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I feel like I am falling apart, just like my marriage. My DH has not been able to accept my dx or me now, for that matter. He has not physically touched me since surgery in July. At dinner, he just stares at my head. My peach fuzz is salt and pepper. I am so upset that he wont talk to me, yet I am MAD! This is not MY fault, so why is he treating me like I have enjoyed having cancer?!?! My DH has been bothering me fo the last 2 months to go back to work. I just did, but mostly so I could have an income. I cannot sleep unless I take something. I feel like I am living a lie. I told him not to come to my last onc appointment. Today he was mad, bcs he has a cold and I'm 'not taking care of him'. I asked him how he took care of me and he said 'I tried but you wouldn't let me come to your appointment'. He just wanted to go to show the onc that he was supportive, but reality is, he is not here for me. I feel like I have done this all alone. I made an appointment to see a therapist and will go on Monday. I am hoping he can help me, but what good willit do if DH wont go?!? Sorry for rambling.....

D

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  • abinneb
    abinneb Member Posts: 550
    edited February 2009

    D - so sorry to hear you are experiencing such painful emotions.  You don't deserve it and I wish I could send you a hug.

    It can do good even if you go alone.  You can learn many ways to become strong for yourself.  I sought counseling and ended up going by myself.  Actually I'm glad I did because I was able to work things out and concentrate on healing myself first.  It made me a much stronger person. 

    Counseling isn't always easy - it can bring up painful emotions.  But just like physical therapy, you have to work through the pain to get to the other side. 

    I'm wishing you the best ~

  • anniemar53
    anniemar53 Member Posts: 34
    edited February 2009

    D, sorry to read your husband isn't supportive. It seems like our cancer scares so many of our spouses. It's hard enough to accept ourselves being in this situation and then to have a spouse that behaves harshly makes things much worse. If he has been supportive throughout your marriage until the cancer I'll bet he's scared. People fear what they don't understand. I hope you can talk with him and get him to counseling with you. It does a world of good even if you have to go alone.

  • keepinhope
    keepinhope Member Posts: 13
    edited February 2009

    I am not in your shoes, so I can't say...but perhaps he is scared and just doesn't know how to comfort you or handle his own emotions.

    Having said that.....if it were up to men to handle the things that women do....well....I don't know. I just feel like women have a tendency to step up to the plate and do what's got to be done.....men run the world (poorly might I add)...but honestly sometimes they are just big babies. 

     Therapy is amazing,...yes it can be painful in the beginning but letting go of all that pain will eventually feel great....and then...once that's out of the way....it gets fun...getting to understand and know yourself better...figuring out what you really want.

     I am going for tests next week...and if they come back positive....I know I will have a similar reaction from the man in my life....I tried to tell him I felt scared....and he said..."I'm not built like that...I can't think about it right now"....well excuse me...were we talking about YOU???

    Hang in...there are a lot of people on here who are sending you love!

     hugs

    Char

  • firstmate
    firstmate Member Posts: 410
    edited February 2009

    I started therapy and antidepresessants to help me deal with my bil mastectomy and the ensuing relationship issues.  Both are helping.  Yoga and meditation help as well.  Hang in there, but get whatever support you need to get through the trying times.

  • konakat
    konakat Member Posts: 6,085
    edited February 2009

    Hi D -- I can empathize.  Cancer is a non-topic with my partner.  Sure, he's scared, in denial, blah, blah, blah.  But hey, I'm the one that has cancer.  Step up to the plate buddy!  It helped that I sat him down and told him how sick/achy/tired I was, what I needed.  Not whiney, but an honest conversation, well, mostly me talking.  Part was my fault in trying to protect him, not letting on how I felt so awful.  I changed that, if I need help or just a hug I ask.  Yeah, it would be nice not having to ask...

    Go to the therapist even if he doesn't go with you.  Even if he does, book some appointments just for just for you.  It's bad enough trying to get through this without being let down by the one you love and loves you.  Get on the phone Monday and schedule an appt with a therapist.  Maybe your chemo center has a therapist there -- she/he might have some special insight.  If not, they can probably recommend a therapist that has experience with cancer and family issues.

    Let us know what you do, how it goes.  We care about you.

