Reality check for me

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HeatherBLocklear
HeatherBLocklear Member Posts: 1,370

Hi all,

As you probably know, I've been feeling pretty danged sorry for myself over the past few weeks, feeling I've gotten a raw deal, and wondering where to go from here.

Then I see and hear the news about poor Jennifer Hudson. Riding the crest of the wave just a year ago, she has now suddenly and inexplicably lost everything -- her mother, her brother, and maybe her little nephew.

Who the hell am I to feel sorry for myself? I'm so lucky compared to Hudson and so many others. At least I have a chance.

Love,

Gorgeous Camel Hump

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  • Lucy47
    Lucy47 Member Posts: 183
    edited October 2008

    So terrible what happen...what is this world coming too. You never know whats coming, we need to just take it as it comes unfortunately. But I'm still sending you a big hug, you have a right to feel a bit sorry for yourself.

  • OneBadBoob
    OneBadBoob Member Posts: 1,386
    edited October 2008

    Annie, indeed you have a right to feel sorry for yourself.  We all have our traumas to live through--and yes, I always remember the beer truck,could be right around the corner for me,  and how dear friends of mine lost their college age child in a horrible bus accident two years ago.

    I am still pissed and angry about the lousey medical treatment I received and all the balls dropped along the way.  No guilt feelings at all.

    I repeat--it is all relative and we each experience our personal traumas and nightmares individually.  No need for guilt or any other negative feelings.

    You were dealt a lousey hand of cards, dear Annie.  No appologies necesssary.

    Now, to go on and make lemonade out of those stinking lemons!!

  • AnneW
    AnneW Member Posts: 4,050
    edited October 2008

    Annie Camel Friend,

    Bad things happen to good people. No one's tragedy trumps or denigrates anyone else's. Yet there are times I would not trade MY issues for anyone else's, ya know?

    Anne

  • cmb35
    cmb35 Member Posts: 1,106
    edited October 2008

    Oh Annie,

    I'm with you, so many people have worse problems, and I really do try to "count my blessings", and I definitely choose laugh over cry! But that doesn't make your trials (or any of ours!) any less.

    Hoping you had a restful weekend.

    Colleen

  • FloridaLady
    FloridaLady Member Posts: 2,155
    edited October 2008

    Annie,

    That why we love you...in the middle of your strangles you are worrying about someone else.  This is one of the big side effects of getting cancer.  You become very much aware of other who are suffering too.  I wish there was a way to give the world a hug...so many of us need one.

    (((BIG HUGS))) TO ALL OF THE BC.ORG LADIES

    Flalady

  • everyminute
    everyminute Member Posts: 1,805
    edited October 2008

    I had a dear friend who was an absolutely amazing ICU nurse for 20 years - she was a great mom, a wonderful friend, amazing nurse, all around great human.  She took a 2 week vacation with her hubby - painted every room in their house, woke up with a sore throat on her first day back to work, popped one of her sons antibiotics from the strep he had the week before, thinking it was her turn, and she was dead within 20 mins, never made it out of the shower.  Massive heart attack from an allegic reaction to antibiotic - which she had taken all her life.  No warning.

    When I am feeling down about my situation - Stage 3 bc, 39 years old, dog just died, dad moving in with me and needs round the clock care.....I remind myself that she would trade diagnosis with me in a minute - I have a chance, a good chance, at living a long life.  A cure could be around the corner and every day I have with my family and friends is one more day than Ann had.

    Its a wake up call, for sure!  That being said - this sucks too.

    Mary

  • otter
    otter Member Posts: 6,099
    edited October 2008
    [I deleted my post.  It was a bit too upbeat for this thread.]

    otter 

  • jdash
    jdash Member Posts: 754
    edited October 2008

    Hi Annie

    i was just saying the same thing tonite to a friend  how sad and unjust- things can always be worse and that is what has always kept me putting a positive twist on everything-  i cannot even begin to imagine the anguish that family is feeling   

    but annie you have every right to feel as you say danged sorry  for yourself  but only for a little while and then pick yourself up  dust off and realize it can all be better  ........... and it will be annie  i promise

    BIG HUGS

    julia

  • sftfemme65
    sftfemme65 Member Posts: 790
    edited October 2008

    So here it is 411 am and I can't sleep.  Feeling sorry for myself.  A dear friend of mine died last weekend, my partner left me, my sinus's are so painful(thank you Avastin) and I cant sleep.  Then I find this post.  You are so right Annie....thank you for reminding me that I am truly a lucky woman.  You are a beautiful person.

    Teresa 

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