Jan 2008--Ain't it Great?

JulieK_11_30_07 · October 2008

Hi girls -- I returned a short time ago from my visit with Norma -- here's a pic!! It was sooooo awesome to get to HUG another Jewel! We talked about a definite need for a get-together with more of us!! I can't believe how curly her hair is -- I'm so jealous!!!

Hope everyone's having a great weekend -- I'll get back on later when I have more time to catch up.

Julie

sheshe48 · October 2008

Happy Sunday Jewels,

Norma Here is my email address so you can email me on how to order a calender. sherryemyers@hotmail.com Thanks I loved the picture of you and Julie, that's so cool you got to hug. You both look great.

Julie That will be your best gift of all new nipps. You and Kathy will be standing proud LOL. That is so awesome the students raised that kind of money. They all need to be patted on the back. I know those kids are proud. It will be so nice one day when we can wipe out this horrible diease and none of our daughters will lose thier utters.

Kathy Get feeling better Kathy. Smile

Therese HAPPY BIRTHDAY Money mouth

gtg too, Sherry

SISKimberly · October 2008

Good afternoon Jewels,

A week without the Jewels is just not the same.

I've been busy with life. Grading papers, entering grades, doing lesson planning, going to meetings, and walking daily. I'm finally caught up after jury duty, so next week, I can return to yoga after school on Monday and try Cardio Sculpt on Tuesday. I'm hitting some balls on Wednesday, going to the weight room Thursday, and having my weekly massage Friday. Of course, I'll walk everyday during my prep period except Tuesday, which is a planning day with my student teacher. I'm down to 149. My weight last weekend was a flukeas it went up to 151.5 the next day. I've lost six pounds so far, 9 to go.

Scary news. My twinsis' breast MRI showed a nodule in the right breast. She has a biopsy on Tuesday. I plan to go with her, so I'll miss 5th and 6th period. I told her that nodule is good, meaning small and most likely encapsulated. It could be a cyst or calcification and not to jump to any conclusions as I'd already taken the cancer bullet for the twins. So, fingers and toes crossed girls.

How are you all doing?

Norma - Hey, long time no post! Good to hear from you. I'll check out the link to your article when I'm done posting. That's so great that your group's been featured.

Glad to be of help with the typing in word tip.

D1 - So, Mom needs a new computer after only two years? Seems there should be a warranty for such a short period of time.

Your sisters will totally come through for you...more so than DH...for your le care.

Yeah, Carol's reminder was much needed. I have to remember that none of this little shit even matters in the long run. If kids don't do their homework, not my problem. If kids do not study for their tests, not my problem. I only have control of what is happening in my classroom...most of the time. HeeHee. Sometimes I wonder if the kids know I'm there with the amount of socializing that goes on compared to getting work done...mostly my last period class. I remember being just like that, but I did always get my work done, however.

Dinner out...with no dessert, eh? I'm sorry that things haven't yet moved forward in that area of your life. Must be frustrating to want to live your best life and have your dh still be ‘stuck' so to speak. I know you've made overtures with no success in the past, and you can proud of yourself for being the grown up and making the first moves.

With all of your garments and now the silicone pad under your pit, I imagine ‘taking it off' in a sultry sexy way isn't in the romantic plans, so advance planning is in order...but, you're a great planner, so I don't anticipate that holding you back at all.

Paula - A big WHooHoo!!! on the positive results of all tests for you and the shrinking tumors for Ed. Could the PET scan be showing cells in the aorta and lymph system still recovering from chemotherapy and all?

Carol - First of all, thank you so much for the pictures of our Jewels. Awesome!!!! Second, sorry I missed your Cancerversary...congrats on being a whole year out and being in such a great place in your life-unfulfilling job and all. LIFE IS GOOD!!!!

I agree that Paula's docs seem to be doing lots of follow-up compared to some of ours. That's great for her peace of mind. I can't decide if I want to do more scans or not at this point.

So, my dx date is coming up this Friday. Knowing my sis is doing a biopsy on Tuesday and could have results on Friday is bitter sweet...I so want 10/10 to be remembered for Kathleen having gotten good news (and for our VP having had her baby...she so wants to have her baby next week...poor thing is sooo uncomfortable.)

About the job...think of it as what you do to pay the bills, then find something outside of work that is fulfilling.
As much as I love teaching, I'm tired. This takes a lot of energy on a daily basis both physically and mentally. I so want to be able to use my counseling degree when the new junior high opens, but who knows when that will be.

Yeah our neighborhood is pretty cool. My friend and I who were registering Democrats to vote last Sunday, actually got several republicans switching parties. WhooHoo! (Sorry for the political reference,Jewels, I know that can be a touchy topic for some.) (Ouch...just slapped my own hand. HeeHee)

Greg was up to his elbows in wine grapes on Friday. He bought some Alicante Bouche and some Temperanillo. I don't know what to say...he's loving this wine making hobby. We'll have 5 more gallons of wine to rack soon. He got his boss involved as well, so his boss is making some wine, too.

How the universe works...you walk with a gal who is walking just because the cause is important, and then her mom is dx. Seems to me she was in the right place to meet you and others in order to find support she didn't even know she needed at the time.

CathyCA- Hi, good to hear from you. Thanks for the information about the book.

I didn't even know colleges had parent committees. How cool is that?

And may I just say, if hot water is the only issue, your ds is in a great place. I'm so glad all is well with him and you.

Sherry - My take on things is if it takes that much effort to make it work, it probably isn't worth it. I know you want to work, but maybe this online company isn't the one for you. How are you assured of a pay check after putting in whatever time you put in? Sorry, mama bear is getting protective.

Good job of walking two miles a day. That's great! You're welcome for the positive energy sent your way.

I'm not actually teaching the class yet, just proposing it. I emailed the gal at Sutter about it and have not heard a word, so maybe this isn't the right time to do this. Like I said, if it is something that doesn't seem to come without a lot of work, it may not be the right time or the right thing at this point.

Therese - HI!!!! Wow, what a great couple of events you'll be attending in the next few weeks. Happy early birthday!

I am using this month to remind my staff to have their annuals- both men and women. There's a walk this next weekend in town, I just heard about (I've been so sheltered this past few weeks - no news, no radio - not a bad thing), but don't know much else about it. I might check it out.

