o/t Alzheimers/ Dementia

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Sierra
Sierra Member Posts: 1,638
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer

Has anyone had family members with this?

would like to chat privately??
If so.. tks

seems so many dx with this

of late :(

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  • Isabella4
    Isabella4 Member Posts: 2,166
    edited March 2009

    Hi there Sierra.

    I have a mother who has been afflicted for about 9-10 years. She is in a private nursing home.

    My Aunt (mothers sister) has just had to give up her home, she has been going dotty for the last 3 years, and went into private care a month ago.

    My MIL drives DH and I nutty, she still manages to keep her home, she's 91, but is forever turning central heating on and off, and can't hold a conversation, just repeats herself all the time.We are her main caregivers at the moment.

    My beloved Grandmother died at 89, after 10 years of this awful disease. She came to live with me, I had 2 small kids at the time, for the last 2 years of her life. I just couldn't bear to have her in the place the state provided, but, not having property to sell to pay for private care she had to take what was going....unfortunatly it broke my heart to see her there, so we took her on. It was T-O-U-G-H, one of the hardest things I have ever done, but nowhere near compared with the help she'd given me when I was a kid.....I would do it again for her, but ONLY her ! 

    I am surrounded by dotty females in my near relatives, so not a lot of hope for me then !!

    PM me if I can help with anything. This thing is becoming an epidemic, goodness knows what we're all coming to being an aging population, dotty old folks, and drug raddled young ones, doesn't bear thinking about.

    Hugs.

    Isabella.

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  • lexislove
    lexislove Member Posts: 2,645
    edited March 2009

    Yes...

    My aunt had it. She also had BC too.

    She died at 78..not from BC ..but the Alzheimers. I remember when it started I was about 14, she passed when I was 17.

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  • JustOne
    JustOne Member Posts: 226
    edited March 2009

    My mother was dx when she was only 69y/o, she passed away 3 years ago at age 81. I know more about Alzheimer's than I ever wanted to know.   It steals your life slowly and your loved ones hearts.

    ~Pam

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  • lexislove
    lexislove Member Posts: 2,645
    edited March 2009

    Alzheimer's is a scary thing....

    My aunt seemed to go "down hill" fast. She didn't even recognize myself or my brother, and we were her pride and joy! She would babysit us, take us swimming in the summer. It was hard for me when she would ask my father.."who's she?"

    I don't know much about the disease myself, but being only 14 it was hard and confusing.

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  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 1,638
    edited March 2009

    Hi Sisters:

    Thanks for your input here

    Isabella.. will write soon

    and sorry to hear of your family

    situation, difficult indeed

    Lexi and Pam.. tks.. also

    I went to the N Home today and noticed

    a note in lobby.. addressed to caregivers and family

    if there family in the home has Dementia, Alzheimers, etc

    there is a meeting.  Many are becoming stressed, the caregivers

    I mean

    what was really sad today ladies was

    a family member in the home

    he has  siblings in US

    a birthday,, and none write or call

    my goodness , I wont post any more

    due to privacy/security

    Sorry to hear about your experiences but

    glad you did share

    Hugs, Sierra

    PM me plse if anything else to say

    I note 73 (now) people viewed this post :))

    ps

     last  Eve I attended at another N Home

    not the one family is in:

    breaks your heart but also warms the heart

    to see the residents, as they had Pub nite

    and a lovely band playing for them  some were

    dancing with aides/help from the Home etc. some of them

    obviously did not know fully what was going on, I guess

    you could just hug them all :)

    May the Lord Bless them,  I will

    be helping out at this home

    :)

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  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 1,638
    edited March 2009

    Hey

    hi there.. how are you these days.. way over the sea?

    Golly, I sure do miss the Brits over here

    never see any.. I had to move to affordable hsg here in Toronto due to finances

    and it is .. mainly Chinese, Iraq, Iran, Russian.. is it like that over there too?

    I tell you.. cant do much about it.. I mean I dont mind a few but

    I am a minority

    anyhoo. re the Dementia.. it is really something

    I have a step dad in the N Home, Mom who is 89 who yells at me,

    and argues.. and it is v. difficult.. 3 siblings in US.. do not write or phone

    much..you see my Mom remarried.. so 2 are from a previous marriage.. what a crew

    and my own sis.. I am estranged from.. 5 yrs my junior, married x 2 and trouble

    with her own son..he is the grandson, and never sends a card to Grandpa.. I dont

    believe kids these days.. well they are not kids are they..

    sorry re your Mom.. did you get on with her prior to this

    I live besdie a N Home now, but not the one my mom is in.. I tell you

    it was awful to see Wally there yesterday.. full of pills and just laying there

    he is 89..

    I need to talk to someone, and not one member in my family wants to bother

    guess u get the pictue how folks disappear when others might be ill

    other than this.. I am well, grateful for what has been given to me

    how are your pets??

    and send an update

    real nice to see you here :))

    Hugs, Sierra

    ps do you know where Porthleven is?

    A sweet sister friend of mine

    passed on and I miss her so much..

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