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  • LorenaB
    LorenaB Member Posts: 937
    edited December 2008

    Bluedasher - you sound amazingly strong. I worked through chemo and went back a couple of weeks after each surgery, but when I lost my hair I just wanted to pull the covers over my head. It is good to hear about someone who handled that awful part of the bc journey with such grace.

    Sue, I let my hair grow past that point without a trim - -I just did not want anyone getting near my head with scissors!  OK, it's still a bit scraggly, but for the most part it looks intentional (and I even get compliments for my "haircut" - ha!).  Although it may be getting onto a new stage of silliness very soon -- it is super curly and continues to grow UP and OUT instead of down, but I really don't want it styled at this length, I just want it to grow and grow.   

    "I am also more comfortable with how I look than ever before--always hated myself for not being a size 8 anymore (about a 12 now) but now am just glad to have a body that functions and was strong enough to withstand cancer treatment--and now has NED!!!!!!!!!! "  Sue, I so wish I had your attitude.  On a deeper level I feel blessed (and I'm not a religious person so it's a big deal for me to say this) to feel healthy and have NED at the moment -- but I can't help it, I just feel so unattractive these days.  I feel so matronly with my dumpy body and short fuzzy hair, and with my smaller bust (one side reduced, the other a prosthesis - waiting for delayed recon) I hate how pudgy I look around the middle. I don't want to shop for clothes, I'd rather not have any pictures taken of me -- I never thought I was a particularly vain person, but maybe I am? I just didn't think of the long-term impact that bc would have on my appearance and self-image... which I guess is a good thing because I didn't need one more thing to worry about when I was going through treatment! 

    Don't get me wrong, I am not complaining, it is wonderful to have hair again and I'm taking steps to lose weight and get in shape... but it's a slow process and I'm tired of feeling like my outside doesn't match my inside.

    Lauren

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited December 2008

    Lauren,

    It's not vanity. I don't really want pictures taken of me, either, wig or no wig. I don't want to be looking at them years from now and be reminded of this period.

    My daughter had her senior pictures taken at a private studio (in-school photos were awful). They gave us a coupon for a family photo session which is usually good for three months. I told the saleswoman that I wouldn't be using it...that I was under treatment for breast cancer and did not want photos of me taken with my wig or my new hair growth (which was just coming in). She said, "Well, we'll just make this good for a year!" And she changed the expiration date.

    BTW everyone, I tried the third color, and it's much better. I feel good about it. I think Natural Instincts Cinnamon Stick may just be my new color Wink. Now I just need it a little longer so I can get a hold of the cowlick and smooth it down.

  • wishiwere
    wishiwere Member Posts: 3,793
    edited December 2008

    Dear, I hear you about the cowlick!  Never knew I had one till my hair grew back in. In fact, this is the area it was last to fall out and hurt so much when it did and when it's hurting now, many times, that's the area.  Wonder what that's all about?  Estrogen depot or something! :D

    Now we need a pic of your new hair color!  Sounds tempting to color mine....just not sure yet :)

  • Vinogal
    Vinogal Member Posts: 439
    edited December 2008

    I am currently sitting with dye on my brand new eyebrows........I am blonde and have always dyed them darker........nice to finally have them back..........just hope they are long enough that the dye will look good.......fingers crossed.......I will know in about 15 more minutes.........I am then thinking about dying my new hair purple with one of those dyes that washes out in 8 washes.......gotta try something.......I am getting so tired of wearing the wig......it seems to be getting more and more uncomfortable the longer my own hair gets.......I am thinking that if it is purple.....people may think I'm just a crazy girl with short purple hair........I bought the bow of colour a couple of weeks ago......and keep thinking should I?......shouldn't I?........I have time today to take 8 showers if I don't like it.......but here's my question........does it really wash out?.......anybody?

    Cheers

    Jax

  • wishiwere
    wishiwere Member Posts: 3,793
    edited December 2008

    Oh my! Purple?  You must take pics to share with us, IF you do it! 

    I know nothing about washing it out, so you'll have to wait on that one from artsee or someone in the know, sorry :(

    Can't wait though to see how looks! :D  You could always do Xmas colors instead?  Red or green? :)

  • Vinogal
    Vinogal Member Posts: 439
    edited December 2008

    O.K.......so I did it purple.......not quite the colour I was expecting........but.........I can see it more.....not sure if I'm ready to give up the wig?........