Jules - I love that pic of you and Norma. We sooo have to arrange a get together for when school is out. We get out the 12th of June. I'd be on a plane that afternoon if need be. We need someone who isn't working full time to get this going.

All caught up. Again, I hate not being able to check in daily like I used to do, but at least I can do so once a week.

Hope all our Jewels are having a great Sunday.

Love to all, SIS Kimberly

joteach · October 2008

Hi everyone,

I can't believe how the time goes by. I have been finally getting into the groove of school this year. My class is good with a couple of ADHD boys so it is exhausting! But I still love teaching and love every minute. I do look forward to retiring in a couple of years though.

I will be praying for your sister, SIS Kimberly and hope you are right about it.

D1- I'm so glad your sister is OK. Great about you meeting another Jewel.

It seems like a lot of us are coming on our one year anniversary of DX. We are really survivors now and can still say FUBC!!!!!

Speaking of survival, I went on a 5K walk for bc last Sunday. It was for Miles of Hope (a local fundraising organization). Here is a picture of myself, my friend Eileen (lost her mother to bc) and the Miles of Hope founder Kathy (lost sister to bc).It was very successful and loads of fun. My surgeon was there walking! Its good to see her, she is a great woman and doctor.

I also went on a Petwalk a few weeks ago and that was to raise funds for the local ASPCA. Lucy had agreat time and kept up with everyone!

Bye for now,

Joan

Cathy-CA · October 2008

I'm hosting bridge tomorrow, so have spent the day cleaning (but nothing like D1 would've done) and getting food prepped, so I can just assemble tomorrow morning. It's an afternoon deal and only supposed to be snacks, but it seems like everyone prepares close to a full lunch. I'm having chicken salad in lettuce cups, pitas with humas or tzatziki, toast rounds with sun-dried tomato and cream cheese, a veggie platter and pumpkin turtles (a pumkin mousse with caramel and pecans). Add that to having to prepare and present a dish in cooking class tomorrow night (broccoli and almond soup -- it's yummy) and the kitchen has been my home today.

Carol -- Thank you so much for the pics of the Jewels! What a wonderful surprise when I opened my mail. I'm sorry to hear about your friend's mom. One of the women in our training group has a mother going through treatment right now. I've talked to the daughter several times on our walks (although she wasn't there today) just to try to help her understand everything.

Kimberly -- I hope your sister gets benign news this week. I think we all have bittersweet memories of last year and getting the "news". Mine technically isn't until November only because I was leaving on a cruise, so they pushed the biopsy off until I got back, but I had been warned that things didn't look good.

Julie -- glad you and Norma were able to get together. I think it's great that so many are being able to make in-person connections.

Jo -- your walks (and pictures) are wonderful. I had our 12 mile training walk this morning and we start going back-to-backs next weekend. It is so inspiring to be involved in these walks.

golfer779 · October 2008

Hi Jewels,

My oh my, Sunday eve comes around way to soon. Yesterday we spent "puttering" around the house, and today we took advantage of a gift cert to a new local golf course. My bro had given it to me for my birthday back in March. Unfortunately the weather here in the PNW was rather cruddy this weekend, so I had to come home and take a hot bath to warm my bones. In fact all weekend has been cool, Friday night we actually had to light a fire and yesterday ordered 2 cords of wood. Oh the joys of living in a damp climate.

We have salmon on the grill (gotta love the bil who supplies us with pretty darn fresh fish from Alaska), yes its been frozen, but just for a couple of weeks. We expected the fil here about 30 min ago, hmmmm, he had a date of sorts last night, my dh thinks maybe he was on the phone with her and that's why he's running a little late !!! I'll get this started and take a break to finish up. I finally got my power supply cord replaced on this old laptop. Its nice to not have to be upstairs to be puttering.

So what's been happening ...

Cathy, yeah on the back to back training walks, I had such a fabulous experience with the whole event, from each training walk to the final steps into the closing ceremonies. Interesting news for us Seattle-lites, they actually changed the date of the 2009 schedule, I know many of us complained about them wanting the Seattle 20009 event to be held in October (they we're nuts). They rescheduled it for the second week of September, like this year.

I'm glad you received your pics of the Jewels, I had a heck of a time trying to figure out how to do it on one sheet, obviously bagged that idea, there we're too many photos, and I came close to a heart attack when I priced out a poster size print at Kinkos !!! All in all, I think that it will be cool to have something to look at in the future.

Wow, I don't know how to play bridge but I certainly could enjoy the "nosh" you have prepared!

Joan, awesome job on the walks ... and I always love a pic to go with the adventure. I bet your little Lucy is becoming quite the nice young pup!!!

Kimberly, glad you had the chance to pop in. Here I was hoping that all would be going along smoothly this week, and now you and your sis are bombarded with a bit of a stressful situation. Trust me, me fingers, toes, and anything else I can cross will be so for a great outcome on Tuesday's biopsy. Hoping you can prepare for a little celebratory outing this Friday.

Hate to say it, but for those of us parents who need to see those daily or weekly grades, the on-line gig is great. I still end up e-mailing a teacher every now and again.

So I may have to pick your brain on your Yoga class. I would be a total Yoga virgin, and I was checking out some local spots who offer classes. I was thinking it might be a good way introduce some good stretching techniques along with some mind clearing exercises. Your weekly schedule is something else. How the heck do you have time for anything ???

A Jewel get-together next year ??? I'll be on a plane right behind you heading to wherever works best for the Jewels. I'm holding out that "somebody" will come up with a game plan. Hate to say it but what I consider a great place to go has been pretty limited the past ten years. Kent and I rather enjoy our rut of AZ to golf for r&r. I don't know if I would like the pressure of making a decision of a destination, so whomever would like to go for it, I will be a happy camper, no matter where that might be !!!

See, I knew if I complained about my work somebody would have some good words of advice. Yes, I may have to spend 40 hours a week doing something that "helps pay the bills", but that definitely leaves some time in my week to do something that brings me some personal fulfillment. Thank you SIS.

Julie and Norma, too cool ... and a great pic to show us! Yep, I did Yahoo map Peoria to Woodlawn, your right about 3+ hrs. In my world that is nothing !!! I'm still holding out that we will have a "reunion" prior to the end of next July when the ds will hopefully be skating in IL.