    Elizabeth

    xooox

  • priz47
    priz47 Member Posts: 470
    edited February 2009

    Thanks guys! I ned someone who believes in me right now. i have been so strong through the lumpectomy, mastectomy, TRAM reconstruction and chemo. Now, i cannot stop crying! And I cannot sleep without taking something. I watch the clock till 9:00pm when i know I can take something and I long to go to sleep so I do not have to think. I know that part of this emotional upheaval is my hormones and being on Tamoxifen. And I understand that my DH might be scared. But who isn't???? Why is it Ok for him to be an @ss ? My first surgeon told us that for the next year it would be about ME. And DH cannot stand to not be in the cener of attention.I definitely plan on going to see a therapist. My onc gave me Effexor, but I only took one and it made me nauseous, heart palpitations, dizzy.... Maybe I need to try again.

    It bugs me to read about all the wonderful supportive husbands. I want to SCREAM! Not fair! I feel like I am living a lie, just going through the motions. I have not talked to anyone abt this.

    D

  • abinneb
    abinneb Member Posts: 550
    edited February 2009

    It really breaks my heart to hear this D.  And no - it isn't okay for him to be an ass.  I mean, we can all be jerks every once in a while, but when he consistently acts like that it is immature.  This year definitely is about you.  YOU need support and care.  YOU need to be healthy and as stress free as possible to heal and face the treatment.  YOU need to be lifted up and loved.  I just cannot understand any partner that will not be supportive and put themselves on the sidelines while this is going on for you.  YOU didn't ask for this and YOU didn't DO THIS TO HIM.  And while he has a reason to be scared, that doesn't give him a reason to be an ass. 

    I had similar symptoms of just wanting to sleep so I didn't have to deal with things.  I had no interest in normal things I had always liked to do and some days just didn 't want to even talk.  You need to get some help.  You CAN feel better and get bakc to a place where you can learn to deal with everyday things.

    Please DO see the therapist.  As I and others said,  you need to help YOU.  You can learn great techniques for stress reduction, for talking to others, to learn to be assertive (that doesn't mean aggressive) and how to get your needs and wants out there and respected.  You will be a better person for it.  I very much agree with Elizabeth - you could also seek out a therapist that my specialize in cancer patients.  Just a thought.  I truly believe if you are ready to make some changes, a therapist can help you get there.  You do deserve to be happy and healthy and enjoy your life. 

    Big hugs (((((((( D ))))))))) and lots of prayers heading your way

    Amy

  • priz47
    priz47 Member Posts: 470
    edited February 2009

    Hi! I had a long talk with my friend today. We go out as couples, so she knows my DH. She told me that my DH does not get all I have been through and he REALLY does not understand and never will. This is something I need to get through my head. I cannot change him, but I can change how I think and feel. This has been a breakthrough  for me! (Of course, going to see The Full Monty and having Sangria probably helped!) I do have an appointment to see someone tomorrow. Wish me luck!

    D

  • abinneb
    abinneb Member Posts: 550
    edited February 2009

    Much luck D!  Your epiphany is right on!  You  CAN change how you react to things. And therapy is a wonderful way to learn to do that.  You just have to want to open those doors and you can be on your way to feeling much healthier!

    Let us know how it goes!!

    Amy

  • firstmate
    firstmate Member Posts: 410
    edited February 2009

    D,

    I totally agree with you.  It bugs me too to read about all the supportive husbands, boyfriends, and partners.  I feel like I should be happy for all these wonderful women, but it just makes me so sad to not have that kind of a relationship.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2009

    D, I can relate to your experience.  Although I had the Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde husband, depending on what day it was.  He wanted to be there for me, he was there for me at times, but then at others he was a real jerk.  Unfortunately, the jerk always seemed to be there when I was feeling the most vulnerable.  

    I talked a lot with the women I came in contact with during my testing, a support group after my surgery, and my best friends.  They all thought I was being amazing and strong, but they were also there for me when I was at the end of my rope.  A quick phone call and they'd let me spill whatever I was feeling or dealing with.

    With my husband, well, he was good, but not great.  He was good in that he went to every appt. with me and helped me take notes and remind me when I had certain questions to ask.  Important support, but not the same as what I got from my gals.  And, on days he was feeling particularly whatever, he'd actually be mean to me.  I'd feel like, sure, kick me while I'm down, that's helpful.  And I felt no one else knew all this so I felt very alone.  

