
    ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))  Hope you are feeling betterLaughing
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  • flash
    flash Member Posts: 1,685
    edited May 2009

    PT- glad things are better.  It's what we are all here for-- each other.

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  • sagit
    sagit Member Posts: 28
    edited June 2009

    pt6, of course i hug u with all my heart, and i'm so glad u feel better. i'm so gratefull for this forum. it's a great support system.

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  • hollyann
    hollyann Member Posts: 2,992
    edited June 2009

    Great big hugs to you, PT6!   Hope you are feeling better today!.........Can I just say CANCER SUCKS!.......

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  • Cody
    Cody Member Posts: 81
    edited June 2009

    PT6---{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{WHOPPER OF A HUG!!!!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

    Hope you're feeling better.  And it does get better. 

    Had my mastectomy and reconstruction 2 years ago.  Thank heavens I had a rock of a husband don't know what I'd have done without him.  Hang in there!!!  As I said, It does get better with time.

    Take care,

    Cody

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  • Kimberley31773
    Kimberley31773 Member Posts: 5
    edited August 2009
    I am sending you mental HUGS. You and everybody else on here deserves them..Smile
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