Hoping your Homecoming week doesn't wear you out too much. Amazing how when you're the student it all just seems like fun !!! Wow on the fundraising event with the Volleyball team.

Yes, I do like the on-line grading ... and no we are not the parents who question why some assignments/test scores are not immediately posted. It is nice in the long run to have a bit more involvement without having to e-mail teachers on a regular basis.

Sherry, noticed that you questioned when Jennifer may have been having surgery, I received an e-mail from her, she was dealing with some complications from her knee surgery and was going to be in the hospital for a couple of days to alleviate some of the problems with her knee. I'm sure that she could use some positive vibes being sent her way.

Thanks for asking, the wiener dog is doing better !!!

D1, okay ... silicone patches ... a big bra ... what's next ??? I'll count myself lucky with just a few aches and pains in the ol' joints. How bout a magnetic bracelet , sounds attractive huh ?

Funny you asked about Mexican food, our dinner the night before the 3 day event was a Mexican buffet. We talked about that and made a packed between us that we'd pass on the beans !!! What the heck, heading out on a 20+ mile walk with Mexi food in your gut, and nothing but porta-potties to use for 3 days ?!?!?!?

Hey, as I said before, we need a dh swap ... you can't get any action, and I have no desire to have any !!!

Okay, this seems like a bad way to end a post, but its now bedtime !!!

Oh, the fil did have a great date last night, he was so cute telling us all about it. She ended up spending the night as she lives quite a drive away from his home. They are old highschool friends that reunited this past summer at their reunion. He ended up making up his bed with clean sheets for her, and he slept upstairs in his spare bedroom. He said he didn't sleep a wink ... we're hoping that maybe they can continue to chat and hopefully share some fun times together. Gotta like it, she just called his cel phone to chat !!! This is the best thing that could happen to such a great man !!!

Off to bed ... hoping a great week is had by all, Carol

KathyL · October 2008

OH gosh, it's been so long. I am just soooo busy. The kids are doing swim lessons on Saturdays, and every weekend there has been at least one birthday party to attend. I'm working the 2 jobs... you get the idea! I have no time to shout out right now... maybe next time. Tonight is the only night I am home. I miss you all and have read the posts, just very little time to write. Special thanks to Carol for the pictures in the mail. Had me choked up a bit when I looked at all of us! Thanks so much for sharing them.

Some fun things I've been up to: Sunday I hosted a Lissa Cole purse party. You design your own purse and then the company makes it. So much fun, and really nice purses. I have 3 already. Can't wait to see my new ones in a few weeks. Also, this coming Friday I have a date (when was the last time I did that?!?)! dh and I are going to Wilmington to hear Robin Roberts from GMA speak. We paid extra for "the good seats" which also include an hors d'oeuvre hour afterwards where we'll get to meet Robin. I am so excited!

Also this month: Oct. 5 was my one year mark from my mastectomy. Happy to report my second nip surgery went well so far. It takes some time to see if it "stays" after healing. Can't believe I've been without that boob for a whole year.

And my beloved ds will be 3 one the 26th. For some reason, looking at him reminds me of how long this has all been going on for me. I had just stopped nursing him when I found my lump last August, and he was barely talking then. Now he looks like such a big boy and he chatters away all the time! Oh, how I love my 2 kids. I also get to be a classroom helper later this month in dd's class. She is thrilled I'll be there, and so am I.

GTG, busy and long day tomorrow. Working both jobs. Sorry it's been so long, Jewels!

sheshe48 · October 2008

Hi JJ's,

How is every Jewel today? As for me I have toe nail woes. I been meaning to mention this but kept forgetting. The day after my dd wedding my 2 big toe nails turned black. The 1 one the right turned yellow and white will soon. That one just came off. The one of the left is still black, just not sure what is is going to do. I have to say I have to join the jewels with the missing toe nails. I'm so glad it's gone, it was so ugly. Has anyone's missing toe nails started growing back yet? I'm was just wondering. Darn Taxotere, Oh well.

KathyL Glad surgery went well and you are healing I hope this surgery takes. I have half of my right breast left and my nipple refuses to come out. It is in and I don't think it's coming out. I have been told to wear sports bras, that's not helping either. I have just excepted it. I see the kids are keeping you busy with swim classes. Enjoy your kids while they are young, they grow up so fast. I'm glad you got to go and hear Robin Roberts speak, she seems like a really nice person.

I just seem to be hot to trot since I got out of treatment. A man I have a crush on the other day gave me a big kiss on the mouth and a hug, 3 times. I thought maybe he is sending me a message. So being the coward that I am I wrote him a letter and asking him out. I have known him for a couple of years and he is just a few years older than me. So heres hoping, I just thought I did not have a chance with him, But you never know, I was not this hot to trot before cancer. Maybe it's a good sign.

Carol Fish sounds so good, I think I'm have fish tonight too. Thanks for telling me about Jennifer. I hope she gets well soon, my older sister is having her knee replaced next week.

Cathy I'm like Carol don't know how to play bridge but could devower the food, have fun.

Joan That's great you got to do your cancer walk and Lucy also did her part and walked too. Pretty cool. I love your hair.

So far all the jewels i have seen with their new hair it all looks great. I'm going to post a picture soon of my new hair.

Kimberly I hope and pray your twin sister does not BC. I'm be praying for you and her. You are a busy lady with the grapes and school and meeting, where do you find the time to excersize?

Julie I hope you are having better luck with getting your house on the market. Take care I know you are also a busy lady.

Determined1 · October 2008

Oh my. It seems like forever since I've checked in. I guess that means I'm busy with other things and that's good. (Actually, I've been on the phone for a few days straight, trying to find a supplier of my big bra that's in my insurance network. No luck. But I did find one for $195, which is much better than the $325 I paid for the first one. Now I have to break it to dd that she can't go to college because mommy needs a new big bra.)

Carol! The pictures are amazing! What a treasure! I'm going to ask dh to scan it in so I can have them on my computer. Thanks ever so much. What a project!

Hey Sherry, thanks for the computer suggestion. My mom is using a friend's old one right now and may opt not to buy a new one at all. I'm just waiting on her decision now. How are you feeling?

