Personality Changes after Chemo

grdngrl
grdngrl Member Posts: 1
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

A friend has had BC.

 I know it was hard for her, and that she is still worried. But I also do not have to tolerate personal attacks from her. This friendship is done, done, done.

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  • hattiemay41
    hattiemay41 Member Posts: 6
    edited October 2008

    grdngrl, Please don't give up on your friend. She is not mad at you she is mad at the disease and you are probably the person closest to her and she knows deep in her heart that you will never give up on her no matter how nasty she is. I know you've heard that saying we hurt the ones we love the most. Maybe she is pushing you away now because she's afraid you won't stay with her through it all. some people won't, maybe she's pushing you away before you walk away from her. please don't give up on her. she needs you now more than ever.

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  • Bronx81
    Bronx81 Member Posts: 7
    edited November 2008

    grdngrl, my mom has bc and has been going through chemo for over a year now..due to frustrations and changes in brain chemistry, people on chemo can be very nasty...I can definitely relate to that...what I do to get through those situations is let the person know that what they are saying is wrong...don't attack them, as hattie may said, ur friend needs you more than at any other time in her life....once you identify the words that are hurtful and let them know in a calm firm voice that it is hurtful, they will over time understand...or at least that has worked for me somewhat..it is a constant battle....but good luck with everything and hope all the best for your friend

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  • dawn2203
    dawn2203 Member Posts: 119
    edited November 2008

    Hi grdngrl, when I was going through chemo I was horrible to my dh, at the time I was feeling really ill and honestly thought the chemo was gonna finish me off. My way off dealing with it was saying not very nice things to my dh thinking if I was horrible to him he would walk and then if I lost the battle the pain would not have been so bad for him. Being diagnosed with cancer is really scary and in the early days thoughts are filled with death. Be patient with your friend it could be fear that is making her act this way. Dawn.x   

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