Get over it? (more EE words of wisdom)

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Anonymous
Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer

Anyone who watched GMA this morning heard the radio broadcast of an interview with Elizabeth Edwards. It was the first time that she has spoken publicly since the public disclosure of her husband's extramarital affair. She talked about how recovery from all tragedies in life take time and are always an ongoing process and that she is still processing recent events, but can go forward. Then she talked about how people always asked if one is over a crisis, as if they expected her to be completely done with whatever it is (she referenced her son Wade's death in '96 as an example of something she will not "get over" until the day she dies). Anyway, the metaphor she used was just perfect and I thought that I'd share it here, especially for those of you who have family, friends or coworkers who encourage you to "get over it" when it comes to your cancer experience. Liz said (are ya ready?)...."It's like when someone loses a leg in an accident and someone asks 'are you over that leg thing yet?'"

Okay, I thought that was completely PRICELESS and I'm sure that Liz won't mind if anyone quotes her on it!

~Marin

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  • candie1971
    candie1971 Member Posts: 4,820
    edited September 2008

    Marin,

    Thanks for posting this. I din't get to see it this morning..ehat a line! I love it!!!

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  • Dejaboo
    Dejaboo Member Posts: 2,916
    edited September 2008

    yes, thanks for posting that!  I always have GMA on- but missed most of it today.

    That is a very good comback!

    Pam

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  • nosurrender
    nosurrender Member Posts: 2,019
    edited September 2008

    Thanks MahaFitChick...

    I really liked that one!

    love ya

    g

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  • LuAnnH
    LuAnnH Member Posts: 8,847
    edited September 2008

    I am just disappointed she doesn't use her status with the media to let out the message of Stage IV.  She can advocate to let people know breast cancer is not all pink and pretty and she never does that.  Maybe I am just angry right now, but when you have the power to make a difference why not use it?  Especially when it comes to something as important as 40,000 peoples lives per year.

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  • easyquilts
    easyquilts Member Posts: 876
    edited September 2008

    I LOVE GMA, and watch Diane and Robin every morning....What classy women!

    I missed most of the interview, including the remark you quoted....Priceless...That's one I will remember!

    People at church keep asking me how I am, and I know they want to hear "fine", so that's what I give them....Everyone seems to think that once your treatments are over, and you are supposedly cancer free, that you are OK....that your life has returned to "normal"..Does it ever do that???

    Are we ever over "that leg thing"?  Boy, I love that.....Got to remember to use it.

    Sandy

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  • jerseymaria
    jerseymaria Member Posts: 770
    edited September 2008

    perhaps we can "get over it" when they come up with a cure and then "we are over it."

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  • magsandmattsmom
    magsandmattsmom Member Posts: 424
    edited September 2008

    jerseymaria - I agree with you 1000000000000%

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  • Harley44
    Harley44 Member Posts: 5,446
    edited September 2008

    Thanks for posting this, Marin!! 

    That is really so very true!!   What a wise woman!!

    I agree 100%!

    Harley

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  • RIV54
    RIV54 Member Posts: 359
    edited September 2008

    That was true wisdom.

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  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited September 2008

    How very well said! 

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  • gsg
    gsg Member Posts: 3,386
    edited September 2008

    She's the best!  And always has a way of telling it like it is.  Thanks for the post, Marin.  Excellent!

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited September 2008

    <<"get over it" when it comes to your cancer experience. Liz said (are ya ready?)...."It's like when someone loses a leg in an accident and someone asks 'are you over that leg thing yet?'">>

    priceless...

    thank you for sharing that. one amazing sister,

    elizabeth edwards is.

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  • cmb35
    cmb35 Member Posts: 1,106
    edited September 2008

    Thanks Marin, great quote.

    My response to an acquaintance, who asked me, in a rather annoyed tone, when I was going to "get over" my mom dying, approx 3 months when she died, quite suddenly, and quite young:

    "When she comes walking back through that door, that's when I'll get over it." I left out the "you stupid insensitive bee-yotch" part, that was hopefully implied. :-)

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  • farila_1966
    farila_1966 Member Posts: 224
    edited September 2008

    It is not easy to get over it.. I agree. I don't consider it impossible because I have come across few ladies who have mentioned to me that they have totally got over the cancer experience. I have not.. Frown. I have not been able to get over my sisters loss (to BC), my Mom's loss (BC again) and my own suffering of BC. But I am trying to get there and looking for help

    Thanks for posting it.. Good quote

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  • BernadetteD
    BernadetteD Member Posts: 13
    edited September 2008

     I too was struck by her responses. I find since I ended my treatments in the spring I too take more time to process things, not reacting so quickly to things but giving time to process. This is especially true with my grown daughters and close friends. I know things could change quickly and I could be gone and don't have forever; not that I ever did. Somehow when I say things I am aware that there might not be time to reconsider, do it differently. So I am more careful and compassionate, listen more, I am also less decisive and sometimes that doesn't work.

    My life is lived much more in the present with fewer expectations for the future. Some of this makes things easier. Yet, my ambition is gone. I don't set goals and have a vision of the future.

    I know I cannot fix things forever and a lot is out of my control so there is less sense of knowing the answers and more of wondering. As a leader in an organization this has mixed results. Yet, it is my reality. I understand the need to process and take time.

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