You know, Julie, I've had a few occasions when I couldn't get my computer to ‘grant access' for my copy and paste post. I haven't a clue what causes that to happen... It's homecoming week here, too, and dd is dressing up every day for spirit. Yesterday's get up was a hoot-plaid pj bottoms, tie-dyed t with a plaid (different plaid) flannel shirt over it, tie-dyed gyms socks pulled up over her pant bottoms, and a tie-dyed sweat band for her head. She looked completely dorky and could not have been happier about it! She's still negotiating which gang she'll hang with for dinner and then the dance on Saturday night, apparently, she has a couple of offers to consider (thank goodness we don't have the "date" thing going on in our high school-that was so traumatic for me).

I'm so sorry the house thing is frustrating. You're a better person than I if you can really "go with the flow."

And I love the Volley for the Cure. How wonderful for you that one of the kids played in your honor. You must've felt so good. Our basketball coach tried to do some bc fundraising last season, but didn't quite have it together (having the girls shoot for the cure would've been a good idea...). Maybe this year.

So check out that picture of Julie and PALady!!! Hot mamas!!! PALady, what are you putting on your hair???? I need some of that! I'm quite jealous that both of you have color to your hair (or are you guys cheating?). The smiles are wonderful. Thanks for sharing the picture.

OMG, Sherry, you had me laughing with your comment about Julie and KathyL standing proud!

SIS Kimberly!!!! Actually, your weight progress sounds GREAT! Keep up the good work (maybe I should put these crackers away-but they're whole grain, at least).

Oh, no. I just read about your twin sis. She has her biopsy today. I'm mustering all my best thoughts to send her way. I sure hope she has her cape...

The warranty on my mom's computer was only for one year, so she's SOL. Like I said earlier, she may decide to limp through with her friend's old one for a while.

Yeah, dh and I are kinda stuck. Unfortunately, we had some issues before bc came along and have been working through them for something like 5 years now. In all honesty, we still have a way to go on that score, so I shouldn't be too surprised at my situation. I'm actually starting to think I may need to see a professional to get over this, but I really don't know where to turn, I'm tired of medical appointments and quite frankly, I'm not sure I could discuss this out loud. Even though the bc has made me eager to put negatives out of my life, you can see that I still have some ground to cover here. I'll get there.

(What a Debbie Downer. Sorry about that.)

You mentioned the silicone pad-I think its working! I can already move my arm better without it ‘burning.' I'm going to stick with it (so to speak) for a few weeks and see if I can't break down the giant wad of scar tissue in my armpit.

Oh, and speaking of my giant wad of scar tissue, I had my mammo yesty. All clear. I talked to the tech and the mammo doc at length before agreeing to do it, just to allay my fears about aggravating my le. They were very good about discussing the physiology of a mammogram and didn't make me feel funny about asking. So then I go up to see my surgeon afterwards to have them read. First thing he tells me is that mammos don't cause le. Dolt. (There's that word again, Carol.) I know that. I explained that I was concerned about aggravating the le I ALREADY have. Pissed me off. Anyway, he said he thinks part of my problem with the le could be tied to the scar tissue wad (isn't that HIS handiwork?) and as it breaks down over time, perhaps my le will improve. I didn't even tell him about the silicone patch (you'd think he'd be suggesting it, but nooooooo). I was happy to have a good report and booked on outta there. I go back in 6 months for a left side mammo only. Next up, MRI with my baby doc (rads doc) in November.

Back to Kimberly's post. I'm really excited for next Tuesday. College girl is coming home this weekend and on Tuesday I'm going to take her to the courthouse so she can vote absentee in person. She voted in the primaries, but this is her first general election. We're both excited. Maybe I should spring for lunch afterward...

Good to hear from you, Joan! You look GREAT in the picture! Your hair has filled in a lot since I saw you at the end of August. Sounds like you're out doing the fundraising walks this fall. That's great. Say hi to Lucy for me!

Oh CathyCA, will you come and clean my house? (And make those hors d'oeurves?) I've been so busy that I haven't kept the house up the way I like it. I def want to get at the stove and sink and do some vacuuming before college girl comes home on Friday. Luckily, I have a couple of days to accommodate my penchant for procrastination.

You're way too dedicated to your golf game, Carol. If the weather's not perfect, I'd bag it. So does your Alaskan salmon come from Bristol Bay???

I'm surprised to hear from you, KathyL! I thought Wednesday was your day! You sound really upbeat (busy, but upbeat). It's great. You should love being the classroom helper. I did that (I ended up in the computer lab because that's where one of the early teachers needed the most help) the entire time my kids were in elementary school. I really, really enjoyed it. Speaking of enjoying things, Robin Roberts should be great. If you get a chance to report on it, I think we'd all like it. Fingers are crossed that your new nipple sticks with you. My dh told me the other day that my lumpectomy scar is finally looking better. He said it reminded him of a giant eyebrow over my nipple. Whatever.

Oh! I'm at the end. You guys are probably happy about that. Okay, off to do my monthly accounting for my little company and maybe some laundry...

D1

camazur · October 2008

Dear Jewels--

I just had to post after receiving a really nice card from Julie K. Thanks for thinking of me, Julie. I had 2 Chemo Angels through my chemo and radiation, but then they were on to another deserving cancer patient. I miss their cards and notes, so it was great getting one from Julie.

And Thanks to Carol for the pics. So many, I'm glad you used 5 pages. We're quite a group!

Don't think I've checked in since my trip to FL. I handled everything and it was pretty easy thanks to my very nice and helpful lawyer. Very sad for me to see all my Dad's stuff still around the house tho. It was good seeing his wife. We were never real close, but I feel much closer to her now that he's gone. She's all I have left of them.

I got the results of my bloodwork for tumor markers yesterday, and everything looks good, so I can get my port out now. I had it inserted in the hospital under twilight anesthesia, but my surgeon says he can take it out in his office with just a local anesthetic. Anybody had this done already, and what can I expect? I'm rather nervous about it, as I tend to faint during stressful procedures, like when I needed a cortisone shot into my shoulder joint a few years ago. Anyway, I haven't made the appointment yet. You'd think I'd be braver after all I've been through so far.

