Angry Rant -- WebMD Says It's our Fault! "Research" shows!!

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  • Edelstoff
    Edelstoff Member Posts: 19
    edited February 2009
    Hello Ladies, I just found this site and want to say "I love you guys!"  I also lived the "ideal" lifestyle, no risk factors, blah..blah..blah.  Surprise at age 56.  Fortunately, Stage I, but Grade III and extensive.  So bilateral skin sparing mastectomy with silicone cohesive gel implants.  I continue to be fit, eat well and guess what...I enjoy two, yes I said TWO glasses of sauvignon blanc every evening.  Lately, I have been feeling guilty due to the most recent research that states "any amount of alcohol causes breast cancer".  Screw it!! I kept hearing about "quality of life" when I was making my treatment decisions and I sure as heck did take that into account.  At 58, one year post-op exchange surgery I can kick butt with the 25 year olds, can do 35 full push-ups and out run them all Cool Thanks for letting me enjoy my glass of wine this evening....oh, sorry my TWO glasses of wine.  Let's kick butt and enjoy LIVING!  
  • abbadoodles
    abbadoodles Member Posts: 2,618
    edited February 2009

    Oh, gimme a break.  If they truly knew what caused cancer there would be a cure by now.  We know, personally, that preventive measures do not work.

  • Fitztwins
    Fitztwins Member Posts: 7,969
    edited February 2009

    Every time one of these dang studies come out or I read that a Healthy lifestyle will help prevent cancer I turn away. I know too many that did all this and got cancer.

    I am/was the healthiest of 4 siblings. Exercised, Kept my weight down, didn't drink or do drugs...who got cancer at age 39? me.

    So I say F-ck all of the studies. We need to focus on a cure not on f-ing studies. They have been going on for  years. We need to know why cells go bad and how to stop it.

    Janis

    who did everything right too (exercise,weight,diet), was at a higher risk(family history, babies after 30), did mammos and SBE and still got cancer.

  • Marple
    Marple Member Posts: 19,143
    edited February 2009
    Oh and one other thing........stress causes cancer.  In which case........my fault yet again.Tongue out
  • rrs
    rrs Member Posts: 614
    edited March 2009

    I agree.  In the most recent study conducted in England, they don't mention what the people ate all that time -- people in England eat a lot of meat and cream, cheese, etc.  They are also don't get a great amount of sunshine.  We don't know what chemicals they were exposed to during the study period or if they lived in the city or countryside.  How much did they really drink?  They may say a couple of drinks but they could be drinking much more.  Did they smoke, eat processed or smoked meats?  Who knows!!!

    And, why the increase now - are women drinking more now and at earlier ages -- what about young women with BC?  What about our tooth paste, cosmetics and chemicals used in dental procedures - could they be contributing to our oral and throat cancers?  What about our polluted water and air? 

    I have several friends in their late 50's who have no children, are overweight, drink a good bit, don't eat right, don't worry about chemicals in their food and environment and none of them have developed cancers of any kind.  One friend has a mother and aunt who had BC.  Another friend has practically killed herself drinking, she even has breast implants and she hasn't developed cancer.  I know that's not a scientific study and they may eventually develop BC but it just makes me wonder.  There has to be more too it than blaming it on alcohol. 

  • rrs
    rrs Member Posts: 614
    edited March 2009

    just adding to ffavorite topics.

  • snowyday
    snowyday Member Posts: 1,478
    edited March 2009

    Why the hell don't they do a study on testicular cancer and alcohol. And can you imagine a guy having a nuttogram like we have mammogram!  Those studies just label good honest women. My mother is coming for a visit today and I know she's going to say something about that study as she hates alcohol and my dad and I used to enjoy a few brandies together and she hated it. So today should be very interesting, I pray I don't blow at her. 

  • abbadoodles
    abbadoodles Member Posts: 2,618
    edited March 2009

    HaHaHa.  Nuttogram.  Love it.

    Why don't you serve your mum some sherry with her tea? Innocent

  • GramE
    GramE Member Posts: 5,056
    edited March 2009

    I saw a cartoon with a man's genitals crushed like our breasts are with a mammogram -- it was called a " Man o gram " !!!!    

    Snowy, when someone tells me some off the wall thing caused MY cancer, I tell them my doctor disagrees and he/she is the expert I trust.   That usually shuts them up.   OR, If you agree with them, they have nothing else to argue about...   You can grit your teeth and say " I agree " -- casually change the subject or get up and "go potty"  and hopefully avoid an argument.   

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2009

    DDT has been my thing  eating away at my emotions, thoughts.also.  After it was banned my dad used it all of the time in the garden.  We ate off that garden almost all year.  Canned and frozen everything.

  • abbadoodles
    abbadoodles Member Posts: 2,618
    edited March 2009

    janey, I hear ya but you cannot continue to dwell on what's past and done if you want to really enjoy your future.  Thankfully, DDT is banned now and I imagine all the hoarded DDT has been used up ages ago. 

