IYO, do I have a reason to be ticked?

I am 37 and on March 17 I learned that I joined you ladies in being diagnosed with breast cancer.  I found the lump myself after nursing my daughter on March 6th (of course, that was 8 o'clock on a Friday night)  The PA sent me to a surgeon (who a week after I saw him went on vacation) and did not give me the option to see any of his other partners in his group to try to get the testing started.  Although I was able to see a Onc and the Onc wanted to get things rolling ASAP.

 April 7th they put in a port which I could never use for the intended use anyway because it was leaking into my shoulder.  On top of this fact, I also had an allergic reaction to the opsite tape and had blisters all over my chest because of it.  Oh, and the stupid surgeon put the port on the SAME SIDE that I have the breast cancer in, which was a poor choice since I am going to have surgery on that side which would be bad for the port, I also read about how having the port on the same side as the cancer increases your risk for lymphedema.  I am refusing any other port to be put in due to my horror that occurred with the first one.  To make matters worse, and what prompted me to ask if I have a right to be ticked, is that the idiotic surgeon did NOT do any sentinel lymph node dissection at that time, BEFORE I started chemo.  So I do not know the true stage that I am in or if it got into any of the lymph nodes at all.

April 8th, I had an MRI guided biopsy in BOTH breasts.  I am so glad that I used some xanax and vicoden to get me through it because it was as bad as child birth.  I have 3 kids and 2 were born without any pain medicine.  This is the one thing that the surgeon did that was fairly good.

April 9th I started chemo.  Taxotere, Carboplaten, and Herceptin.

April 10th I had an ultrasound guided biopsy of one enlarged lymph node in my armpit, which came back negative for cancer.

The "original" plan was to have three chemo treatments, followed via a lumpectomy, followed via 3 more chemo treatments and radiation.  The more I learned about radiation, the less that I want to automatically have that treatment, if at all possible.  Also, upon going to Seattle (I originally started out in Olympia, Washington) I learned, that if I wanted BOTH breasts removed that the insurances will cover it if I have cancer in one breast.  I seem to get the run around here in Olympia when I asked that question and they implied that only one breast would be covered.  This also affects my decision making in the long run, because I am only 37 and I have 3 kids an 8 and a 4 year old, and a 9 month old.  I wanted ALL my options and the idiotic surgeon in Olympia didn't seem to know what is usually accepted or if he did, he did not look at the longevity for when treating me or at preventing secondary problems.  Even my Onc seemed to be irritated with him.

Then on May 4th I had a major allergic reaction to the taxotere and the Onc changed it to Abraxane.  Which now I am waiting on my insurance to give the Ok for it since it is a more expensive drug.

Thanks for reading my long post, I am just really irritated at the surgeon upon going to Seattle and having them tell me things that made much more sense than the cr@p that the surgeon in Olympia was feeding me.

Colette