I'm jealous of how everyone's hair is coming back. Mine is still so short and growing sooo slowly. But I have started going out topless. I just got so sick of wearing stuff on my head all the time. Too bad its just as the weather here is turning colder. I am so dreading winter with its icy driving. I'm so nervous now about darn near everything. It started well before my dx with a heavy feeling of impending doom. Since that actually came about. plus the losses I've had this past year, everything seems so risky and dangerous. I'm working on it with my therapist.

Oct. 28 is the anniversary of my favorite aunt's death last year, and I'm hoping it will mark the end of a very bad year for me. Grasping for positive notes.

Praying for your twinsis, Kimberly.

Happy belated birthday to Therese!

Take care everyone, and best wishes to all.

Maz

texrn · October 2008

Thank you for the birthday wishes! I had a great birthday "week"! I am really very excited & proud to be 47 - I mean, my family has always celebrated everyone's birthday in a big way, even when I was growing up. but I never thought I would feel so privileged & blessed to be celebrating like this at 47! I feel like one of my life's goals these days is to collect as many birthdays as I can, especially surrounded by those I love. I know, pretty corny - even for a 'black & white', conservative person like myself, I can be pretty sentimental sometimes. I have to say that my most memorable birthday gifts this year was my surprise gift from Mother Nature Undecided I couldn't believe it! I had managed to stay in chemical menopause for 9 1/2 months, & just when I thought I was home free...yep, you guessed it - my 'monthly' visitor showed up...& right on my actual birthday too!!

A word of advice: BE CAREFUL what you wish for!!! I had been trying real hard, lately, to get my life back-on-track, but this wasn't what I had in mind!

Oh well, life goes on....

Hope everyone is having a good week.

Therese

Anonymous · October 2008

Hey, has anyone been assigned a "case manager" from their health insurance company? I've had one leave a phone message and follow up with a letter offering to do this. It sounds a little ominous to me ... they keep emphasizing in the letter that it won't reduce your benefits or coverage. They make it sound voluntary and I can't think of any reason I'd volunteer for it. I'm (hopefully) cruising toward the end of treatments (just Herceptin now until Feb. or March).

What is there for them to manage?

Cathy-CA · October 2008

LJ -- sounds like your insurance co is a bit behind. I had a case manager assigned at the time of diagnosis, but I think I may have requested her. I've had case managers before for my son's treatments and found them very helpful, which is why I opted for one for me. As it turned out, I didn't need her services, but she called me monthly during treatment to see if I needed additional information, had questions about treatment, needed help understanding my coverage, and so on.

Cathy-CA · October 2008

Had a box waiting for me on the front porch from my SP. Thank you so much! It had a great book for storing recipes and indexing recipes from cookbooks plus a kitchen towel, dish and tile. Very nice autumn colors that go great with the Halloween decorations I have out.

Therese -- Mother Nature must have a sense of humor! Glad you had a great b'day, but sorry for the present. I know what you mean about celebrating every good day you get. One of my bridge friends is leaving tomorrow to go visit her sister. The sister has bc and got so sick on chemo that they've had to take her off and has been hospitalized for weeks. She was scheduled for surgery this month and they don't think she's strong enough to stand it. It seems like most of us Jewels have made it through our treatment relatively unscathed and are well on our way to getting back-on-track, so we should be grateful.

Maz -- good to hear that your markers came back normal. I'll still have my port until at least January when I finish Herceptin. I'll be curious to read your report on how the removal goes.

D1 -- have a great time with college girl. My college boy is flying home Friday morning. They get a week off for Fall break. I will try to have lunch with him if his flight is on time. I have a job interview Friday afternoon, so will need to watch my time. I'm not completely convinced that I want to go back to work, but fate is trying to send me a message since I've had calls from four different places in the past two weeks inquiring about my availability.

SheShe, Carol and anyone else. If we plan our Jewel get together anywhere near California, I will happily bring goodies!

Kathy -- wow, your son is hitting the big time turning 3. It's amazing how fast they grow up. I have a picture hanging in our hallway of our youngest at that age and sometimes when I walk by it, I wonder how he could possibly already be in college. Have a great time as a class helper in dd's class. I was a "reading listener" in both my boys' classes when they were early elementary and had lots of fun. The school had volunteers come in so kids could practice reading outloud and it was great seeing the progress all the kids made over the year, plus gave me a chance to get to know my boys' friends a little better.

wvgirl · October 2008

Hello my fellow Survivors,

Sorry I have been in hiding the past few months. I am now finished with my radiation as of 10/3 total of 33 trips. Whew

I wanted to let everyone know I am doing OK Take my days one at a time.

Carol thank you for the pictures they are great

Julie thanks for the card.

I was ask to speak on behalf of the America Cancer Society. I was on the local news. I was nervous and ask for a re do of the interview but they said I did great below is the link you can judge for yourself. I will come back and give an update soon. Taken a break for work to say hi.

Carla Thorn was featured on WBOY's Monday evening news for the American Cancer Society. Click on the link below to read her story and watch the video and read the story.

Take care Carla

http://www.wboy.com/story.cfm?func=viewstory&storyid=45099

kris60 · October 2008

Thanks for the pictures Carol, they rock. I seen the 'quote' you used and about died. heehee did I actually say that? chemo brain, yeah that's it, I don't remember.... Tongue out .

Looking back though, I'm amazed at some of the things that seemed to be a huge accomplishment, but now it's kinda like..hmmmm... like my quote Carol used.. it's laughable now, but at the time holy cow that WAS an accomplishment ...lol

yes, I'm a cheeseball, not to mention my spikey hair is being unruley, it's like I have permanent bedhead ......

caught a cold and I'm like pffft, it's just a cold, I've handled much worse... still feel like dookey though, it's now in my sinuses and chest.. whoo hooo a common person sickness....

tootles for now

Kris

RN2teach · October 2008

Hello Gems!

Work is kicking my butt these days. Working with subs (different ones each day... sigh!), doing my own lesson plans and sub lesson plans, rotating the kids between classrooms to get their skills training in, keeping all the online gradebooks up-to-date. Looks like we might be getting a nurse on board by November 1. Ain't gonna be an easy month, but at least the end is in sight...

Carol- Thank you for the pictures- they're wonderful! I got a bit teary as I browsed through this photo journal of our journey together. I feel so fortunate to be a part of the Jewels. I know you gals have saved me a ton of dough on therapy!

