My little brother died in my arms from Lung Cancer May 3, 2009

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Danie
Danie Member Posts: 184
edited June 2014 in Palliative Therapy/Hospice Care

Hello to all,

My little brother who is only 41 years old died from lung cancer in my arms.  I went to the BC conference in Philly and from there went at my brother`s to be his full time caregiver.  Having him taking his last breath in my arms, was the most difficult thing I`v had to do in my life.  We were only six years apart, thus pretty close.  He had three kids 16 & 19 & 21 which they are having a really hard time with , since they lived with him full time as he had the legal gardianship.  I am trying to help them as much as I can.  His funeral will be on Saturday May 9th in Ste-Thérèse, Quebec at 10 rue de l`Église.

I will probably be returning to Alberta next week sometime.

Comfort hugs,

Danie

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  • mom_of_2
    mom_of_2 Member Posts: 347
    edited May 2009

    I am at a loss for words other than I am so very very sorry.

    Deepest sympathy,

    Kris 

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  • hollyann
    hollyann Member Posts: 2,992
    edited May 2009

    Danie, I am so sorry to hear of your loss......I know how it feels to lose someone to lung cancer...I lost a brother about 3 yrs ago to lung cancer and then this past March 23rd I lost a sister to emphysema.......I was at my sister's bedside when she passed (She waited til I could get to her).......I couldn't be with my brother before he passed as he was 400 miles away and I did not have reliable transportation at the time.......I am glad you were able to be with your brother and say your final farewell.......I hope he went peacefully as my sister did.....Did you see the angels when they came for him?.....I saw the ones who came for my sister.....They were absolutely gorgeous!.....So many beautiful colors of the rainbow.....My sincere condolences to you and your brothers children........

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  • Marple
    Marple Member Posts: 19,143
    edited May 2009

    Danie, I'm so sorry about your brother.  Gentle hugs.

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  • celia088
    celia088 Member Posts: 2,570
    edited May 2009

    Danie, i am so saddened to read of the passing of your brother.  I am glad that you got to be with him and held him in your arms in gentleness and peace.  You are an amazing sister.  My condolences to his children and your whole family.  I have put him on our List of Angels in Commemorating Loved Ones in the friends and relatives section.

    celia 

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  • Emily2008
    Emily2008 Member Posts: 605
    edited May 2009

    So sorry for this terribly painful loss.  It sounds like you and your brother had a very special relationship, and as hard as it was, the memory of being with him in his final moments will be a treasure for you in years to come.  Bless you and his kids during this time.

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  • EGAL
    EGAL Member Posts: 539
    edited May 2009

    Danie~

     My hearfelt sympany to you.

     Ellen

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  • TenderIsOurMight
    TenderIsOurMight Member Posts: 4,493
    edited May 2009

    Dear Danie, 

    You walked a path which few of us have yet to take, helping a beloved pass from this world to the next. It takes a compassionate heart to see your brother through such a journey. His love for you never died when he did, and this is something very special to be able to carry in your heart as you proceed with life.

    My heartfelt condolences and strength to you as you mourn yet carry on....

    Tender 

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  • Danie
    Danie Member Posts: 184
    edited June 2009

    Thank you to all for your kind words, thoughts and encouragements.  Celia thank you so much for adding him on the list it is much appreciated.  I am still recovering from his departer and miss him very much.  My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

    Comfort hugs,

    Danie

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  • arnie
    arnie Member Posts: 3,050
    edited June 2009

    Danie...my sister died of aggressive destructive cancer on November 24, 2008.  She was 4 years older than me and we too were very close.  I miss her soooo dearly and I know your pain... (((((hugs))))))))) to you dear sister.  I spent alot of time with her and we never let her be alone the 4 months she battled.  I'm so glad she didn't know I had bc... I was diagnosed a month and a half after she passed.  I'll keep you in my prayers...   Janet

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