    I say, test your own garen soil for what's in it NOW to help ease your mind and do something positive about your and your family's future.

  • HKitty71
    HKitty71 Member Posts: 141
    edited March 2009

    If breast cancer is caused by drinking and being overweight then why don't fat beer drinking men with man boobs get it?

  • Britt
    Britt Member Posts: 731
    edited March 2009

    Thank you, HKitty!  I am 52 years old and tall and slender and always ate in a healthful manner -  and then BC strikes!!!!!!! It has NOTHING to do with the crap that this stupid stupid STUPID report has to say . . . . BC does not discriminate. It is in your system for whatever reason - hormones, DNA, whatever.  Look at all of the women on this website who conducted their lives in a healthful manner . . .  there are things out there that are beyond our control - toxins, pollution, additives in food that we are led to believe are healthy food, etc. etc. etc.

    I can go on and on . . . to me, it is typical propagranda  . . . . focusing on women!!!!!

     Xena!

  • swimangel72
    swimangel72 Member Posts: 1,989
    edited March 2009

    It's "blame the victim" game - it makes those who haven't become ill feel safe and superior and SMUG........but the reality is, cancer is caused by everything around us - from even BEFORE we were born - by what our mother's were exposed to - by the toxins in the ground and water that have been there for centuries.

    Janey my mother kept her own personal stash of DDT in our basement for years - spraying all her bushes and flowers - even spraying a stray bat that was in my bedroom (it escaped out the window). I had no breasts then - new studies show that girls exposed to DDT before they had breasts have higher risk for BC. But I don't dwell on this.........my mother only knew what she learned in Depression-era Ireland - "God bless the man who invented DDT!" was the joyful cry of the women living in dirt-floor thatched cottages back then, suffering from bed bug bites (as well as starvation) - a similar exclamation of happiness from Third World countries where malaria killed so many children. I don't blame them for what they didn't know - I just pray that smart young people will be attracted to science and research and help us find a CURE for all cancers! 

  • Blondee
    Blondee Member Posts: 18
    edited April 2009

    Hello, I am new here but no stranger to breast cancer. When these studies are conducted they are only as good as the person or people conducting them. Just because a study makes claims doesn't make the information true. Snake oil sales people roam the Internet preying on the emotions of breast cancer survivors as they try to peddle their productsFrown People in general that are clueless about what we have gone through like to play the blame game because they don't know what else to say. People tend to say the stupidest things and then try to play God by making their assessment as to why I might have gotten breast cancer. It's time to get the stupid stick and whack them over the head. To date medical science still doesn't know what causes breast cancer yet, clueless people try to pass their ignorant opinions off as fact. I have done so many breast cancer walks only to discover that a lot of the money collected that is supposed to go towards research lines the pockets of politicians and sponsors of these events. Nice huh. Well ladies, the next time someone tries to blame your life style on this horrible disease feel free to use my stupid stick. It's a virtual  whack on the head of course but it tends to make us cancer survivors feel betterLaughing

  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited April 2009

    Well said, Blondee!!

  • HKitty71
    HKitty71 Member Posts: 141
    edited April 2009

    Blondee that is so true so many times the donations we make do not actually go to the people they were proclaimed to be helping.

    If Fat Beer Drinking Men got BC do you think that we would be a lot closer to knowing what causes it and probably closer to an actual cure or vaccine for some types?

  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 3,255
    edited April 2009

    If Fat Beer Drinking Men got BC or any other cancer... the doctors of the past would have it under control as at that time all doctors were men.... and metastatic cancer would be a thing of the past.  Now we spend millons of dollars looking for the cure.  How slow are we? 

  • Blondee
    Blondee Member Posts: 18
    edited April 2009
    Thanks Iodine! If you need to use the stupid stick just let me know lol  Hkitty1, when I first started participating in the walks about 9 years ago, sponsers were getting $1000.00 per walkerFrown Sadly enough, once again people are making a buck off of the most vulnerable in our society. Now they are treating breast cancer like a chronic diseaseFrown. WE NEED A CURE AND WE NEED IT NOW!
  • ShariPDX
    ShariPDX Member Posts: 29
    edited June 2009

    Keep in mind that it's free to blame us and then self-righteously spend all of the cancer money on finding a "cure" rather than getting down to the business of finding the causes AND doing something about it. 

    There is no profit in demanding that chemicals, plastics, drugs, etc. be eliminated from use.  Those are big money making businesses who support candidates.  

    If there were no more cancer, where would the oncologists go, and what would they do with all of the cancer treatment centers and equipment, and how would the drug companies get rich if they couldn't peddle there chemo treatments and their $300+ per month cancer drugs?  And the American Cancer Society would close up because it couldn't guilt people out of money any more.