How great that your fil has made a "love connection." Hope things work out for him in that area.

How's Steph doing?

KathyL- enjoy your date- you and dh SO deserve some alone time. How cool that you'll meet Robin Roberts as well!

Sherry- losing toenails now? I didn't end up losing any, but I know from past experience that they should grow back quickly. If I recall, D1 had all her nails when I saw her in DC.

WTG, Ms. Hot 2 Trot, on making your own love connection. Good luck!

D1- good news on the mammo! Good to see that the silicone pad is working some magic on that scar tissue. A $400 bra? Dang! It ought to play music or somethin' for that price... LOL at dd dropping out of college to pay for your boob holders.

Your surgeon IS a dolt! (Cool word, btw).

You know, we have entirely different issues going on with our dh's, but I hear you on thinking that some professional help might be in order. And I am right where you are, I think- I don't have the energy to pursue another medical appointment at the moment.

Our homecoming week was the week we returned from DC. The kids had some wild costumes that week. On "inside out" day the kids had articles of underwear outside their clothes. Most of the girls wore their bathing suits, but the fellas had their boxers over their pants. I guess I wasn't paying much attention with ds, cuz I didn't notice till late in the day that his boxers had muffins with STUD across the top of each muffin.... Surprised

Julie- Homecoming week is almost over for you- hope it's going well! Sounds like your Volley for a Cure was a great success. What was the final amount raised?

What a great pic of you and Norma! Both of you have so much hair. You look like you have bangs even! I'm getting there, but my shortest hair is in front.

So all you want for Christmas is your two front nips? Heh heh!

OMG, Kimberly! Thinking of you and Kathleen and praying that Friday will bring good news and the two of you can go have a grand celebration.

Hmmm, after reading your to-do list I'm thinking I shouldn't complain! Reading your comments and Carol's reminder was timely advice for me as well. Thanks!

Good for you getting involved in registering voters! You're a true patriot. I had made my choice for President a while ago... reviewed the whole thing after the VPs were chosen and I'm sticking with my man. Gotta hope my track record is better this year... My choice has been the loser for the past 2 presidential elections.

Joan- congrats on completing your walk. (A Pet walk? Too cute!) Your pic is great- look at those curls!

CathyCA- OK, I was practically drooling as I read about the eats for your bridge group. I'm with Carol- I don't know a thing about the game, but I'd be learning fast if I lived in your neighborhood!

Whoa! You'll bring goodies to the Jewels gathering? I vote for the west coast!

Maz! We've missed you! I'm glad to hear that your trip to FL went smoothly. ((HUGS))

GREAT news on your tumor markers!! Looks like you are taking care of yourself and moving forward. How is your ds doing? Hope all is well with him.

Therese- happy belated birthday! I'll be turning 47 soon also. LOL at your birthday present. Mother Nature has a lousy sense of humor sometimes...

LJ- funny, I had a case manager call me a couple of weeks ago. I knew what it was all about only because we had one assigned to us when dh was diagnosed with cancer in 2006. The case manager was a nurse who called right after his diagnosis and every few weeks thereafter to make sure our needs were met. I'd say it's a bit late for us to have a case manager at this point, wouldn't you?!

WVGirl! So good to hear from you! Your interview was great--you did well! I'll be bringing ds to Mo-town soon for a tour of WVU. It was originally scheduled for Monday the 13th, but had to cancel as my port is coming out then. I'll PM you when I have the visit rescheduled. Perhaps we can meet!

All caught up. Hope you didn't get tired of reading b4 you got to the end! Take care all!

Paula

RN2teach · October 2008

Kris- saw your post after I got mine finished. Hope you recover from the cold quickly. I love your spirit and your sense of humor!

Just thinking about some of our Jewels who we haven't hear from in a while....

Wonder how Diana and Deb1023 and Tinalee are doing... And Sista, Patty, and Dana... Hopefully Dana is all finished with school and getting ready for her cruise this month--wasn't she finishing in October? Hoping Patty's sis is doing well. Wonder if Tina spent the summer on her Harley?

golfer779 · October 2008

Holy Moly ... what a chatty bunch !!!

I'm glad that the pics have found you all ... if I have left anybody out that would like a copy, I have about 6 more copies to find homes for. I ended up making my list of who to send to from the pics I had used. Although, your own mug shot may not be there, you may still want to see the rest of the bunch.

I have to admit, I do check in on a daily basis, okay ... usually twice a day, but was too lazy to post. Yesterday afterwork I used a gift cert my bro had given me for a ½ hr peppermint foot massage, and a hour full body massage. My oh my, the ol' neck and shoulder blades we're screaming. I definitely have been favoring my right side. Its pretty bad when a co-worker reminds me to stand up straight. I (think) that part of my issue is that I don't always wear my "boob in a box", and I maybe a little self conscious even with loose fitting clothing. I'm thinking it would be best for my posture and muscles to be bringing "her" out on a regular basis, that way I will have no excuses for not keeping my shoulders back. The massage therapist also recommended that I try to focus on my breathing throughout the day. Big deep breaths and some shoulder rolls, and neck stretches.

So to back track with you all just a bit ...

Kathy, too cool on your impending outing Friday. I'll be looking forward to your "detailed" account of meeting Robin Roberts. I have often thought how cool it is that she sported the "very short do" from the get-go, when we all know she could have gone back on the air with any look she chose.

Its always so great to hear your enthusiasm when you talk about your two young kids. Those moments that you are experiencing now are worth their weight in gold.

Sherry, what can I say ... YOU GO GAL !!! Hoping that something works out to have a great get-together with your friend.

D1, wow ... voting already ... come on ... you havn't heard the last debate !!!!!!

You know I'm with you on the Mamo bit, I will do it once my port is out, but unfortunately I don't have a real big warm and fuzzy about them. Here I thought this dense breast thing was a good thing !!! So from what I'm reading your not waiting 6 months for an MRI, your having it done next month ??? You've still got to be happy getting a negative squish result.

I will be adding "dolt" to my new list of favorite words, right behind "nosh" (Sis Kimberly's addition to Carol's vocab list).

Speaking of Sis Kimberly, I received a call from her tonight, she had some news on her sister that hopefully she will have some time in the next day or two to share. Its always nice to hear her voice, she is truly a great lady.

