most thoughtful thing received after surgery?
Most likely we all received beautiful bouquets and fruit baskets, but what were some of the most helpful, creative or thoughtful things you received after surgery?
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Flowers were my favorite.
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3 weeks of kid friendly meals from members of my church, a gift card to a meal delivery service, babysitting. And from a friend who is a survivor, a big portable file folder to keep all my cancer paperwork organized.
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When I had my mastectomy I was pretty closed-mouth about it, telling very few people. My daughter had a new boyfriend and she had to tell him becauses she was coming in from college and he was helping with her transportation. One week after the surgery she was coming home and kept saying don't worry about dinner that she had a surprise.... Well her boyfriend's mother sent over a complete turkey dinner, with stuffing potatoes veggies etc. I hadn''t even met her. I was moved to tears and I will never forget it
Michele
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My surgery was in the fall right around Halloween time...2 friends brought me the most beautifully carved pumpkins for my front porch. Despite my physical and emotional pain...it was great to light them and put a smile on the kids faces!
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One of my girlfriends, going thru bc 10 years ago, received a huge box with snacks, chips and drinks in it- she had school aged children at the time. She or her dh made the sandwiches, and the kids picked from the box for the rest of their school lunch- I thought that was such a neat idea.
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gift certificate for getting my hair washed. I have waist length hair, and my PS wouldn't allow bathing until the drain was out. It was the most awesome gift for me.
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In among the box of things I received from the American Cancer Society was a bracelet. An "id" type that said "Hope starts here". Maybe some of you got the same? It had rubber sides with a silver clasp? Anyway, I took to wearing it on the side where they took lymph nodes as a way of reminding myself in my drug induced haze upon return from the hospital. Even after becoming clear headed, I found it meaningful and liked wearing it. Obviously, it was not an expensive peice of jewelery and after awhile the rubber broke. I was bummed but what could I do? I put it in my jewelery box and forgot about it. Until Christmas morning when my DSO handed me my gift. He had the "Hope starts here" tag put onto a beautiful 14K white gold bracelet chain! I cried just a little
Ranks #1 in the most thoughful gift I've received EVER.Ellen
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My brother-in-law, whose wife, my sister, is a 19 year survivor, was asked by her to buy me a couple of snap up robes to wear around the house. She also told him they needed to have pockets to put my drains in. Not only did he find two, one with butterflies, my favorite, he washed them himself and put Downy in the rinse water so they'd smell fresh. I'll never forget his act of kindness...
Linda
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I have two thoughtful gifts. My co-workers pitched in and bought a service called "Dinners Served" - which is 24 meals for 4 person servings. All you do is thaw during the day - then cook or bake, all ingredients included. The other gift was a gift basket of useful items for recovery at home. It contained 4-6 magazines, a couple inspirational/comical books on BC survivorship, a couple movies, crossword puzzle books, slippers, jammies, chapstick and chocolate!
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smithlme ~ I totally LOVE your avatar picture ~ I was laughing outloud when I saw it!
Okay, now I will answer the question: My DH works at an elementary school and every grade level of classes, and the PTO teamed up and sent us pre-made dinners, gift certificates, and even ordered pizzas for us and had them delivered with the tip included! Since DH is not a cook, it was such a blessing to not have to worry what everyone was going to eat while I was not able to cook.
Now I already know when the "food chain" request is sent out at his work, we will be participating! I liked the gift certificates the best. DH just took our orders and went and picked up the food.
Gentle hugs
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My sister and her family gave me a similar gift--this was a "Chemo survival kit" (my sister is also a bc survivor). It was all packd in a pretty tote for me to use to take my supplies to the chemo treatments (iPod, book, water, etc.) and included a soft fleecy robe, non-sweet smelling lotion/shower gel (no alcohol on the lotions! she remembered!), a hat, and chocoalte. The last is sort of a family joke--I have four sisters (no brothers) and we all love chocolate. One of my other sisters vetoed the chocolate fountain her wedding caterer suggested, because "all of my sisters would be face down in it all night!" Anyway, my other sister had been able to eat chocolate all the way through chemo, no matter what else she couldn't get down, chocolate was OK... So she sent me a supply in case I was the same way. And I was!
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After surgery: a surprise chicken barbeque dinner. But the best gift was the one I received when I started chemo. A velvet, bejeweled fez from friends who were living in Bosnia arrived in the mail the first day of chemo. It became my "dress up" hat. Sometimes I wore it over a wig and sometimes I used it to cover my bald head, but it always made me smile and think of my friends. What does a bald, bloated, red-faced woman wear on New Year's eve? A maroon velvet fez with tiny mirrors!