    I came to understand I'm much stronger than I thought I was.  I came to know a lot about myself and the way I handle a crisis.  I also came to know a lot about my husband, his strengths, weaknesses, and how he doesn't do well in a crisis, when he can't be in control.  I have mostly forgiven him for the nasty things he's said and done while I felt like crap (still working on a few things that pop into my mind now and then).  I've heard that cancer is a time when family members either come together or the stress pulls you apart.   Supposedly the weaknesses or fault-lines in a marriage can be where the stress creates an additional wedge.  My experience was that it was a combination of all these things.  A growing apart and then growing back together with greater understanding.

    I'm sure the BC has your husband angry, mad, sad, confused, scared, lost.  He's lost the you he's known as a partner, and he's feeling all the emotions that accompany a loss.  (He's missing the D that's happy, carefree, nurturing, sexy, lets him have center stage, the D that does all the roles and things in your marriage that he's come to rely on.)  Like most men, he doesn't like feeling out of control.  He's probably having a hard time seeing this as a process he has to ride out.  

    I agree therapy can be helpful, as well as support from friends/BC peers you can share your thoughts and feelings.  If your husband can't be there emotionally right now, perhaps he needs to have a "to do" list of things that will support you and make him feel like he has some control.  That way it can still be all about you, but he will know how to participate in this process.  

    I called my husband's friends at one point and asked them to take him out (please, get him out of my hair!), and to call and ask how he was doing every so often.  I figured if this cancer thing was dragging me down and I needed support, then he must too.  Guys don't always need to talk as much as us gals do, but my husband enjoyed going out to dinner, seeing a movie, doing things with his buddies to get his mind off me and my BC.  

    D, I hope it gets better for you.  I will be thinking of you and sending positive thoughts.  Here's a big hug.

    Tina

    Edited:  P.S. -- I just wanted to add that things still aren't perfect here, but we're working on it.  Don't want to give you the idea my life is just fine, like old times, because it isn't.  I'm hoping our relationship will continue to improve and adjust as I make it past certain milestones.

  • priz47
    priz47 Member Posts: 470
    edited February 2009

    Tina,

    Your post struck me as so similiar that I am sitting here sobbing! I do have supportive friends, but I WANT a supportive husband. I cannot have that and I have to learn to let go of that and accept him as he is. I have been able to do this for the last 24 years, but now it just seems so HARD! I know he hates medical stuff and has always left it up to me. Our #3 son has Hogkin's lymphoma and I have taken care of that, giving him his IV meds as needed... My DH hates going to the doctor and will not go for himself if he is hurt or sick. I went to the therapist this AM and I have alot of grief to get through. #2 son ran away 2 years ago, #3 son being sick, my mom died in Oct of ovarian cancer and my own cancer. I have been strong through all of this up till last week. Now, I cannot stop crying. I am sure being on Tamoxifen does not help. My DH is very private, not affection in public and keeps to himself. Right now, I NEED hugs and hand-holding....

    I am sure that you are right, my DH thinks going to appointments is supportive. I just want MORE! I told my girlfriend (who knows us both) that i was afraid my marriage was crumbling and over. She told me that she knows that is NOT how DH sees it at all! I just feel so lonely and discouraged!

    D

  • konakat
    konakat Member Posts: 6,085
    edited February 2009

    Hi D,

    Oh boy, what a lot you have been going through with your sons and Mom. 

    What's with these men???  I'm not married but in a commited relationship -- I had to cab it to the hospital for my lumpectomy, re-excision, and ovaries out, graced with a drive home for only re-ex and ovaries.  Yeah, no hugs -- sometimes a joke one, pats on the back and sarcastic "there, there".

    But back to you -- I think your girlfriend and therapist will be able to help you deal with the let-down of your husband.  I don't know what to say.  I've just accepted my guy as-is.  Is your girlfriend close enough to your husband that she could say something, or would that make things worse?  My guy is private too and would find it meddling.  But if one of his guy friends knew how you felt maybe they would say something.  Most men worth their salt don't want to see a friend's wife sad.  My guy's cousin saw him being an a$$hole and gave him sh*t.