Maz, great news on your test as well. I'm glad that you still think to pop in to see what this great group of ladies are up to. Life definitely does not stop or pause for any of us, we kinda just plug along with the ups and downs of everyday life. I have found it kinda cool to actually pay attention to something that is happening in so many other parts of the country that in the past I would have blown off. Yes, it is a small world!

Therese, yikes on your visitor! You know the thought has crossed my mind about the same thing happening to me. My luck I will not be in the most convenient place ! With your story said, I think I will be asking about testing the ol' hormone levels again in the near future. My onc seemed to think that there was no way I way going to be coming out of menopause, but being 45 yrs I still have my doubts with his thinking. I'll actually take the hot flashes over a visit from Aunt Flo anyday !!!

LJ, hey just got to thinking, I don't think I sent a copy of the pics to you, if your interested I'd be happy to fire off a copy.

Nope on the case manager ... I have been fortunate to use a referral coordinator to answer quite a few of my insurance issues when trying to get care from somebody outside of Group Health.

Cathy, its hard to believe that colleges are already on Fall break. So a job interview, I have probably missed something at some point in time, but refresh my memory, where are you looking to work?

Carla ... it was awesome to see your interview on tv. You look great gal, and your comments we're perfect. You will be helping out many others with your service. I'm glad that you did not forget about your on-line support of the gals here. Looking forward to hearing from you again soon .

Kris, yep, you said it like it was at the time !!! I actually loved your quote as it hit very close to home with me !!! The guys at work and I still laugh over my "potty" problems for about a 6 month timeframe !!!

Hope your cold is snuffed out soon, I had myself a snoot full about a couple weeks ago, seems kinda strange looking back at last year, but I had nothing, not even a runny nose once I started chemo. Something to be said about nothing surviving those chemo drugs.

Paula, our energizer bunny sounds a little worn out with work. I can only hope that things will mellow out a bit as the year progresses for you. You know we have what (4) teachers, and I think atleast (3) of you are starting off with a rather stressful year. Sounds to me that the substitute gig is a PITA for you teachers !!!

LOL, muffins with STUD boxers ... so much like something my ds would like !!!

Steph is still making it into work although for how much longer I do not know. Most days he is only in for about 4 hours and then heads home. He has shared some pretty personal moments with me, its getting harder and harder to stay stoic when he talks to me. I just want to hug him and cry, but thus far I have only lost in once. He on the outside still seems in pretty good spirits.

YIKES .... The dh is home and I havn't even started dinner ... GTG ...

Carol

SISKimberly · October 2008

Hey,

NO time to do shout outs. I've read all the posts, but don't have the energy to post. I will get back this weekend, I promise. Lots going on.

My twinsis does have cancer...exactly the same kind in the right breast (mine was the left). I'm just in shock. I so didn't want to hear this news. Her doc said we shouldn't be suprised. We're twins and she had a much greater risk than other women of getting it especially with my Dad having had it. Yeah, but that doesn't make it any easier to swallow. Thanks Carol for being such a great ear tonight.

A quick answer for LJ13- I had a nurse case manager so to speak. I have Blue Shield. She wasn't working for Blue Shield per se, but her company was hired to be a mediary between myself and my insurance if needed. She was invaluable as I went through treatment as she answered questions and checked on things regarding covereage for me. She checked in with her supervisor, a doctor, who reviewed cases based on information gathered during the weekly conversation. She sent me articles if I wanted her to do that. I'm just wondering why you have a case manager after the fact?

Love you gals. Thanks for all the best wishes for my twinsis. I told here we were all sending out good thoughts...and who knows, those good thoughts may have been what helped her get the news so quickly after the biopsy, so she can get this taken care of quickly.

SIS Kimberly

chj127 · October 2008

Hey - I'm still mostly AWOL, but had to check in to tell Carol THANKS for the pictures! What a great montage and a good looking bunch of women. I'm honored to be part of it, even if I'm not so regular here anymore.

Life here is pretty good, and getting back to normal. The hair is getting longer (maybe 1.5"?) and I'm feeling a lot better. Of course it's friggin' breast cancer awareness month, which always makes me crazy - especially since both of my dx's were in October. I'm surrounded by pink reminders of it all. But it also means I'm approaching the 1 year anniversary of my latest dx, and the 14 year anniversary of the first one. We're all survivors, first and foremost!! So hooray for us!

CHJ

texrn · October 2008

Kimberly - there is definitely some good thoughts & prayers coming your twinsis' way from Texas! It's comforting to know she has a sister like you to lean on.

LJ13 - I had a case manager after my mastectomy surgery - she called twice over a period of about a month. When she realized I was on the 'right' track, heading towards chemo tx, she signed off. Actually, I didn't feel she was really into her job because her phone calls felt like a waste of time, for both of us.

Carol - I had a strong feeling my 'monthly visitor' was coming because my hot flashes stopped abruptly back in June. My onc had told me that at 46 I had a 50-50 chance of remaining in permanent menopause. With me being triple neg. he wasn't overly concerned with what side of the 50-50 split I ended up on. Oh well - I see my gyn next month for my annual check up...

Paula - sounds like you're busy, busy, busy...How is your dh doing? You both are in my thoughts & prayers.

Like others have mentioned - I read the posts often, it's just finding the time & energy to thoughtfully respond & interact with the group. You all are so chatty & at the same time, articulate, that it's hard to keep up, especially when one skips more than a few days at reading the posts.

With that said, I must be off to run some errands.....

Therese

Anonymous · October 2008

Kimberly, I'm so sorry to hear about your sis. I can't imagine any news you would want to hear less than that.

But for small favors from the universe, you have the experience and wisdom to help her through the challenges ahead. I'm sure this will seal your bond with each other even more.

Please keep us posted on her progress.

Thanks for all the replies to my question about case managers. I guess if we can eventually connect I'll chat with her, but I'm not seeing where this can help me much as I go forward.

CHJ, good to see you. Hope all is going well in the county west of me :-)

Carla, you looked awesome on tv. What is it about WV women? Wasn't Paula on tv too? I'm wondering when it's my turn since I own some land up by Berkeley Springs.

Carol, check your PM inbox.

