sensitive skin/sizes?
I am just coming today from a meeting with a plastic surgeon that pretty much confirmed my plan to forego reconstruction. I a planning a PBM in late April.
These are my worries: I have had a lot of contact dermatitis and hives in the last year. I especially have trouble around my panty line (had 3 c sections). So one of the things worrying me most about the PBM is that now my chest will be itching and sensitive, too.
I am a 36DD but thought I would just wear much much smaller, minimal prostheses. But I do like to swim and jog and play tennis. With breasts, I have terrible problems with wearing two bras, getting skin rashes in my cleavage, etc. So I am hoping for an easier exercise life after the PBM.
Is this realistic? The plastic surgeon seemed to assume if I had implants i would want them huge. I just want to look normal enough not to attract attention or embarrass my kids (13, 17, 21) But I am just considering this a fresh start and looking forward to a life (relatively) free from biopsies and imaging....
Any advice would be so appreciated, incuding how I could research this more pre-surgery.
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seltzer, I smiled at this: "The plastic surgeon seemed to assume if I had implants i would want them huge."
My normal size is/was 34B/36A. I declined recon after my mast/SNB, even though I had a thorough, compassionate consult with a skilled PS who worked regularly with my breast/onco surgeon. I never even imagined that it might be difficult to "match" a 34/36A breast, until I read the stories on this site.
I didn't have a bilateral mast. If I had, I doubt I'd have gone with recon then, either. How we feel about our breasts is such a personal thing. My BC dx was a total surprise, and I wanted to heal quickly and get on with my life.
As for the allergies: Could you be allergic to latex? Sometimes there's latex in the waistbands of underwear. My skin is really sensitive to adhesives, so I get red blotches at the contact points from surgical tape and band-aids. Some people are sensitive to betadine or chlorhexidine skin disinfectants, and they break out when scrubbed with those products.
I think some of the women here don't even wear a prosthesis or bra when doing things like playing tennis. Many of the women who play professional tennis are small-breasted, or look that way after putting on a tight sports bra. I'll bet you'll like the feeling of "less" on your chest. Just IMHO, of course.
otter
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There's a great little saying about why not to assume --"To ASSUME makes an ASS out of U and ME." Be very clear with your plastic surgeon about what YOU want, and why.
It's useful to write down your concerns and questions before the appointment--and bring out that list at the start of your appointment. I have found it helpful to start the conversation by saying something like, "Here's what I think I want. Now tell me the up- and the down-side of doing it that way." That gets me the benefit of the person's professional knowledge while making it clear that I will be doing the decision-making.
Otter's right. It's worth doing a lot of research. In the end, you are the one who must live with the physical consequences of whatever decisions you make.
About those rashes: Have you seen a dermatologist? One thing it's good to rule out is yeast infection--C. albicans. If that's the cause, it would be good to clear it up before your surgery.
Good luck to you.
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