    Will you go to the therapist again?  Maybe he/she can help you sort out if you want to keep the marriage and how to make it work.  Hopefully your husband will realize that he needs to work, on the marriage and helping you.  Keep us in the loop.  You are indeed a very strong woman, but one who needs and deserves hugs!!!  If our men could get it through their head that a good, loving hug would mean the world to us!!!!!

    Elizabeth

  • priz47
    priz47 Member Posts: 470
    edited February 2009

    Thanks Elizabeth! I am feeling better. My Dad is here for a visit, so DH is being nice. DH is glad i am back at work, makes things normal for him. He doesn't get the hot flashes, emotions, etc. I have wondered if my friend said something to him. I know she would call him on it and give him sh*t. He would probably be embarrassed, but you know, it was embarrasing to me to tell her we haven't been intimate since July! Yes, I plan on seeing the therapist weekly. Felt better after seeing him, even though I cried through the session. I am having another biopsy next week on 'good' breast. I am calm about it and not freaked out. DH will be out of town for it,but oh well! i know that men think differently, but gosh, being supportive and compasionate is NOT hard! Why can women do it without even thinking??? Maybe I don't get it cuz Im a nurse and it is just in my nature to care for others.

    D

  • abinneb
    abinneb Member Posts: 550
    edited February 2009

    Hi D !

    So glad that your dad is there for a visit - sounds like you are happy he is there. 

    Maybe you are correct that your friend called....hmmmm. 

    It is okay that you cried through the first visit.  Most of the time, opening that gate for the first time is the best way to relieve some tension and fear.  You have to give yourself permission to grieve, to feel pain, to be angry and to feel weak sometimes.  Its okay.  You'll learn that its okay, through your exploring it all with your therapist.  It can be difficult, but keep with it. You deserve to be happy & healthy.

    You know, IMHO, I think men believe being supportive & compassionate IS hard to do!  I've known some that view it as a weakness - not as an enriching experience that makes you grow.  If they can't solve it or make it go away - it is just too frustrating to deal with.   Gee - maybe its a nurturing gene we have??!!!  LOL!

    All the best -

    Amy

  • konakat
    konakat Member Posts: 6,085
    edited February 2009

    Oh, nurses are my heros!!!!!  Lots of nurses in my family and my nurses for chemo are simply angels!  You having to be so strong as a nurse, if your patients only knew you needed some good nursing TLC too.

    Glad your Dad is there.  Perhaps your husband is starting to see that you are in crisis and he's starting to "get with the program".  Good! 

    BTW -- I often see DH -- what does it stand for?  Domestic Habitator, Dumbass Husband...The "D" throws me off.  So many adjectives that could be attached to your hubby's behaviour.

    Hey, I'm a "born again virgin" too -- I think I'll need a refresher course on what to put where when we both get rested up....

    Keep on taking care of yourself -- I've got this topic as a favorite so I'm checking up on you!  Have a great weekend,

    Elizabeth

    xox

  • abinneb
    abinneb Member Posts: 550
    edited February 2009

    Well Elizabeth the D stands for all those and more too!  Like Da&n husband, Dork Husband....you're right there are so many.

    But I think most times people intend it as Dear or Darling!  

    Amy

    Edited to add: love your cat pic!

  • priz47
    priz47 Member Posts: 470
    edited February 2009

    Afraid to ask what everyone is doing for Valentine's Day? My DH calls it a "Hallmark Holiday" meaning it was invented just for profit. Needless to say, I know what I will get-nothing! In his defense, My birthday is Monday, so we have never done anything for Valentine's Day since the two occassions are so close together. Hope y'all have some fun and romantic things planned that you can share with me!

    D

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2009

    Hi, D

    I haven't been on BC.org for a few days as I'm trying to get a grip on my schedule -- which isn't occupied with that much, but I'm still having trouble.  Another story for a different thread.  Anyway, I'm glad you're feeling better and Dad is visiting.  That is good DH is being nice -- whatever the cause.  So sorry you are having the biopsy while he is away.  Will Dad still be there or will a friend be able to accompany you?  