Determined1 · October 2008

Urgh. I had everything figured out and now I have to change my schedule and go get college girl tomorrow. Don't get me wrong-I'm delighted that she's coming home for her break, but I'm a little put out with dh since he was going to get her and backed out at the last minute (okay, it was work stuff, but my agenda is important to me, too). Guess I won't be around much till next Wednesday, when college girl is back at school.

So, what's up?

Sherry, I see you posted at about the same time I did the other day and I missed you in my shouts. I want to go back to you, though, because you're losing toenails. You may not remember, but I ended up losing 8 of my toenails. All the small toes are grown in, now (I lost them end of June, early July). The only ones still working on it are the big toes. The healthy nail is about 2/3 of my nail bed now and each nail ends in a humpy nail-like thing that looks like it's eventually going to come off, too. This humpy part was nail underneath the nail that popped off. None of it has been painful (although I still have some neuropathy on the exposed/tip of my big toes). I've been using a polish that pretty much matches my skin, so no one's attention is drawn to my toenails. Yep, FU taxotere!

Hey Maz, glad you made it through your trip to FL. Losing a parent really sucks, but your silver lining seems to be a new relationship with your dad's wife. Do your best to enjoy her and the memories she has of your father. And I wish for you a much better year-one filled with positives! (The tumor markers are certainly a good start.)

Are you kidding, Therese? You got your period back for your birthday???? Hmmm. Not sure I'd be as upbeat about it as you are...

LJ-I TRIED to get a case manager a while back. It was confusing to keep track of all the crap that was out of plan (it still is-all my compression shit is not covered). Not sure why they're contacting you now, maybe they're slow (ya think???).

Oh, there's CathyCA piling on to the "they're just running a tad behind" theory.

CARLA!!!! How great to hear from you! It's been too long. You looked and sounded FABO on the news. I'd be such a nervous wreck if I did something like that. WTG!

Kris-there is nothing common about you, girlfriend. Take care of your cold. (I remember hanging on every word when we were describing our bowels-we've come a long way!)

OMG, Paula, I am totally LOL (no, more like a cackle) over the stud muffin boxers. How funny is that???! And then, you say all Julie wants for Xmas is her two front nips-you are ROLLING, girl!

Kimberly. Oh no. I don't even know what to say.

I'm sorry, guys. I don't feel much like posting now. I'll be back.

D1

RN2teach · October 2008

Oh, Kimberly, what a bitter pill to swallow as you mark your cancerversary.... Like the others have said, you will be an invaluable source of support and information to your twin as she begins her journey. Both of you will be in my thoughts. Keep us posted....

deb102307 · October 2008

Ok, I am way behind and it has been way too long since I checked in with y'all.

Getting back to a "normal" life seems to be taking up more time than I remember. My plan is to read, take notes and give some shout outs this evening. Right now, I have a little break at work and wanted to quit putting off jumping in.

Paula, thanks for thinking of me. I think I have seen where you have wondered about me and others a few times. This website has truly been where the best "Angels" congregate.

Our Race for the Cure is this Saturday. I am staying at a nice hotel right at the foot of where the race starts so can spend the weekend in the midst of a great crowd. There should be about 45,000 or more.

Catch ya later!

Deb

deb102307 · October 2008

Ok, did I scare everybody off?

I did read some of the posts and am working my way back through so I can contribute again.

I am also wearing a "In Celebration of" sign with the January Jewels on it at the race tomorrow. Turns out I will be volunteering instead of walking and that is fine with me.

Hope everyone has a great day and weekend.

Kimberly - I am so sorry to read about your sis. At least she has you as a beacon to lead her through this. You have been such a rock solid base to all of us here. (((HUGS))) to you and your sister. Prayers too.

wvgirl · October 2008

Kimberly,

I am sorry to her about your twinsis. My heart goes out to the both of you. You are in my prayers. I know you will be her rock

Will be back to everyone soon. Just peeking in at work for a minute...Take care

Paula check your pm

Carla

JulieK_11_30_07 · October 2008

Hi Jewels - I survived Homecoming week, but don't have much time for a long post tonight - hopefully later this weekend.

Kimberly - I read your post right before I left work this afternoon and haven't stopped thinking about you and your sister since. I'm so sorry. Like so many others have already said, she's so lucky to have you to guide her through. You are both in my thoughts and prayers - please tell her she's got lots of positive vibes being sent her way.

I'm so happy to see some posts from some of our missing Jewels!! Maz, Carla, CHJ, and Deb - SO great to hear from you. Sounds like you're all doing well.

As always, thinking of all of the Jewels! I'll try to be back soon.

Julie

OH - the consult with the endoscopy doc didn't happen this week - she got stuck in surgery and had to reschedule. Now I won't get in until the end of October!

RN2teach · October 2008

Looks like I'm the only Jewel at home this weekend... hope you all are doing something fun!

I've been here at the 'puter most of the day. Just finished getting the sub lesson plans in order for next week. Also got the laundry caught up (whew!) and ran out to restock the pantry. Wasn't the most exciting Saturday, but I'm feeling quite satisfied at the moment, knowing I'm ready for next week.

I did take time to enjoy a beautiful fall day. I live "up a holler" with hills surrounding my house. This morning I sat on the deck, basking in the autumn sun and admiring the trees in their autumn finery, backlit by a perfect azure sky.... beautiful! I thought of you all then and wished you were here to see it.

Kimberly and Kathleen, I sent positive vibes your way this morning as I communed with nature. You're both in my thoughts and prayers.

Thought of Patty and her sister, so I sent up a prayer for them as well.

And for Jenn-- hope the sun is shining on your world!

Deb1023- thanks for checking in. I knew you were probably just busy with life (as it should be!), but it is always good to hear from you! Love your pup icon!

CHJ- hey there, Carol! Glad to see you're doing well. LOL at the friggin' BC awareness comment. I guess all the pinkness of October does bring back all the painful memories of the BC journey... Three cheers to being a survivor!

Julie- so the consult won't happen until late Oct., which means no endoscopy until November? How are things in that area? Any further symptoms?

Carla- got your PM. Will let you know when we get the visit scheduled. Were supposed to go up this Monday, but I had to cancel as I'm getting my port out.

D1- Hope you're having a good weekend with the girls!

Have a great weekend, Jewels,

Paula

Jan 2008--Ain't it Great?

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