I can't do this

Sftfemmme65

I think Twink hd 3 nodes positive after chemo. She had chemo first, so it is not your case as you had 3 nodes before chemo. Right? She also had larger tumor 3 cm...I believe.

Becky

Does your friend also come to this site? What was her dx and treatment?

I just passed 5 years triple neg IBC so there is plenty of hope out here.  Just remember that each case is unique even though some may seem similar to your situation.   You don't know why their treatment failed them while ours hasn't. 

I understand your grieve and fear, I feel the same way when a member doesn't win this fight, it's so sad.  Try and focus on the good stories, it sounds corny but helps.  Prayers to all of us on this board.  REALLY!

Teresa, I know exactly how you feel. sometimes I tell myself I am gonna stay away from this site...too sad at times...but of course, I don't. I love you all here and I want to be here for everyone.

Congrats gmr52 and alwayshope on your 5 years!!!! Wahoo!!!!! Yahoo!!!!! Wow!!!!!

 We have to keep ourselves wrapped in good news as often as possible.

Luv ya all...hugs and prayers,

Candie

My dear lady.  With a history of many forms of cancer this for me the new one to add to the long list.  I am only 54.  I ask myself the same things.  But you know no matter what we are not alone. I am with you on how do we face the scares and all...but you know we must not give up.  We have to fight.  Our fight to move on is the strength for others and no matter what we are a special group. We are woman and we are the back bone of our families.  In that I sometimes feel we put way to much pressue on ourselves.  Everything for me moved so fast.  Now I wait for my surgery in two short days.  But you know my friend this is the hardest damn thing of my life also...but I keep the thought that one day there will be hope for a cure for others.  For now somehow we have to find the strength not to blame ourselves because in fact its not our fault.  As I take the next step in those few short days, the thing that I am keeping fresh and firm in my mind is I am not alone.  Some may think its pretty sad because I find the strength to face this head on but knowing so very many have walked this same path before me does help.  My friend, be strong.  My thoughts and prayers are with you during this.

I agree with Everyminute that there are many triple negative survivors living at large, they just don't necessarily post on these boards.

Bear in mind the words "triple negative" is quite new.  Those who survived breast cancer 10+ more years may not know they are actually triple negative.  In those days they only tested for ER and PR status.

I myself have been a triple negative since dx in 1996.  I am now metastatic and have been for almost 3 years, but I'm not symptomatic, still busy with things, and neighbors don't even know that I have cancer.

My feeling is that you should be aggressive with treatment when you are first diagnosed, then after that you just need to continue living a healthy life and enjoy life, family, friends....  It WILL work to your advantage.

I'm triple neg,2.4cm grade3 tumour with one pos node. I had so much vascular invasion they expected the cancer to return before the end of chemo(4xfec,4xtaxol) also had 6wks radio. I was given a 35-45%chance of 5yr survival-and I reached that last month. Not only am I still here but I'm still cancer free.They still want to keep an eye on me for the next 3yrs,then it will just be yearly mammos. I had my birthday in october and was walking on air all day- I was so happy to have hit the big 50! I've had a very unlucky life, perhaps it had all being saved up for now!!

Josie  x

Hang in there Teresa. I so know how you feel. I have really pulled back from the boards over the last few months as every time I longed on I would get upset again. Each beautiful sister we have lost has felt like a physical blow. I felt as though I was reverting to panic mode with ever new ache again. It is just too important to me to stay away though.

I am trip neg, stage 3 (5 pos nodes), 2yrs and 8 months out and NED. There is hope!

Hugs,

Sue

Hey Teresa, I hope all these posts have helped you. Remember no matter what the odds are somebody has got to come out on top and you have as much chanch of being there as anyone else has.I've lost dear friends along the way, which just makes me pray harder for the day when this awful desease will be a thing of the past.

Big hugs ,Josie x

Vascular (blood vessels) invasion is different than lymphatic (lymp nodes) invasion.  Usually they see this on a biopsy.

Do they see the vascular invasion on a mast.? I had mast. and they checked and said I had no vascular invasion. Is it possible they don't tell from biopsy but from actual the tumor took from mast.?

Yes you can do this.You do it one day at a time and before you know it you won't even be thinking about it everyday. Hard to believe I know but true.

 I don't come here much any longer as I am right at 6 years since DX and doing fine.I had a large tumor,5 to 6 cm and neg nodes. I was on Arimidex for 5 1/2 years and endured all the side effects but was happy to stop at 5 1/2 years . I think at some time around 4 years I stopped thinking of myself as one big breast Cancer! Now I don't think of it at all except when I check back  in here once every couple of months. I rarely post any longer as I have other things to think about and do..I remember feeling like you do but you really can do it,I did with Gods help.

These boards saved my life back then.I don't think I could have done it without the support of the dear ladies on these boards in the beginning.I so remember the help they gave me on those sleepless nights.

So hang in there,you can do it too.