    And then there's the whole pink ribbon thing ... don't even get me started.

  • Nanalinda
    Nanalinda Member Posts: 826
    edited June 2009

    When I started my radiation treatment, my radiation oncologist very kindly said to me "there is nothing that you did that caused this to happen to you."  Those kind words caused me to cry for the first time since I had been diagnosed.  I needed to hear that so bad.  You always wonder... what could I have done differently to prevent this from happening.  When a study like this comes out blaming the victim.... it causes so much pain and hurt to all of us who are already suffering enough.  I will never forget that Dr. who was so kind to me.

  • ktym
    ktym Member Posts: 2,637
    edited June 2009

    I find myself recognizing that it is hard to reconcile that while I try to convince myself that I did nothing to myself to cause this, I remain fixated on the hope that increasing excercise, good diet, not drinking etc. can keep it from coming back.  Oh wall, we all have our coping mechanisms.

  • LorenaB
    LorenaB Member Posts: 937
    edited June 2009

    Thanks to those of you who just bumped up this thread.  Just last night I was having a discussion about this at a family bbq, about the fact that some people have a predisposition to get some kind of cancer, and then environment can help to activate that predisposition. I didn't have many of the so-called risk factors (average weight, occasional drinker,non-smoker etc.) and I got bc at 41.

    I think the key is what someone said early in this thread -- "correlation is not the same as causation." Just because a study says that there is a small correlation between X and getting cancer doesn't mean that every single person who does X is going to get it.  And this "blaming the victim" stuff has got to go. When I told my mother about my dx the first thing she said was, "it was those damn birth control pills!"  Thanks a lot, mom. Undecided  And last year when I told someone I knew through work about my bc, she told me that her sister had bc, then had a recurrence and died. "It was because of all the stress, you know, she was a single mom."  Yikes, I'm a single mom too!  I told her (very politely and diplomatically) that she really shouldn't blame her sister for getting sick.  I guess all we can do is let people know what they are doing/saying and go on from there.

  • nelia48
    nelia48 Member Posts: 539
    edited June 2009

    Just found this thread!!!!    So now I know what caused my cancer!  I can blame my Mother now for something!!!!!!  I was NOT breast fed!

  • Jorf
    Jorf Member Posts: 498
    edited July 2009

    Badboob - that thing about grandparents does seem to hold some bearing with type 2 diabetes.... I think the only thing I can put on my grandmother (my father's mother - I look more like him) is saggy boobs. When I was giving talks on menopause I would say, "I'm afraid I'm going to look like my grandmother. These [I'd point to the bags under my eyes that I got from her...] are going to end out here [I'd point to my boobs - back when I had two] and these [said boobs] are going to end out here [pointing to my lower belly]." Thanks, Grandma!

    Nelia - I do get to blame my mother for BC. (I blame her for everything, actually.) She had it first - twice, then my sister, then me. (And all the genetic testing was negative on my mother!)

  • nixieschaos
    nixieschaos Member Posts: 130
    edited July 2009

    Wow, so if we take absolutley no responsibility in this, then we can do nothing about it...hmmmm. I just can;t believe this. I must be crazey then for believing that I can still be here after being diagnosed with stage IV cancer mets to the bone, 20% chance of survival. well girls, I took responsibility for my health, both for the bad choices pre diagnosis and the great choices after.  and I am now being presented at medical conferences because I am doing so well that it makes no sense to the docs. What the hell was I thinking?

  • JoanofArdmore
    JoanofArdmore Member Posts: 1,012
    edited July 2009

    When I was dx, I began a litany of self-recrimination to my onc:

    :"Is it because I smoked?

    Is it because I used HRT?

    Is it because I grilled hamburgers (and left them rare inside?)

    Is it because I don't eat enough broccoli?

    etc etc"

    My onc held up his hand in  a STOP position, and said 

    "You got cancer because you're a HUMAN BEING"

    (And now we will get rid of it.")

    <NOT that humans are the only animals who get cancer, as I , who lost my darling Labby to it  can attest>

    Thank you, Beth, for your great rant, and the opportunity to join in!

    joan

  • Poppy
    Poppy Member Posts: 405
    edited July 2009

    I fully believe that I contributed to my BC. I don't think I "caused" it, but I'm sure my lifestyle in my 20's (drinking and smoking) didn't help at all. If anything, maybe the PTB should study parents causing a child's BC. Don't get me wrong, I don't blame my parents at all, but genetically, they created me and my DNA was predisposed to BC. I chose to smoke and drink and eat nitrates and twinkies so probably I helped fuel a process that was already in a delicate situation. Who knows... I just know now, that I'm not giving up the things I want to do but now I do them in moderation. Probably there are women who are greatly affected by one glass of wine or one "whatever," but I choose to believe I'm not one of them. Life's too short to miss out on all of the fun and delicious things out there!

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