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pudzzy
pudzzy Member Posts: 6
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer
My daughter was  digonised  with breast cancer 4  centimeter  large , stage 2 .I don't know sometimes what to say to my daughter or how to bring up the subject  I am staying at her house. Her operation is next week .She said the waiting is the worst she just wants to get it over soon . For me I am 65 years old .Last year our son was dignosed &  survived   leukemia   This Christmas my 88 year old dad fell & broke his hip.. I flew to be close to him & spend the holidays without my own family. Today I get a call that he had a heart attack  & is in hospital . I cant leave my daughter to be with him.   My nerves are getting bad but I cant let me daughter know ..I just needed to get this off my chest & on paper I guess .. I have been staying in her basement & looking after the 2 boys age 10 & 12  & new puppy & a cat & her hubby . She is in a daze a lot & cry's a lot .No shape to do this herself .I am  exasted. already & next week when she comes home  from  hospital it will be worse  THANKS TO ALL YOU SURVIVERS FOR LISTENING  
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  • everyminute
    everyminute Member Posts: 1,805
    edited January 2009

    It does seem like when it rains it pours.  I have had the hardest year of my life and am hoping that means that better days are to come!  It is wonderful of you to be there with her but you must also take care of yourself.  What good will you do anyone if you are sick yourself.

    Be kind to yourself and try to breathe.  Look for the good in every day (as silly as it seems). 

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  • pudzzy
    pudzzy Member Posts: 6
    edited January 2009

    Thank you for kind words . have to remember too that I am lucky its not me going through what they are going  through. I have my friends who I talk to & many good folks around. My one friend has her hubby in hospital with bad lungs & heart .  Another friend of the family has only 3 months ( cancer)  she is 98.  Yes It rains & pours 

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  • dlb823
    dlb823 Member Posts: 9,430
    edited January 2009

    pudzzy ~  You certainly have had far more than your fair share of worries this past year, but, thank God your son is okay, and it sounds like your daughter will be, too.   You sound like an amazing Mother -- always putting your family first.  Being able to count on you to take care of her family right now is support your daughter probably appreciates a lot more than she could ever tell you.  (((Hugs))) & prayers for your daughter, your Dad, and for much sunnier days ahead for you and your whole family ~

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  • hollyann
    hollyann Member Posts: 2,992
    edited January 2009

    Great big hugs to you pudzzy.....Sheesh  you have had it rough.......I sure know how you feel though...A few months before my own bc dx I lost a sister to this beast and another sister was dx with it.....like dlb says when it rains it pours........Many hugs and prayers for peace to you...Hugs...Lucy

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  • angsmom
    angsmom Member Posts: 22
    edited January 2009

    Pudzzy - so sorry for what you are going through right now.  My daughter was diagnosed in July so we have already been through the testing and surgery.  She just finished chemo but still has a very long road with herceptin, radiation and more surgery. Just dealing with BC has been horribly difficult and I can only imagine what you are going through. I felt the same way about bringing up the cancer but my daughter said the one thing that means the most to her is that someone just listens so I try to do that even when it breaks my heart.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Cathy

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  • ria926
    ria926 Member Posts: 1
    edited March 2009

    I know exactly what you are going through with your daughter.  My daughter age 23, YOUNG, has just been diagnosed with BC.  She is having a double on 04/02.  I don't know what to say, all I do is cry, and can't seem to get a handle on it.  She is angry, but holding alot in. She also has cofirmed braca 1 gene.  My 22 year old is nervous as anything,  I can't see how life will ever go on...my heart is breaking.  How do we get through

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  • ldh54
    ldh54 Member Posts: 5
    edited April 2009

    HOney - I very much understand how you are feeling!  The weight is heavy, but you will get through it.  Do you have a church or support group of friends?  Does your daughter?  I sent out an email to all my firends and my sister's friends (she's stage 4, with poor prognosis), with a list of ways we needed help.  I was not shy -- need childcare 2 days a week for BREAK - need meals 2-3 times a week - need help with light house work or laundry - need place to go for 2-3 days FREE for me to rest. Need chaffeur help to drop/pick up kids from school.   People want to help and don't know how.  Giving them specifics really helped.  I even had one friend who came over and worked up a chart of NEEDS and offerred to coorindate the help for me.  So she got all the calls and signed folks up.  It has been GREAT. 

    Also find someone you can talk to, a shoulder to cry on ... sometimes I feel like people hate to see me coming cuz it's all I talk about.  It's what I live 24/7 and it's all that's on my mind.  I feel guilty.  But a couple of good friends told me they understand, so I can unload on them as much as I need.  And then I can have normal conversations with most everyone else.  Anyway, I hope you have someone in your life you can talk with about your own feelings and frustrations.  You need that too.

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  • deborye
    deborye Member Posts: 7,002
    edited April 2009

    Here is a Prayer I like:

    Dear Jesus,
    Divine Physician and Healer of the Sick,
    we turn to You in this time of illness.
    O dearest Comforter of the Troubled,
    alleviate our worry and sorrow with Your gentle love,
    and grant us the grace and strength to accept this burden.
    Dear God,
    we place our worries in Your hands.
    We ask that You restore Your servant to health again.
    Above all,
    grant us the grace to acknowledge Your holy will
    and know that whatsoever You do,
    You do for the love of us.

    Amen.

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  • simojt_marjun
    simojt_marjun Member Posts: 7
    edited May 2009

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