  • NatsFan
    NatsFan Member Posts: 3,745
    edited December 2008

    Vin - it's great!  You and I have about the same length hair at this point - I may be a tad longer and fuller, but not by much.  I started going commando a few weeks ago - just got tired of the whole head covering thing. 

    I haven't done anything with mine yet except gel it to make it sort of spiky.  You may inspire me to do something wild with color.

  • PinkLaddy
    PinkLaddy Member Posts: 133
    edited December 2008

    Vinogal,

    What a Beautiful Face you have!

    Jerri

  • wishiwere
    wishiwere Member Posts: 3,793
    edited December 2008

    See there!  You are beautiful even with Purple (although my screen is showing red) hair!  I think it looks great!  I'll be people won't even ask if you meant to cut it that way, you know?  Because it looks great!  WTG with the coloring, although I'm not quite ready for that yet!  I'm so certain this stuff will come out again! :D

  • Vinogal
    Vinogal Member Posts: 439
    edited December 2008

    it's a bit more like marroon than purple.....so kinda red I guess......if that makes sense......I'll know if I can pull it off in about 45 min when my daughter gets off the bus......she's brutally honest and has told me many times that I am not ready to go out without my wig......oh to be seven.......

  • wishiwere
    wishiwere Member Posts: 3,793
    edited December 2008

    Oh my goodness!  Brutal is right!  Little whippersnappers!  Who raised them to be so darn honest hey? :)

    Good Luck, report when you ego is up to it! :D

  • konakat
    konakat Member Posts: 6,085
    edited December 2008

    Vinogal -- I just have to chime in -- you're beautiful -- you can definitely toss the wig!!  The hair color's cool.  Mine went orange (trying to be blonde again) so I went darker and didn't get the maroon.  You look lovely!!

  • everyminute
    everyminute Member Posts: 1,805
    edited December 2008

    vinogal - when was your last chemo?  I am jealous!  I would take any color!

  • Vinogal
    Vinogal Member Posts: 439
    edited December 2008

    thanks for your kind words ladies.......last chemo was Oct 1.......was hoping for more length by now......but hey it's hair....

  • everyminute
    everyminute Member Posts: 1,805
    edited December 2008

    Your eyebrows look lovely!  I about 7 weeks behind you so 4 weeks from today I can only hope that my eyebrows and lashes look as good as yours! 

  • Lucy47
    Lucy47 Member Posts: 183
    edited December 2008

    Vinogal...

    You go girl. Get rid of the wig you don't need it anymore. You look amazing. I stopped using my wig 2 months after my last chemo and I didn't have nearly as much hair as you, but my husband took me out to dinner and told me that I didn't need the wig and that I looked beautiful. No one gave me a second look. That was back in June and I haven't looked back. 

  • KKing
    KKing Member Posts: 425
    edited December 2008

    Jax

    I came from the Junies thread to see your hair.  It looks great.  You have a lot more hair than me.  I think you should go without the wig.  Way to go.

  • sunshine787990
    sunshine787990 Member Posts: 147
    edited December 2008

    Vin

    I had to jump in and tell you  look awesome!!!  My last chemo was August 19 and you have 3 times more hair than me!!!  I say throw that wig in the ditch and let your hair blow in the wind!

  • hunkydory
    hunkydory Member Posts: 1,241
    edited December 2008
    I am from her June group too....that IS a bunch of hair.  I think it is a wig!!!  Hehehe!  Just kidding Jax.  I would ditch the wig lickety split!  HunkyD
  • Vinogal
    Vinogal Member Posts: 439
    edited December 2008

    You guys are making me blush......well the verdict is in.........daughter got off of her bus and said.....I love your hair mom........it's more "seeable"......her word of the day......she said I could go without the wig......so this is big news........now if only I could get my nerve up to do it......Dh is staying in the city tonight.....I sent him the pic.......and he says go for it......but what's he supposed to say.......maybe I'll drive daughter to dance with just a hat on?.......thank you all for your encouragement......gives me someone to blame if I do ditch the wig and everyone stares at me....lol

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited December 2008

    I have about the same amount of hair, but I can't get mine to stand up like that. Did you use a product?