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I got a lot of dinners delivered which were wonderful. The most memorable thing was a bouquet of pink rose buds each with a pink ribbon attached. From one of my alway-over-the-top friends.
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My sister came in form Ohio to fluff my pillows.
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A nurse from the breast cancer center at the hospital gave me 2 cami's with pockets for the drains. Those cami's got alot of use!! Oh, they also gave me a small pillow to put over my chest while riding in the car. I would just strap the seatbelt over it. It was very much needed and appreciated!
My husband bought me a couple of scrub tops (they snapped up the front) that worked very well over my cami's with the bulky drains. I even continued to wear the tops for awhile after the drains were removed.
My Mom would wash my hair! Yeah!
I know, I put about 3 things on here, but all of these were my top favorites!
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I love all of these! Keep 'em coming...
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One friend handed me her whole library of DVDs (in a perfect coffee table basket) to use while recuperating.
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I am really loving this thread. Thanks!
otter
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The best thing I got was one of those "grabbers" or "pickeruppers"! Since I couldn't bend down to pick things up, this thing with a squeezable handle could get things that ended up on the floor. I never realized how much stuff gets dropped in a day! It was my lifesaver ---- especially when I dropped the toilet paper!
Cora
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A friend of mine brought over 2 small homemade pillows that are the perfect size for holding under my armpits. They have been indispensable during my recovery!
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I also have several things. The cancer nurse also gave me 2 camisoles with pockets to wear while I had drains, I since have passed them on to other women who needed them. I also got 2 soft small pillows to put in my armpits to comfort the area of SNB.
My mother came over every day after my surgery to make sure that I had a hot meal and clean house and a way to get to my doctor's appointments. She also arranged for me to go to her beautician (we go to church together) and get my hair washed, she gave me a spaghetti and salad dinner to eat the next day.
My sister came by and took me to her house several evenings for supper and some outside my house time.
My neighbors came over to make sure that my basset hound had outside time every day.
My personal netflix, My brothers gave me a list of all their DVD's and I would call them with my request and they would bring them to me at Church. They kept me in DVD's for 4 weeks.
Sheila
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My sister stayed at the hospital so I could send my DH home with the kids. The next day when I was scared to be released and her DH came to pick her up she sent him home so I wouldn't be scared
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One of my girlfriends gave brought something over the day before every chemo session. Dinner, necklace with a diamond ribbon, shamrock pant, and #4 a CASE of Shiraz...my favorite wine. From others I received flowers. BC bracelet and from fellow survivor I met on these threads a beautiful pink BC key chain. So those are ALL my favorites. Thanks for starting this...it's fun to look back at the good things that happened.
artsee
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Oh, an unlimited subscription to Netflix!! I watched movies I've always wanted to watch and didn't care whether or not anyone else in my family would want to watch it.
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Lots and Lots of flowers! A comfy lounge suit from the girls at work. My sister who took care of everything.......even my drain! The most special was my favorite coffee "Timmies" which my husband faithfully went out and brought home daily.
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my friend made me 'Happy Box' so everytime I got anxious or sad I would go to the box and inside she had wrapped up loads of treats and positive sayings, this really helped, needless to say I got through the box in a few days but it did help to take my mind off things.
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I would have to say the top two were the post surgical cami's the hospital gave me and the meals my friends and loved ones provided. Next would be the books that my sister's friend thought to send over knowing I'm a book lover. In the more abstract were the words I overheard my PS say to my husband the morning after the mastectomies w/reconstruction: "Some day soon she will wake up and this will not be the first thing she thinks about.". He was right and I have let him know how grateful I was to hear and hold onto those words.
REKoz - Ellen: I have that bracelet hanging from my rearview mirror, along with a few others I was given. Good reminders of how fortunate I am.
Oh, just remembered, when I walked in the house from my surgery, my kids had been cued to hit play on my my favorite song, which happened to fit the occasion: "Darlin' be Home Soon" - the Joe Cocker version.
For such a terrible time, it was all good.
Be well,
Maria
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Without a doubt! A mastectomy camisole, had pockets for my drains. Lived in it for a while. My wonderful husband would come home after working a long day and do dishes. If I even tried to help he would shoo me out of the kitchen. Sister came over daily to help and shuttled me back and forth to all the appointments including my radiation trips, 5 days a week for 6 weeks. Not to mention friends and their visits and help. They all rock!
mradf Good thing your PS said to your husband ("Some day soon she will wake up and this will not be the first thing she thinks about.") 'Cause there are many days you feel that your job is cancer patient and your world revolves around it!
Love this thread!
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Just wanted to say how much I love this thread. There are so many wonderful things that have happened to me that I can't choose a favorite, but it does my heart good to be reminded of all of them, and the lives and faces that were behind them each time I read this thread. Thank you!
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