    As far as the Valentines Day thing goes, my husband and I have a long-standing tradition of making valentines for each other.  The crappier and more over the top, the better!!  I'm talking construction paper, glitter, paper doilies, the works.  I don't recall how the whole thing started but it's just for fun.  There have been some years we've missed, or one or the other of us has missed.  Actually, I am guilty of being the first one to miss, and last year was the second time and I told DH I didn't want him to give me his valentine because I felt so guilty and sad.  (I was in the middle of my BC testing and diagnosis.)  So he held onto it and perhaps it will come out today sometime.  Yesterday I made his when a moment of inspiration struck -- I ran construction paper through the paper shredder, glued these little bits onto a card and incorporated them as part of the design.   Doesn't it sound beeyootiful!!!??  I gave it to him last night around midnight.  He's been in a funk all week and kind of stressed out.  Today I gave him a ready-made card that had a squirrel on it, just because we always laugh about monkeys and squirrels.  Can you tell we'll a couple of mature adults?  Anyway, he's out and about right now trying to gather items for tonight's dinner with several friends.  Was supposed to be hosted elsewhere but our friend had unplanned surgery today.  A few couples had already bought and/or cooked food so the event got moved to our place.  Not a romantic evening, but a nice dinner with close friends.  

    I wish you a pleasant day and a Happy Birthday!

    Hugs,

    Tina  

  • priz47
    priz47 Member Posts: 470
    edited February 2009

    Well my DH earned brownie points for making a wonderful dinner for Valentin'e s Day. He made steak and scallops wrapped with bacon and 'drunken' onions. It was very good and he did it all himself! I think we are going out for my birthday tonite. He has a dentist appt this afternoon, so we will see how he feels. Still no physical contact Cry. I went back to the therapist today and my Dad came. My Dad talked alot, so it was good. I did share my fears of my dad being by himself. My mom died end of Oct and I know he misses her. At least the appt was productive!

    D

  • dee1961
    dee1961 Member Posts: 1,672
    edited February 2009

    konakat, I think DH is for dickhead....LOL

    Well...most of the time anyway :)

  • priz47
    priz47 Member Posts: 470
    edited February 2009

    My DH bought me a beautiful necklace for my birthday. While I appeciate it and love it, what I want is time with him and for him to try to understand how I feel. Is that asking too much??? I love him and know I cannot change him. Just need to vent! Tomorrow is my biospy on 'good' side.

    D

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2009

    D, it's good to hear your therapy appt. went well.  You've really had to deal with a lot in such a short time.  I'm sure your DH can't grasp the level of your loss, but it seems like he is trying in his own way.  What a wonderful Valentines dinner, and the necklace sounds like a lovely birthday gift.  I know that's no substitute for physical contact though.   

    I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and hope everything goes well with your biopsy.

    Tina 

  • priz47
    priz47 Member Posts: 470
    edited February 2009

    My biopsy went well yesterday. He took 2 samples. The radiologist did not feel or see anything where my onc and I feel something. I will get results on Wed. My DH was OOT this week. Today he was pouting. He feels he is being 'left out'. So I said if he acted like a husband, he would know more. Instead he makes fun of me, my hair and just wants me to go back to work. No apologies from me! He can't have it both ways!

    D

  • konakat
    konakat Member Posts: 6,085
    edited February 2009

    I'm glad the biopsy went well.  What a guy -- perhaps the lovely Valentine's Day is his way of showing affection.  Mine is shovelling snow. :-)  If he's feeling left out, why doesn't he just take you in his arms and whisper, how's it going?   They are so thick sometimes.

    And the making fun of you -- mine's the same way -- his way to deal with stress.  Hey, if you weren't in Colorado I'd start to think we had the same guy!

  • priz47
    priz47 Member Posts: 470
    edited February 2009

    Screwed up bigtime, but it was an honest mistake. Was trying to pay off credit card bills but forgot I wasn't getting paid and accidently overwrote several checks. Had some bounce and I know I should have checked the balance. We were always Ok WITH my paycheck. Just never thought about it. I have such chemo brain!

    I have no idea how to get my DH to hug me. That's all I want! What's wrong with cuddling??? I was so mad the other day I sent him an e-mail and told him I wanted a full-time husband and I was tired of how he treated me. NO RESPONSE!!

    Some days I feel like giving up!