  • Mocity
    Mocity Member Posts: 451
    edited December 2008

    Ugh!  I am tired of my wig and it is only 2-3 weeks of it.  Tired of the wig, don't like myself bald.... just complaining!  I am happy for those of you that have it growing out!

  • Vinogal
    Vinogal Member Posts: 439
    edited December 2008

    Nancy....I used my husbands stuff......Alberto Extreme Style REWORK......Fibre Putty.......feels like glue......but really works......it's the only stuff that can get my son's hair to stand up......his is super thick.....they call it rework because the idea is you can rework it.......good after wearing a hat......can stick it back up......stays a bit sticky though......went to daughter's dance without the wig.......but kept my hat on the whole time.....baby steps....

    Cheers

    Jax

  • artsee
    artsee Member Posts: 1,576
    edited December 2008

    Vinogal.....you look very nice and so do the brows. Boy, you've got a lot of them. I still have to pencil them in. The temporary colors should last 5 to 6 weeks. Of course I don't think that's the length if you wash your hair 8 times a day, LOL! I have found washing hair every other day, I'll last up to 6 weeks. In fact, it never really comes out totally.

    I like the color too. I was thinkin lavender purplish.....Undecided Artsee

  • sandym
    sandym Member Posts: 101
    edited December 2008

    Vinogal ! That's an amazing head of hair! I finished chemo the end of June, three months ahead of you and just left the wig off last week.  I have a little more than you - can stretch it out to 2 inches in places - but don't have the face for short hair.  You look wonderful.  Glad your daughter approves. 

    I've been using soy paste. It isn't heavy duty but helps with body and direction.  I'm slightly curly and it wants to go in every direction.  I think I need to get a little trim around the edges.  Beginning to look a little ragged.  

    One of the girls in our local card shop complimented me on my new haircut today.  The other two sales girls know I had chemo but I'm not sure if this girl did or not.  The store was busy so I just thanked her not knowing what else to say. I hope I smiled when I said it. She's very nice but I was caught off guard.  I'd never cut it this short. 

  • mumito
    mumito Member Posts: 4,562
    edited December 2008

    How come somepeople who have been on taxotere get their hair back and others don't?

  • otter
    otter Member Posts: 6,099
    edited December 2008

    mumayan, I don't know the answer to your question.

    There are lots and lots of women who have been given Taxotere, either in combination with other chemo drugs (I got Taxotere & Cytoxan) or by itself.  Probably millions of women, by now.

    How many of them (what percentage) did not get their hair back?

    I think if you read the Taxotere & Cytoxan thread on this forum, and browse through the other threads where women have received Taxotere as a follow-up to, or along with, other drugs like AC or Avastin, you'll find that almost all of them got their hair back.  My hair re-growth took awhile to get started, but now it's doing great and is very thick.  That's even though I am on Arimidex, an AI that some people think can cause hair to be thin.

    I know there are some women who've posted on the BCO boards about not getting their hair back after chemo.  Why they would have permanent hair loss while most women don't, seems to be a mystery.

    otter 

  • NatsFan
    NatsFan Member Posts: 3,745
    edited December 2008

    Cristl - I hear you.  I also got sick of my wig very quickly.  It was a nice wig and looked great on, but I just got tired of it.  I finally started wearing baseball caps - at first I put a headband on underneath it (wearing it at the hairline like a sweatband) to sort of fill in that area between the hat and the neck.  But after a while I just skipped the headband and just wore baseball hats.  Fortunately my work is very casual, so it was completely appropriate for me to wear that. 

    By the way, the pooch in your avatar is beautiful.  But I bet you have a lot of fur to clean up when he blows his coat in spring!   I have a chihuahua myself - sort of on the other end of the doggy scale!

  • sunshine787990
    sunshine787990 Member Posts: 147
    edited December 2008

    CristlC  I hate my wig too! and not having hair! and looking in the mirror...I'm right there with you girl....so complain to all of us we understand.....It helps to be able to vent! 

    Thanks to all of you that let me vent!!!   

  • NatsFan
    NatsFan Member Posts: 3,745
    edited December 2008
    I had to get my driver's license renewed today, even with my bristle-brush 1.5 inch long hair.  I swiped the "cancer card" and made MVA promise that I could get a new picture on my license when my hair grew back to normal, as I am NOT living with the crew cut picture for the next 5 years.  Of all times to have to renew my license!  Yell

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