    D

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2009

    D, I am so glad your biopsy went well.  Yippee!!  I will keep my fingers crossed for Wed.'s results.  Sorry about the check bouncing.  Don't know what to say, except what's my excuse?  I didn't even have chemo and I do goofy stuff, forget appts, etc.  You have a lot on your mind right now.  We're all human and these things happen.

    Left out.  Your husband feels left out because you have cancer and he doesn't?  Gee, what a concept!  Somehow that doesn't generate a lot of sympathy from me.  Esp. since he was OOT when you had your biopsy -- I don't know the circumstances, but I would think he would have at least said he felt bad you had to go it alone.  

    D, forgive me for asking, but have you actually spelled out exactly what you'd like from him?  Hugs, no teasing (about things related to your cancer and treatment that you have no control over, or in general since you may be feeling more sensitive), more time together, etc.  Praise for what he does right can be helpful, too.  Maybe he needs your working definition of "a full-time husband".  Konakat is right, they can be so thick sometimes!  I really hate it when it works the opposite for him in reverse as well -- like I'm a mind reader and should know what his needs are!!  Talk to me, baby!!!

    Also, have you directly asked him where his head's at right now regarding your cancer, sex, cuddling, etc.?  I know these things are awkward to discuss, but when there's a calm, relaxed time perhaps he would be willing to talk?  Maybe take things in small steps so it's not too much for him if he's not a talkative or emotionally expressive guy.

    My husband and I had to do all these things.  We still do it.  My DH is a big teaser, too.  I finally told him that ALL teasing was off-limits while I was going through my diagnosis, after surgery, and during the expansion process.  It just made me cry so easily and I thought it was cruel given my stress level.  Had to remind him a couple of times but he finally got with the program.  We also had the awkward sex talks -- I'm the guilty one with no libido -- but it helped him feel better that it wasn't for forever and that I still find him attractive.  

    Tina 

  • Meggy
    Meggy Member Posts: 530
    edited February 2009

    D, I'm probably writing about the least of your worries but I thought I'd offer it to whoever is reading.  About the intimacy thing.  Before the C word, I was basically attractive.  Now, I must say I actually look like crap.  BUT, I have figured out how to clean up so nicely that I can actually feel pretty good. I have the short salt and pepper wirey rediculous hair but I found a wig that is so cheap and looks like real hair and can be cut to any length.  When I put it on I swear I am transformed.  Only $97 turns me into quite a vixon.  I bought it on BestWigOutlet.com.  It is called "Freely" by Alan Eaton.  I don't even have boobs yet (totally flat) and can't do reconstruction till May but sometimes for intimacy, I wear my black sport-style mastectomy bra right under laungerey (sp?) and just wear black panties to tie the look together.  Also, to not feel so bad about being boobless, I talk about how amazingly sexy I will be after my "boob job."  Yes, it is really an act but it makes me feel adequate in bed so that I can actually do it.  Good wig, good makeup, lacy nighty, a little routine about how sexy I am and he falls for it everytime...we actually have good sex.  I'm doing the dress up act for me as much as for him.  Maybe it will work for you or others.  I wish I had a magic wand and I could fix all of your worries and make them all go away.  I wish all our men were just good labradors.  Head on our laps... tales a wagging. 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2009

    Meggy, thank you for saying that.  It's a very insightful suggestion and might just work on myself!!  I've already come to the conclusion my libido isn't going to perk up out of nowhere and that I need to generate some enthusiasm.  Hopefully the effort and results will be reinforcing -- goodness knows my DH would be pleased.

    Tina 

  • juliejfsrj
    juliejfsrj Member Posts: 57
    edited March 2009

    I remarried when I was half way through my herceptin treatments.  I was so happy, I had been alone for several years, and he seemed so perfect.  

    My life is now hell.  I sold my house to move into his with my young daughter and he will not touch me, says I'm old now, I am 44, but not 90!!  I am stuck, and lost, and embarrassed!!!  Everyone at work was so thrilled that I remarried, and how sweet this man must be to marry someone going through a year or more of treatments.  He detests me, never comes home, and calls other women who make "much more money than I do".  

    I believe there are wonderful men out there, I know there are.  I just have a knack for picking the monsters!Dx 9/17/2007, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+

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